I think that's a load of horse ****.
I have an extremely "nice guy" boyfriend and the only one of those that applies to him is the self esteem thing, and that comes from people treating him like garbage his whole life. I don't think any of those ring true for me either, I don't think any of the statements that they say women think. I'll just respond to each section I guess?
1. Why can't you be real and nice at the same time?
2. I respect a man who respects me. There's a large difference between doormat and asshat, and the in-between is what most guys are.
3. Nice guys are the least predictable. A "bad boy" might take you for a ride on his motorcycle, but a "nice guy" will make you your favorite dinner and surprise you with it after a crap day at work.
4. I nurture nice guys. Who wants to nurture somebody who thinks he's tough as tough gets and is too man to need help from anybody? Blech.
5. Women like this have a problem. I don't need to fix somebody else, wtf is this?
6. We'll see. All I know is I'm gonna have cute babies, and if they turn out to be as sweet as their dad, bonus.
7. Or..... he'll just have sex with her and never call her again, because another term for "bad boy" is "selfish jerk".
8. Nice guys sometimes have bad self esteems, and nice girls sometimes have bad self esteems. I'd rather be treated well though, rather than have my faults reinforced. I have a much better self esteem now than I did four years ago, and I can credit that to having a "nice guy" boyfriend who will pick me up when I'm down.
9. Not getting too graphic here, but that's completely false. I have only had sex with one person so I can't reeeeeally compare, but I know I'd never have it any other way. What do you really want, somebody who cares about your needs, or somebody who wants to get themselves off, have a smoke, and leave? I know though, from listening to friends, they all prefer nice guys. Nice guys can "manhandle" and be rough and stuff. Sometimes it takes them a while to get comfortable enough to do it because they're scared of hurting you or making you feel like a one-off whore, which I think is very sweet. It's really worth waiting a few tries for it to get good (if you're into the manhandling thing) because once they know where boundaries are and are comfortable, I don't think any "bad boy" could compare to that. TL;DR, nice guys ftw.
10. Yes, I have. In fact, most of them aren't hot to me. Literally the only stereotypical 'bad boy' I can think of who I would ever consider to be attractive would be (and I will get in trouble for this later) Dean Winchester, but the only reason that is, is because he's a nice guy with a bad boy outside. He looks like nothing phases him, but he cries, he cares about his brother, and he dropped everything to father a kid who wasn't even his. The 'bad' guys SMART girls like are the ones who are bad on the outside and soft as butter on the inside.
11. So you can get charmed into doing what, exactly? Having sex? Woohoo, what a quality to have. Being adorable makes me swoon far more than being charming ever would.
12. My nice guy boyfriend is 6'-something and almost 200 lbs. He's not even done getting ripped yet, he's just starting. I knew from day 1 when he was 5'4 and 120 lbs that he could and would fight to the death for me if it was really necessary, I have never questioned this.
That's just all my 2 cents though. I associate "bad boy" with the kind of guy who suckers you in with being suave, and then ****s and chucks you. Attractive on the outside, but a steaming pile of crap on the inside.
XilePrincess
Now that's a real woman's opinion who doesn't have 'guy issues'. Hats off to you, miss. 
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