Hell. I know I'm a geek! The best thing to do is use it to your advantage. The only problem with me is women. Not because they aren't interested but I have no clue. I returned to the town I graduated high school from. A lot of graduates there don't leave the place where they grew up since it's in one of the smallest counties in VA, plus family is very big. There was this girl I use to stare at in high school as if I were stalking her in biology. She was amazing; a short brunette, smooth, and kind.
When I flew into Dulles, VA we stopped in Manassas(a hour away from where I graduated) on the way up to the mountains. It was my birthday and the guys treated me to Hooters. There she was, the crush I had in my junior year. She was still fine, and immediately we started playing the staring game all over again. I ended up writing a blog about it awhile ago and she responded to it saying that I should've said something. So she was saying that I had a chance? Stupid me!
What do other brotha's have that I don't? Smooth talk. If it happens then it's totally on accident. A black guy could hit on your girl in front of you; that's balls. If I was that confident I could be that black guy; then again I'm not like that. There is one thing I do have on my side, dancing. Moving to South Carolina the atmosphere is different at night because you have a lot of hole-in-the-walls, and very little dance clubs in Charleston, SC. If you're a social drinker, or a drunk then these places are for you. Not for me. Yet, I'm always talked into going out at night. There are a lot of nice bars downtown though.
What's funny is that today you see more women dancing together then actual men trying to jump into the fray. So how do you do it? You just jump in! Believe me, you won't feel embarrassed especially if you have a few drinks in you. Check it, my sister's boyfriend has this dance called the horse. If he can score a girl like her with the horse(and playing FFXI), then anyone can dance.
In Charleston the Black clubs are near Ashely Phosphate Rd. and any club there is pretty much a no go since people like to carry weapons(besides I'm not into Southern crunk, rather then hip-hop). But when you go downtown the atmosphere is lively. Plus if you're a single guy like myself, and much more open with your choices there are more opportunities. So I start off dancing with a friend and then you transition to women you don't know(like it's an accident).
But honestly those places aren't the best locations to meet women period; work is even a better option then a club or a bar. But you know what they say about mixing up work and play. With a club or a bar you might have fun with a person, but that doesn't mean he or she's the one(especially in this world today). If you're thinking long term relationships then stay away. I've seen some scandalous things; worst then UNO Live with a Xbox 360 camera.
There was only one moment where I was out with my friends at night and someone really caught my interest. I was trying to get into a bar my gang told me to meet up at. But I was wearing a TMNT shirt and because of that the guy at the door wouldn't let me in. He said that it "matched" with everything else I was wearing but seemed out of place. My response was to his lame Metallica shirt. I guess that humored him and he let me in. Because of that situation I just felt that people were going to continuously rag on my shirt. Meeting up with the guys, they took the time to introduce me to group of girls that had their attention. In the mist of our conversation I ended up joking on a pal of mine and his WoW addiction. It wasn't until I heard one of the girls mention that she too played.
Her name was Tyler and she was something else. She had Mary-Jane red hair; what a comparison, eh? But also these thick black framed glasses which made her look intelligent. And when she took em' off I was even more stunned. Even though her figure looked much like every other blonde in the facility. The glasses, and the hair made me melt. She liked my humor(even if it's crude toilet humor). We also had a lot of similar interest from art all the way down to Star Wars(I'm literally laughing right now). By the end of the night she was calling me her Mace Windu, and I was calling Tyler, Mara(in reference to Mara-Jade Skywalker). Maybe it was the drinks that had us goofy? She gave me her number, and I was so excited. Though later that night I decided not to call her because I found out she had a boyfriend. Scandalous I tell you, SCANDALOUS!