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[QUOTE="rawsavon"] What will you do if she changes her mind later on and wants to drink? -say after 4 years togetherrawsavon

In 4 years i won't care because I will be off age and it won't be a problem with me. Its when kids my age do that bothers me. I'm not gonna be that guy who doesn't ever go to parties or drink but I'm not gonna be the party animal either. At this point in my life i have no need to drink and i don't need people in my life who want to convince me to do otherwise. I'm very laid back and trusting when it comes to girls and I figure that when I find the "right" one i won't have to worry about stuff like cheating and whatever else. To answer your question though, say after a year of dating a girl, If i found out that she had betrayed my trust like that then i'd be upset. I'd probably talk to her about the decision and tell her that I'm not comfortable with her doing it and if she doesn't want to then whatever, its not like I'm gonna marry the girl.

It seems as though he just needs to have more experience with women before he'll understand how to react and what is normal and what isn't.

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[QUOTE="gotdangit"]Speak to my parents about what? That I'm strongly against drugs, smoking and alcohol? Or that I get jealous easily.

Listen, this girl, She's Christian she doesn't believe in having sex before marriage, she believes doing anything sexual is bad, I thought she thought drugs, alcohol and smoking were bad, and I guess she only believes 2 of those 3 things are bad.

She said she regretted it and it was peer pressure that got her to do it, but she still lied, andshe still did it. Why do you hate me so much, please just leave.

gotdangit

If she honestly regrets it and you know she's a good girl then give her a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance.

Well obviously talk to her but there's really nothing to think about. If she did something wrong, apologized, and regrets it then why wouldn't you just get over it and see what happens? If she does it again and it troubles you so deeply then yes, you can seriously think about ending it.

[QUOTE="swizz-the-gamer"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]All she said was nevermind and I said tell me then she did.

Why are you still here just to make fun of me and tell me everything I don't want to hear.

gotdangit

Listen, this girl, She's Christian she doesn't believe in having sex before marriage, she believes doing anything sexual is bad, I thought she thought drugs, alcohol and smoking were bad, and I guess she only believes 2 of those 3 things are bad.

She said she regretted it and it was peer pressure that got her to do it, but she still lied, andshe still did it. Why do you hate me so much, please just leave.

If she honestly regrets it and you know she's a good girl then give her a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance.

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[QUOTE="rawsavon"] Both of you are wrong...you cannot expect a person not to do things just because you do not want them too. You cannot draw a line in the sand on every issue (drink, smoke, dance, party, do this, don't do that) -of course there are major issues that you have to put your foot down on (cheating) But you have to let people live their lives and enjoy itrawsavon

Uhm, actually, i look for girls who feel the same way that I do and because I don't like some things that other people doesn't make me controlling when i say nothing about it. I avoid girls that do things i don't like and find the girls who have my same values. I have plenty of close friends that drink and smoke and do whatever and i couldn't really care less, but when it comes to someone i'm supposed to be the closest with, and the person who i'm supposed to love i'd like to have some things in common, like the most basic things, our values. I don't know who made you the king of relationship advice but why don't you actually talk to someone before you make assumptions.

In 4 years i won't care because I will be off age and it won't be a problem with me. Its when kids my age do that bothers me. I'm not gonna be that guy who doesn't ever go to parties or drink but I'm not gonna be the party animal either. At this point in my life i have no need to drink and i don't need people in my life who want to convince me to do otherwise. I'm very laid back and trusting when it comes to girls and I figure that when I find the "right" one i won't have to worry about stuff like cheating and whatever else. To answer your question though, say after a year of dating a girl, If i found out that she had betrayed my trust like that then i'd be upset. I'd probably talk to her about the decision and tell her that I'm not comfortable with her doing it and if she doesn't want to then whatever, its not like I'm gonna marry the girl.

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[QUOTE="Jph625"]

I don't date girls that smoke/drink/do things like that and i understand why it would upset you. also, why is everyone being so mean to the kid, he's obviously more angry that she promised multiple times that nothing had happened when it had, and probably that he thought she was better then to go and smoke whatever at a party. Also, if someone lies so boldly to you how can you trust them, obviously he has reasons not to trust the girl if she adamantly denied doing the things that she did. However, the whole photo thing isn't really a big deal. I have a lot of friends who are girls that i hug and put my arm around all the time and stuff like that where there's no sexual implications, its just in a friendly way.

rawsavon

Uhm, actually, i look for girls who feel the same way that I do and because I don't like some things that other people doesn't make me controlling when i say nothing about it. I avoid girls that do things i don't like and find the girls who have my same values. I have plenty of close friends that drink and smoke and do whatever and i couldn't really care less, but when it comes to someone i'm supposed to be the closest with, and the person who i'm supposed to love i'd like to have some things in common, like the most basic things, our values. I don't know who made you the king of relationship advice but why don't you actually talk to someone before you make assumptions.

I don't date girls that smoke/drink/do things like that and i understand why it would upset you. also, why is everyone being so mean to the kid, he's obviously more angry that she promised multiple times that nothing had happened when it had, and probably that he thought she was better then to go and smoke whatever at a party. Also, if someone lies so boldly to you how can you trust them, obviously he has reasons not to trust the girl if she adamantly denied doing the things that she did. However, the whole photo thing isn't really a big deal. I have a lot of friends who are girls that i hug and put my arm around all the time and stuff like that where there's no sexual implications, its just in a friendly way.

/INb4 flames

500 days of summer, IMO, was terrible and depressing.

Eat good food instead of fast food poo

Joke topic is joke

Someone made another pointless OT thread?