I have tough choice........

This is going to sound alittle weird to most people, but I am asking because I am curious on what others would do having this type of a decision in life.
First let me give you some information about me and my life, and I know no cares but I am going to tell anyways. I am 32 and soon to be 33 in mid-December, and I have been a very depressed person and dork/dweeb/geek/nerd(whatever it is called nowadays) and I have lived with my parents my whole life. I do pay rent and I have the freedom to do whatever I want so it is not that bad.
I have being playing all types of video games my whole life, as I went to arcades to play games when I was younger all the time. I have played every console system that has been sold in the USA since Pong in the 1970's, and I still own most of the systems that I have ever owned. I have played video games on PC since 1999, and I have spent alot of money ever year to build my own system and to keep it up to date.
Ever since I bought an Xbox360 over a year ago it has been some of the best video gaming that I have ever played, and I am still waiting for the Limited Collectors Edition of Mass Effect to come in the mail from Best Buy. And of course I can't wait to play it as I have always wanted a space exploration/shooting/RPG game just like Mass Effect. Also because of how great the games are on the Xbox360 I bought a LCD projector that I play my video games on an 80in widescreen screen that I only sit 6 feet away from, so it is like being in a movie theater.
So as you can tell I am a huge video game fanatic. Because of that I have been a very lonely and shy person my whole life, but before someone says it I am not a virgin as I had a girlfriend once when I was 24 and she asked me out and I said YES because I could not believe a girl liked me. So after 6 months after being with her as boyfriend and girlfriend and doing stuff as couples do I broke up with her, because it felt strange and just not normal to me being with someone after I have always been by myself and alone.
So in this past month now since I started a new call center job(which is like the 20th job that I had since I was 16) I meant this girl that I have been really attracted to since the first day I started, and I have never felt this way about a girl. I noticed that she rode her bicycle to work and she was late the first couple of days that we started this job, so being the way I felt about her I did not want her to get fired for being late so I offered to pick her up from her apartment and give her a ride home everyday. Even though she is out of the way I am doing this for her because I realized that I care for her, and I have never cared for a girl before. Her and I have known each other for about a month now and we have talked to each other for hours at a time about each others lives and she has been through a tough marriage that she has been divorced from for about 6 months now. She has said how there was things that her exhusband had did that has bothered her and one of the things is that he was a huge video game fanatic too and most of the time he did not give her any attention as he was always playing video games.
This is just one of the problems/issues that I need to change in order to be with her or not as something further then just being friends. Of course I really like her as I believe I do love her as it was for me anyways love at first site and I have never in my life felt this way about a girl, but I have always really liked to play video games too. Right now I have no idea(well I do) on what to choose, as this could be a life changing thing for me.

if i had to choose, id go with girlfriend, i hate bein alone, it sucks worse then anythin, in an ideal world id get a girl that loved videogames, but sadly ill probly just end up with another liein munipulitive dumb c***, heh... whoa sorry, as you can tell i havent had much luck with the ladies

Wow that's deep! So since you're saying that you've NEVER felt this way about a woman, that means you should go for it. I mean you've been connecting with her for a month now! She's probably expecting you to make a move. Yeah, i know i'm just 15 but i've got experience. So she doesn't like video games huh? Well just try your best to either juggle gaming and spending time with her OR get her into games too.

I say choose the girl, at least for as long as you can make a decision as to whether or not this is what you REALLy WANT.

First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. TheDanwich

Definitely go for the girl. But you don't neccesarily have to give up Video Games completely. Talk to her about it. Cut WAY back on your gaming. Hopefully you can work something outStevie_Q

[QUOTE="TheDanwich"]First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. -DirtySanchez-

Everyone has their own opinion. Quit passing yours on as a fact.

@ TC. Learn how to manage your time. You don't have to give up video games.

[QUOTE="-DirtySanchez-"][QUOTE="TheDanwich"]First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. DarkRider23

Everyone has their own opinion. Quit passing yours on as a fact.

@ TC. Learn how to manage your time. You don't have to give up video games.

well i know some people are going to make fun of you, but in all honesty those people need a life, and i wouldn't do that. i don't think you should give up video games for someone (i've learned giving things up for people isn't worth it in the end) but pay more attention to her than your gaming, and make sure she knows you're going to be there for her and not be like her ex husband. my girlfriends (and friends, for that matter) know that i'm huge into video games, and when my girlfriends at my house or something i definitely pay more attention to her. having someone that loves to play the occasional guitar hero or something though is always, always a plus :)ctfvyrsgurbnorn

Well, I have been with her everyday at work and off of work since the second day of starting this new job, and I have not played any video games since I have meant her because there seems to be no time to play any video games.

i think you should never give somthing up for anyone but yourself. go with youre gut lifes about choices right or wrong i personally think youre over thinking it and worrying about nothing.DarthShinzo

Definately go for the girl, but like someone else said you don't have to completely give up video games you just need to pick one system to play (that includes all the old ones and PC) and limit the amount of games you own and MAKE DAMN SURE you do not play for more then a hour a day, under any conditions, but first in order to do that you will need to stop playing video games completly for a while and sell the other systems you have (unless it is really old and you just want to store it), and then do something nice for her with the money.

