my girl was flirting and pretty explicit with an old friend via email. I found them. And she doesn't understand why I'm sooo upset. What do you guys think? Men out there: if your girl was telling another man, "...tell me how much you want me?" wouldn't you be pissed? And he too was calling her "ma" and "wify" and he too also said "...I know you want me, when are we going to meet."--what would you think??yeah

For years there's been a rumor floating around that women don't cheat as much as men. If you believe that, have fun looking for Bigfoot and working on your "9/11 was a government conspiracy" manifesto. The truth is, girls are not quite as innocent as we may seem.

Take it from a reformed female philanderer who spent her entire college career betraying one boyfriend after another. Following a karmic post-college decade spent dateless and alone, I cleaned up my act, but not before I learned firsthand the freaky appeal and downsides of illicit hookups. And I'm not alone: These days women are increasingly willing to venture outside their relationships for sex. In fact, in a 2007 MSNBC.com/iVillage survey of more than 70,000 adults, 50 percent—that's men and women—admitted to being unfaithful at some point in their lives.

According to Judy Kuriansky, clinical psychologist and author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to a Healthy Relationship, this uptick in female infidelity makes sense: "We're not dealing with the 'electrician coming to the house' scenario anymore. Women are more financially independent, so they have more opportunities to meet people at work and outside the home." Plus, we're exposed to a 24-hour news cycle that keeps us abreast of rampant cheating by celebrities and politicians—hello, Mr. Edwards!—which makes betraying you seem, if not expected, then at least somewhat normal. Hillary*, 27, who works for a nonprofit, claims to have cheated on every partner she's ever had: "My boyfriend thinks I'm this good girl. Most men just don't assume women are capable of what we're capable of." Not every girl's behavior is this extreme, of course. But it's time you found out exactly what we're doing, why we're doing it, and what could be in it for you.

Why We Stray
Conventional wisdom says men cheat to affirm their virility and satiate their libidos, while women are unfaithful because they crave romance and feel neglected. That may be true occasionally, but women's sexual appetites can be just as strong as yours. So, sometimes, we cheat for the same reason Brett Favre unretires every year: because we can. Says Rebecca, a 32-year-old New York–based editor who betrayed her man on a recent work trip to L.A.: "I never would have done it in New York, but everything feels sort of surreal when you're away from home—like no one's going to know about it."

Unlike guys, many women also use infidelity as a form of revenge. Sara, a 31-year-old bartender, had a one-night fling because she didn't like the way her boyfriend reacted to her attempt to spice up their sex life. "I started taking pole-dancing ****s and got fully waxed, and he told me it was trashy," she recalls. "So I thought, **** him, I'm going to find someone who appreciates this. I invited over my ex. Two bottles of wine and one lap dance later, we were screwing on the couch. Frankly, it felt great. My ex made me feel sexy, not embarrassed."

In fact, if a girl feels really unhappy in a relationship, she may even start an affair as a way out. "My boyfriend kept pressuring me to marry him, and I didn't want to," says Carine, a 27-year-old law student. "The more we fought about it, the more I escalated a flirtation with a ****ate. Finally, late one night, after a round of 'strip-studying,' we had sex on a deserted floor of the school library. When I told my boyfriend, he broke up with me on the spot. I felt guilty but also, truthfully, kind of relieved."

How We Pull It Off
So why haven't you been wise to women's cheating ways before now? For one thing, it's quite possible that we're uniquely suited to it. There are a few decidedly feminine qualities—our intense attention to detail, the way we consider a given situation from every angle—that make us pretty good at the game of deception. "Women are better at covering their tracks than men," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of She Comes First. "They really think about what a suspicious guy would look for."

We also employ many of the same tactics that men have used on us for years, such as the time-honored "accuse you just as you accuse me" approach. When Chelsea, a 28-year-old boutique owner, went to a crowded bar with her boyfriend and "ended up running into" the guy she liked (translation: she knew he'd be there), she took off with her crush for an hour. "He lived upstairs, so we headed to his apartment, taking each other's clothes off in the stairwell on the way up," she says. "It was extra dirty knowing my boyfriend was just two floors away." When she returned to the bar and her boyfriend asked where she'd been, Chelsea turned the tables. "I said, 'I don't know what you're talking about. I've been looking for you everywhere. Where the hell have you been?'"

Of course, we don't fool you every time. Gwen, 30, knew she was busted when her boyfriend spied an enormous scratch she'd gotten during a drunken hookup the night before. "I was ****ing this guy standing up in his bathroom, and I scraped my back against the towel rack," she recalls. Her weak excuse—that there'd been "a whole lot of crap" on top of her bed when she passed out on it—didn't pass muster with her furious (and soon-to-be former) guy.

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God of War III is expected to feature gameplay similar to that of previous installments. Only two weapons have been confirmed so far: the trademark Blades of Athena, and the Cestus, a pair of fist gauntlets shaped like lion heads, that wield devastating strength. These new weapons appear to have the ability to smash through solid objects such as rocks, and sport a maneuvering fighting style similar to boxing. The Golden Fleece appears on Kratos' arm in gameplay trailers, and the Icarus' wings from screenshots, showing that he keeps both from his adventure in God of War II. In a recent screenshot Kratos is seen tearing off the head of the God Helios. In the game his head can be used in a similar fashion to those of Medusa and Euryale from previous games. Although where their powers revolved around stone, Helios's stems from light. Its functions include distracting undead soldiers, and as a lantern in dark areas. Developers have stated that more weapons will be announced and will be more user-friendly than the sub-weapons from previous titles. Combos from previous titles will also make a return as well as new combos yet to be introduced. The number of enemies onscreen has been increased to 50 as opposed to the maximum of 15 in previous God of War installments.[5] Game director Stig Asmussen claimed that the hardware capabilities of the PlayStation 3 would allow more flexibility in creating the characters of God of War III and to allow for further interaction with the environment. On March 26, 2009 a 1-minute Gameplay Trailer was released at the Game Developers Conference. The trailer showed Kratos fighting a group of soldiers briefly and taking control of a cyclops to quickly dispatch of the enemies, and ultimately killing the cyclops after the soldiers die. This has been the first Gameplay trailer released that shows Kratos as the way he would appear when being controlled by the player. At E3 2009, more Gameplay footage was shown live during Sony's press conference. This footage showed the Cestus weapon in action.