[QUOTE="jrsygrl0601"]oh jeez, the world is screwed.[QUOTE="GettingTired"] Why not? Sure they may end bad. Sure they may claim they are in "love" even when they've only gone out with the person for a few weeks, but this teaches about their emotions. By going through this they will be able to separate lust, infatuation, and real love. Would it be better for them to be naive while young, or get to the age of 30 and start claiming they "love" the girl they're going out with after the first date?shoot-first
no not really =\. To be honest people learn through two mediums, experience and observation, at the age of 14 /13, they'd have no exposure to either. But even without experience, after years of seeing a couple of your friends cry their arse off about relationship issues, or failings, one can deduce what they want in one, when they want to actually have intercourse and whatnot (reality might not hit them about pregnancy when a good 20% of their highschool class is pregnant or fathers of a child, having to pay child support or something lol. It may end bad? try with psychological issues with some, trust issues, whatnots, ooo who doesn't want those. I've never seen quite so naive a 30 year old tho..
I'm pretty sure some kids observe their parents / older sibling's relationships. If a kid sees his father beat his mom, I am pretty sure the kid would know that it is not too healthy of a relationship.
I'm sure they don't observe them having sex tho'. So, safety isn't the first thing they think of...and yes, that's kinda what i was refering to when i said they learn through two mediums...observation...but that has nothing to do with the fact that younger kids are more naive and sometimes not smart enough at that age to deduce really...they just go with their hormones . they don't even know of the bonding effect intercourse has on females -_-' i'm going to quote that medical journal when i get back from lunch lmao
[QUOTE="jrsygrl0601"][QUOTE="GettingTired"] Psychological issues? It's better to learn to deal with heartbreak at a young age then later in life. I'm pretty sure if someone spent most of their life alone, and then got into a relationship, once that relationship ends it will crush them a whole lot more than if they were younger.GettingTired
Are you familiar with emotional kids ie...emos not as a style or brand of music, but their ideology / thought patterns when i comes to relationships? Now, think of their numbers as opposed to adult emo numbers ? I don't find many sane adults cutting themselves, because and I quote " the emotional pain is more painful than the physical pain" . Now let's talk, the whole idea of it crushin them more during a break up is absurd and can be placed into equal levels depending on the deepness of the relationship. A 30 year old guy who met a woman 10 weeks ago and gets crushed by her, would take it the same way a 14 year old boy who sees his comrades with girlfriends, meets a girl 10 weeks time, and gets crushed would. Heartbreak hurts all the same at anyage i feel, it doesn't vary in strength by age, as i said, rather by closeness of one with the other person. Ah, psychological, my friend had to get a psychologist at the age of 14 after a relationship issue and i don't think many adults see psychologists over relationship issues unless their schizo and are in a relationship then that'd probably be for the best. Just my opinionit seems Are you seriously using a teenage scene-trend as an argument? You know that fashion trend didn't always exist.... And you're second point is heartbreak doesn't vary by age, and to some extent your right. But your past experiences lead to knowledge, and knowledge can certainly help alleviate it. Point being, someone's who has been in many relationships is probably less likely to be clingy and attached early on. Emo was not originally a music trend nor was it originally a music trend. But yes, i'm using it seeing as it epitomizes the unstableness of pre-teens/teens emotional-wise. Hence, it was the perfect example since it has become such a vast trend encompassing a good number of teens. You need to realize that the term doesn't encompass a musical/fashion style only, those merely came to be as a result of the growing majority of "emo" kids, but i can assure you some entymology of the word describes instability. What knowledge does a 14 year old have about relationships, sex, and whatnot then? How that can they "alleviate it". Knowledge is also gained by observation...I can see a child stick their hand in fire and get burned,i'll associate fire with something bad, i needn't try to touch it. See, you don't have to have loads of relationships to know what's right or wrong as pertaining to it, observation works well enough, until that time you gain experience yourself. You're last point can be agreed with to a certain extent. Is being less clingy and attached beneficial especially as you grow older and when one may finally meet "the one". See, starting earlier may also be detrimental, for one may view relationships as always fleeting, not caring, just going through them until the fire dies, "love" actually loses it's value. The word "love" loses it's strength, but no one considers the future either.
