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#1 Jobesky1
Member since 2014 • 25 Posts

You all make good points, but he said him and his girl were _trying_ to have a kid - he's 24 and she's 22 - when neither are in college, both have temp jobs and both live with parents.

Is he just stupid or happy? Both? I can't wrap my head around it, but I know one thing: I wish I was as happy as he (seemingly) is. I so badly want to be happy for other people.

I guess I made this thread to vent - the pregnancy thing was the reason _why_, but I wanted all of your input as to why I'm feeling like this and how I can be happy for others. Off Topic has helped me before, and I feel like a bad person not being happy for him, but I can't help it. It's almost as if I want people to be like me, you know, 'misery loves company' and all that - even though I'm not miserable, I'm a shell of what I was happiness-wise.

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#2 Jobesky1
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@VaguelyTagged said:

this has been my problem for a long time and it still is. i personally believe that the cure to these frustrating thoughts is to rethink your goals and what you want from your life. the tricky part IMO is distinguishing your personal goals from what the ones set for you by the society.

Glad I'm not alone. How'd it start with you and how did you learn to not care so much?

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#3 Jobesky1
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@KiIIyou said:

Youre prolly just thinking too much

Thinking is all I do, even when busy. It's hard not to ponder these things. I've been dealing with **** like this for years. I just want my piece of the pie, you know?

@AutoPilotOn said:

Your only 22 just enjoy life now. It'll come.

You're right, you're right, but can anyone shed light as to why I feel like this? Why I can't be happy for others, even though I wanna be?

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#4 Jobesky1
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It's not even FB, he told me while we were on MW2 today, and I was so dumbfounded, I wanted to say congrats but I was just so shocked.

It's like, I guess I'm jealous, I see no other word for it, but I don't know how to be happy for others. I want to be, but I guess it's one of those things where people say "you can't love someone til you love yourself."

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#5 Jobesky1
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Why is everyone getting married and pregnant so young, and why does it bother me so much?

For example, my friend who's been dating his gf for 5 years, hasn't married her, has a shit part time job and is 24, is having a kid and I feel like shit. I don't know why.

If I had to guess, I'd say it's because I'm severely depressed. I'm being treated for it, and I'm not a virgin, I'm 22, gonna be going to one of the best universities in the US and I'm decent looking. But I just feel like... don't I deserve happiness too?

I feel like a bad person - like I want to feel happy for him, but I can't. He'll be having a kid and a happy gf and a whole new family, meanwhile things for me are the same and I don't know if they'll get better.

The worst part is that this has happened before. I cut contact with people who are happier than me (mainly Facebook shit) because they make me feel worse. Everyone is getting married and having kids and wonderful lives and I'm not. I don't hate them for it, I hate the fact that I'm not happy and everyone else seems to be. Everyone seems to be moving forward and being happy... and people like me and some others aren't. Don't we deserve happiness too?

TL;DR friend is gonna be a dad, feel like shit because people seem happier and I'm not.

And yes, I realize this makes me sound like a shitty person, but I want to be happy for them, but I can't, at least until I'm happy with myself. Thoughts?