I was going to post this in Off-Topic, but you never know what jokers and jerks you'll have to deal with. I'm going to apologize in advance for the lack of detail. It's just to be safe.

Is it considered a date if not twenty minutes or so into a thank-you dinner, she asks you if you plan on having kids and if so, how many?

I'll tell ya, it really caught me off-guard, though I didn't show it. It was a genuine question, just one I wasn't expecting. I didn't go into the evening thinking I was going on a date. And no, the girl's not crazy.