It may sound like (well actually it is :?) an oxymoron to ask for a kid-friendly shooter, but wouldn't it be a great idea to have a nurf-enabled game where you run around shooting each other with foam rockets, super soakers, and slime pellets?
I think it would be fun and it takes away most of the violence factor. Here's a list of some fairly kid-friendly games:
Greg Hastings' Tournament Paintball™ (Rated Teen)
Rallisport Challenge 2
ESPN NFL 2K5
Madden NFL 2005
Tiger Woods 2005
FIFA Soccer 2005
Burnout 3: Takedown
Crimson Skies™: High Road to Revenge™
NBA Live 2005
Top Spin
Need for Speed™ Underground 2 (Rated E)
Pro Evolution Soccer 4 (soccer)
Project Gotham Racing 2