we've been living together for a couple of years now. I know she is an outrageous flirt. She does other things too like tell people she is broke so they will buy her xbox live cards and things like that. I keep telling her not to do that, but she does it anyway. She says she isn't asking people to send her things, so if they do that is their problem.

I think I really have to sit down and talk to her about this. I also think I might contact the other guy and talk to him.

when we are together it is great. Nothing has changed. She isn't moving away from me emotionally, she has brought up getting married. We do all kinds of things together and she certainly has not problem letting me buy her things. We both have jobs so we are not together all the time. I think it must just be an attention thing. You know, to see if she can still pull a guy. I am hurt though and while for the most part I think it is just a game she is playing I don't understand why. I mean we live entirely across the country from this guy. I don't think I have any other choice but to talk to her about it and try and see if there is some emotional need I am not meeting somehow. I think I feel bad for the other guy because he only knows what she has been telling him. From the texts I read, she has been telling him a lot of lies. I don't get it. Why are women so hard to understand.

If you found out that your gf was having an internet affair with someone would you dump her? If they hadn't had sex? What about if you read your gfs text messages while she was in the shower and that is how you found out. You also found out she has been telling the other guy that she isn't sleeping in the same room as you or anything anymore, meanwhile it is a lie. Would you just kick her to the curb or would you make sure the other guy knew she had been lying to him too? Would you be mad at the other guy seeing as she has been lying to him to get him to believe the relationship is one way when it isn't?

I just found out on the weekend that my gf has been doing this and I don't know what to do. I had to leave to think, and I don't know how to deal with it. I love her and she always tells me how much she loves me and how she wants us to be together forever so why is she doing this with this other guy?