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Advice: Blind Dates

Shy people take note: A Geek to Chic Tangential

It amazes me how many people either refuse to go on blind dates or who are scared out of their wits by the thought. Always go on blind dates! If someone wants to set you up with someone, go for it. If your mom knows a nice boy or girl, take her out. Make them both happy. If you are a girl, do the same as the aforementioned but reverse the sexes (Unless you are gay then do not reverse them!).

On a blind date you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Blind Date Success
I met my wife on a blind date. I was out at a bar in college and very, very inebriated when I (apparently) ran into her roommates. I awoke the next day with a name and number in my pocket and made the call, figuring I had nothing to lose (except the girl I was already dating at the time). In the end, I met a great woman I eventually went on to marry.

Blind Date Failure
Everyone wants to hear about the failed dates. Well, I met a girl that was pretty looking nice once through a fraternity brother, but she ended up being aloof and pretentious. We had no common interests. After a tasty dinner and several awkward silences, we said adieu and never spoke again. I cannot even recall a name.

What to Do
Call and set up your date. Skip email, which is too impersonal to start a relationship. Go to dinner, since it allows you to talk; this way you can find out if he or she chews with their mouth open. Afterwards, do something active together, rather than a movie. A movie is a long period of silence next to each other. You can do that with anyone. If you do something active, you are more likely to be remembered. Bowling, pool, mini-golf (at night!), or anything else that is more physical will be more memorable. If the dinner went bad, cut your losses and end the night early, thanking him or her for giving you a shot. And that is all I have to offer on the dating front itself.

Consolation Prizes
The worst that happens is your blind date is a horse, you have no chemistry, or the date goes awry. Nobody is going to die. At least going on a blind date has the potential to get you somewhere. Not only that, you will always get a story to tell your friends and family, no matter how it goes (*Edit* See U1's comment below for a great example).

So all you shy people out there, saddle up and squeeze some enjoyment out of life by taking a risk without any downsides, should the opportunity arise!