I really dont see the problem with it. I'm 14 and have been dating this girl for about 10 weeks. Were deeply in love and have gone all the way. Whats the problem? It's every seperate persons decision.
Awww that's just precious!
Good for you that you're working on your skills at that age, but don't kid yourself; you two aren't in love or anywhere near it, and you'll quickly find that out if you knock her up (which wouldn't shock me because 14 year olds can't have safe sex to save their lives)
Just remember to wrap it before you tap it ;)
i swear i feel sorry for the girl who isn't even taken into consideration.
[QUOTE="jrsygrl0601"]oh jeez, the world is screwed.[QUOTE="GettingTired"] Why not? Sure they may end bad. Sure they may claim they are in "love" even when they've only gone out with the person for a few weeks, but this teaches about their emotions. By going through this they will be able to separate lust, infatuation, and real love. Would it be better for them to be naive while young, or get to the age of 30 and start claiming they "love" the girl they're going out with after the first date?GettingTired
no not really =\. To be honest people learn through two mediums, experience and observation, at the age of 14 /13, they'd have no exposure to either. But even without experience, after years of seeing a couple of your friends cry their arse off about relationship issues, or failings, one can deduce what they want in one, when they want to actually have intercourse and whatnot (reality might not hit them about pregnancy when a good 20% of their highschool class is pregnant or fathers of a child, having to pay child support or something lol. It may end bad? try with psychological issues with some, trust issues, whatnots, ooo who doesn't want those. I've never seen quite so naive a 30 year old tho.. Psychological issues? It's better to learn to deal with heartbreak at a young age then later in life. I'm pretty sure if someone spent most of their life alone, and then got into a relationship, once that relationship ends it will crush them a whole lot more than if they were younger. Are you familiar with emotional kids ie...emos not as a style or brand of music, but their ideology / thought patterns when i comes to relationships? Now, think of their numbers as opposed to adult emo numbers ? I don't find many sane adults cutting themselves, because and I quote " the emotional pain is more painful than the physical pain" . Now let's talk, the whole idea of it crushin them more during a break up is absurd and can be placed into equal levels depending on the deepness of the relationship. A 30 year old guy who met a woman 10 weeks ago and gets crushed by her, would take it the same way a 14 year old boy who sees his comrades with girlfriends, meets a girl 10 weeks time, and gets crushed would. Heartbreak hurts all the same at anyage i feel, it doesn't vary in strength by age, as i said, rather by closeness of one with the other person. Ah, psychological, my friend had to get a psychologist at the age of 14 after a relationship issue and i don't think many adults see psychologists over relationship issues unless their schizo and are in a relationship then that'd probably be for the best. Just my opinionit seems
oh jeez, the world is screwed.[QUOTE="GettingTired"][QUOTE="mr_poodles123"][QUOTE="TehXenoz"]
I really dont see the problem with it. I'm 14 and have been dating this girl for about 10 weeks. Were deeply in love and have gone all the way. Whats the problem? It's every seperate persons decision.
Exibit A of why this is a bad thing. And, I have NEVER heard of anything good coming out of a realationship beetween anyone under 18. Why not? Sure they may end bad. Sure they may claim they are in "love" even when they've only gone out with the person for a few weeks, but this teaches about their emotions. By going through this they will be able to separate lust, infatuation, and real love. Would it be better for them to be naive while young, or get to the age of 30 and start claiming they "love" the girl they're going out with after the first date? no not really =\. To be honest people learn through two mediums, experience and observation, at the age of 14 /13, they'd have no exposure to either. But even without experience, after years of seeing a couple of your friends cry their arse off about relationship issues, or failings, one can deduce what they want in one, when they want to actually have intercourse and whatnot (reality might not hit them about pregnancy when a good 20% of their highschool class is pregnant or fathers of a child, having to pay child support or something lol. It may end bad? try with psychological issues with some, trust issues, whatnots, ooo who doesn't want those. I've never seen quite so naive a 30 year old tho..
[QUOTE="MarioRPGer"][QUOTE="jrsygrl0601"] you're secret must be that you're a compulsive liar =Oglotvo3d
Well, it's no secret that the best thing about a secret is secretly telling someone your secret, thereby adding another secret to their secret collection of secrets, secretly.
Spongebob
how do you know that? D: D: (don't say it's a secret or else D: )
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