You're in a relationship with someone.

You've been dating this person for months now and you really enjoy being with them. Just as things are about to get serious, the person you've been dating has a confession to make. Turns out they're actually a post-op transvestite. What do you do?

Seriously though get your terms right. Transvestite wears clothes of the opposite sex. You're referring to a transexual. You have to decide if it bothers you that the correct parts weren't there from the start. 

I'd feel lied too and feel this person abused my trust so that would definitely infuriate me and not the actual being post-op transgender part.

Run for the hills.

Run for the hills.

Pirate700

I honestly wouldn't care.  If I'm in a relationship with this person, I would love her for who she is, not who she was.

InEMplease

I'd feel lied too and feel this person abused my trust so that would definitely infuriate me and not the actual being post-op transgender part.

Aljosa23

Dating for months and now I am finding out they have "other parts"? Unlikely. If there is no intercourse withing two weeks, I go for someone elese. Unless that person is the most special person I have met. 

Run for the hills.

Pirate700

Break it off. chrisrooR

[QUOTE="chrisrooR"]Break it off. jaycouvera

Sorry, I want kids.

I believe you're a great person but I want to have my own kids.

[QUOTE="LZ71"]Trust and honesty are very important to me in relationships, so yeah, I'd have a big problem if they lied to me for all that time. InEMplease

Ask yourself, would you have tried to pursue a relationship if they let you know the day you met them that they were a post-op transsexual?  Think of it as a case of trust, rather than deceit.

You've been dating this person for months now and you really enjoy being with them. Just as things are about to get serious, the person you've been dating has a confession to make. Turns out they're actually a post-op transvestite. What do you do?

nekrothing

Lol...........

You've known them for months,and NOW u found out they are that?

*shakes head*

I guess I'd be thankful they did tell me before it was serious. I'm not sure if I could get over it or not.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

Run for the hills.

KiIIyou

You mean that all this time I would have been putting my mushroom tip inside of another, rearranged mushroom tip? Murder, or severe assault and battery at the very least.

[QUOTE="nekrothing"]

You've been dating this person for months now and you really enjoy being with them. Just as things are about to get serious, the person you've been dating has a confession to make. Turns out they're actually a post-op transvestite. What do you do?

GreekGameManiac

Lol...........

You've known them for months,and NOW u found out they are that?

*shakes head*

Then again, they might as well tell them because if they can't accept that then forget them.MistressMinako

[QUOTE="MistressMinako"]Then again, they might as well tell them because if they can't accept that then forget them.ghoklebutter

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"]

[QUOTE="MistressMinako"]Then again, they might as well tell them because if they can't accept that then forget them.MistressMinako

Abuse of trans* people is sadly quite common. So is breaking up (especially when one partner (usually cis) finds out about the other's trans* status). IIRC, about 1 in 2 trans* people who come out to their partners end up losing relationships with those partners. I don't have any problems with cis people who don't want to stay in such relationships, though. It's their right.

And it's sad to hear that he's not being accepted by his family. =[ That's another reason many of us trans* folks are reluctant about coming out to partners - if we come out to partners, then the news may spread and reach family members who aren't so kind (especially if the partners are vengeful in some way). I myself fear how intense and hateful my religious family's reaction will be when they find out.

Followed by finding the nearest toilet to puke in. That relationship is pretty much done from that point on...

Wow that is pretty much my worst nightmare relationship wise. I honestly have no idea how I'd react, Although I'm hoping I would be able to distinguish actual chicks from dudes who wish they were chicks before it ever got to that point.

I'd like to pretend that I'm enlightened enough that something like this wouldn't bother the hell out of me, but I'd be furious enough that I could lose control of my temper and I might lash out, but I'd probably end up eating a bullet.

At least from what I've seen it's not to hard to spot a fake snatch.

If i hadn't noticed by that point I don't think it matters much. I'd be annoyed that they didn't tell me earlier though since it makes me think they assumed I'm the type of person that would have a problem with that which i'm not.

Probably because it sucks where you live.jaycouvera