I hope this helps you out. >D

Thanks for the responses so far, as they all seem to be samewhat encouraging and helpful to me.

Right now I have no idea(well I do) on what to choose, as this could be a life changing thing for me.

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Ok, well you yourself probably know what the right thing to do is (cough the girl cough), but anyways my personal opinion is:

1. Go for the girl, you will regret it your whole life if you dont. Other people>>>>>>>>>a game on a screen

2. You dont need to give up games, but you also dont need to be a big fanatic that would disregard your girlfriend.

3. Just play games in your spare time, when she is busy or is out somewhere.

4. Once you go out and get to know her more, you wont even want to play games, just to be with her.

5. Seriously if you do choose the games over a girl and continue to just game and thats it in your life. You will never accomplish anything, continue to live with your parents... And be miserable all your life. For your own sake dont make the mistake of choosing the games over the girl.

6. Even if it doesnt work out, its good to get out more, meet ppl, ask more ppl out and socialize.

7. But still remember, you dont have to give up gaming completely, many many people I know love to game and have a serious relationship where they wouldnt never choose the games over their love.

[QUOTE="DarkRider23"]

[QUOTE="-DirtySanchez-"][QUOTE="TheDanwich"]First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. -DirtySanchez-

Everyone has their own opinion. Quit passing yours on as a fact.

@ TC. Learn how to manage your time. You don't have to give up video games.

Geez someones still sore, if you two broke up apparently you weren't meant for each-other and you were probably too busy typing on a video game forum to notice it with your 26k posts, I mean s***. And your bad experience with a girl doesent prove fact, I'm not trying to think I know your situation but it just seems very dumb to say what your saying. Tell your sad fairy tell to people who have been married 30 years or so, love is one of the greatest things in this world if not the greatest.

-Your ignorant opinion on it doesent change that.

Don't have to give up games - in my case i just play when shes out shopping, study or out with her girlfriends.

When im with her thats when the gaming stops. Simple.

"A life you don't live is still lost" J. Rzeznik

"The core of mans' spirit comes from new experiences"

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Take it from someone who has had their life taken away from them numerous times.

I had cancer at age 5 (ALL Leukemia), Suffered numerous ongoing health issues since then, lost my father at age 11 (he was my best friend), health problems have kept me out of school significantly even though i've struggled to stay on par with my peers, and moreover; I had cancer again (Muco-epidermoid-carcinoma) of the parotid gland just last year...needed surgery, chemo, and radiation all over again how fun that was. So now you might know why I post on these boards and love videogames so much....they keep me occupied. Non-the-less, no matter what it is that's keeping you in, you need to go out and "live." Videogames are great and all, but it's nothing compared to what 'life' can offer you. Go for the girl homie, and if it doesn't work, well better to have made a friend to say the least.

oh, go with the girl

and you're not that "weird," we're all posting on internet forums, so call me self-depricating, but we're all nerds anyway...

I look at it this way. When you are lying on your deathbed one day, are you going to want to play super mario one last time, or are you going to want to visit with your friends, wife, and children. I know I pick the second group. I love playing video games, but they do not enrich life like the love between a man and a woman. Don't giv eup your games, but make sure they are not ahed of love on your priority list.

Good luck with this girl!

[QUOTE="TheDanwich"]First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. -DirtySanchez-

ever play mass effect thats true love

Video games are obviously what your passionate about, stick with them. It took a lot of balls to admit you still live with your folks at 32, high five on that. Women cause issues...always wanting you to change for "us".

Stick with your passion, and if you feel lonely, buy a RealDoll/CandyGirl. I'd go with a CandyGirl myself:twisted:

moderation is the key to life......................

why not do both try adn balance so your not giving up any part of yourself...except maybe a game addiction that seems to be serverly effecting your personal life (that means its a problem). So maybe, let her know that you like her, and that you have a problem with playing alot of games that you want her to help you cut back. Show her that you are better than her ex, in the fact, that you would never put the games before her. And over time, you will be able to play and balance a social life and be happier for it.

[QUOTE="-DirtySanchez-"][QUOTE="DarkRider23"]

[QUOTE="-DirtySanchez-"][QUOTE="TheDanwich"]First of all write something that long in a Blog post, 2nd, if your in love with a girl video games shouldn't even be a factor in deciding between the two. Video games are not life, love is. Nophorius

Everyone has their own opinion. Quit passing yours on as a fact.

@ TC. Learn how to manage your time. You don't have to give up video games.

Geez someones still sore, if you two broke up apparently you weren't meant for each-other and you were probably too busy typing on a video game forum to notice it with your 26k posts, I mean s***. And your bad experience with a girl doesent prove fact, I'm not trying to think I know your situation but it just seems very dumb to say what your saying. Tell your sad fairy tell to people who have been married 30 years or so, love is one of the greatest things in this world if not the greatest.

-Your ignorant opinion on it doesent change that.

why ask??

games are nothing compared to people - especially a girl you might love.

I'm only 14 and I never miss out on social crap to play games. Much rather go out than sit in and play halo 3 all night