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First of all, I'd like to start by saying I have no idea how long this post will be, and as it could end up being very long, I encourage you to read only what you feel relates to you personally. To make this convenient, I will put each subject into its own titled category.
This is for girls and guys, and there are a few things that are my own opinion and other things that I think one should seriously consider before doing anything stupid. This is aimed almost exclusively to the younger crowd.
You may ask who I am to be giving advice on relationships, and the truth is that I'm nobody. The purpose of this post and my main concern is that too many people are getting into destructive patterns with themselves and everyone else around them over what is usually a situation that can be easily resolved. My other big concern is that people in their youth are taken advantage of because of their naivity. It happens to the best of us, and no matter how prepared or mature we think we are, we really aren't.
#1 "Fish in the Sea":
This one applies to guys and girls, and is in regards to the old saying "There are plenty of fish in the sea". As much of a cliche the phrase has become, there lies a great deal of truth in it. I know there's always the mentality towards a relationship that it's "meant to be", but honestly, you can never know for sure. This applies mostly to young individuals, particularly those in high school who seem to be under the impression that anyone they're involved with now is the person they're meant to be with forever. Do not fall into this trap for a number of reasons. For one, a high school relationship is never really "serious". A serious relationship should be defined as one with the potential for marriage, and no such relationship exists in high school. Another reason to avoid this is the fact that while you're young, you have the right to be wreckless and experiment with various relationships to get a feel of who is right for you, and who is not. I use the term "wreckless" in regards to the fact that you should be dating different people throughout your youth, and that you shouldn't restrict yourself to one and enter the real world with that one person as your only reference point. It's also gravely important to remember that while you're in one relationship that you feel isn't working, you shouldn't feel the need to stay in it; if you do, you're wasting your time and theirs.
#2 Girls, Do Yourself a Favour, Don't Date Older Guys:
Guys, if you have a thing for a younger girl, that's fine, and if you've got a young girl interested in you and you know you're a responsible guy, then go for it. Unfortunately, it's not often the good guys who the younger girls fall for. I've seen it too many times when an older guy takes advantage of a younger girl (note: this applies almost exclusively to high school relationships, but not always). Girls, even if the age difference is only a year, trust me from experience, he knows you're naive, he knows you're in that dreamy state of mind, and he will take advantage of that. If he's got you interested in him, chances are he's got that rebel appeal to him, and he can convince you that anything you do is totally cool and perfectly normal. The best thing to do is not to get in a relationship with him in the first place, because once you're in, there's no getting out until he says so, and it's usually too late (ie. you're pregnant or he's gotten what he wants out of you). He'll invte you to a party, he'll get you to drink or smoke anything he puts in front of you because you trust him and you think he cares about you and while your inhibitions are low, he'll get down to business. There's not much more I can say about this matter, so simply do not date older guys.
#3 Be Weary of Partners Who Cry:
I know it sounds ridiculous, but people who cry on your shoulder are often the people you have to be most careful about. Tears will bring about tons of sympathy from someone, and nothing should ever happen when someone's in this vulnerable state. If the relationship has gone sour, and maybe one person cheats or does something wrong, you should not mistake crying with an epiphamy of one's faults and intentions to resolve.
At the moment this is all I can think of, and until I think of something else I've drawn a blank. Forgive me, for it's reasonably late where I live. I hope people are still awake to read this and read it thoroughly before they post. More to come in following days as I'm sure more will come to me.
[QUOTE="uckpshh"][QUOTE="DeLurk"][QUOTE="uckpshh"]another thing is that she spends time with all her other exes, even those she says have forced her to do things, and for some reason she seems to hate me at times even when at those times my intent is to cheer her up.DeLurkMaybe it's just you? Sorry, but maybe she slowly realized she doesn't want to be friends with you.not that ur argument isnt valid, it could very well be, but i dont see how she cud still be friendly with guyz who have taken advantage of her and treat her like dirt, while shes brutally cold to me even though ive done virtually nothing to her, or at the very least nothing in comparison. Girls are like that at that age. She likes everyone, or she likes no one. I remember back in...8th grade I think I got with this girl for 5 months. We stayed friends after the break up, but around 6 weeks later she just ignored me the whole day, called her that night and she said she didn't want to talk to me. That was the last I saw of her (well, other that around school)...People change...She doesn't seem worth itdont think i havent spent time considering this, but as im sure you know, its still hard to just let it go. its different with guy friends when its understood and not a huge loss, but when its a girl its a totally different story. i know the way shes behaving probably isnt worth my time or effort and mental torment, but there are things in her life that are understandibly difficult to go through. i know if i leave her she'll turn to sumone else who will take advantage of her in her wen she's vulnerable. edit: and its not like shes like this to her other exes. some of them spend more time with her than i do, others not as much.
that really is a rubbish excuse, ask her why she doing itss4lawrenceif i ask her why she'll say im being stupid because its "nothing". obviously to everyone here its definiately not nothing, but she'll convince herself it is. then she'll say im being over dramatic and all that crap. i know the whole situation is obsurd, but i cant just let it go, cause it won't just go away.
[QUOTE="uckpshh"]another thing is that she spends time with all her other exes, even those she says have forced her to do things, and for some reason she seems to hate me at times even when at those times my intent is to cheer her up.Hallenbeck77Do yourself a favor: cut your losses and move on, There's no need in driving yourself crazy.problem is i see her everyday, and even though she moved a few feet away from me, we still sit next to eachother. i dont know what shes trying to solve by moving a foot away from me, but she obviously doesnt think things through and it wud have bin better not to have done it in the first place.
[QUOTE="uckpshh"]another thing is that she spends time with all her other exes, even those she says have forced her to do things, and for some reason she seems to hate me at times even when at those times my intent is to cheer her up.DeLurkMaybe it's just you? Sorry, but maybe she slowly realized she doesn't want to be friends with you.not that ur argument isnt valid, it could very well be, but i dont see how she cud still be friendly with guyz who have taken advantage of her and treat her like dirt, while shes brutally cold to me even though ive done virtually nothing to her, or at the very least nothing in comparison.
It could just mean that maybe it was her time of the month, you know how girls get at that time. Well depends on how old you two are, if you guys are still in middle school then girls that age can be like that.dahwnpapayadoubtful. the girl must have a period constantly for that logic to make sence because shes always having mood swings with me. besides, i dont think any girl suffering from only a period comes up with an excuse that lame.
[QUOTE="uckpshh"][QUOTE="ayanami_rei"]Sounds like a BS excuse to me. :?ayanami_reiu didnt need to tell me that. the reason i posted this was to know if this is normal behaviur and if this excuse, if anyone else has ever used it, actually works. And that's why I posted what I posted. It's just a basic BS excuse that she hopes would work on you to see if you are truly gullible. She probably doesn't have any interest in you. Many girls probably used it, but using the phobia where you are afraid of tight spaces, is well, BS and idiotic.she knows im not gullible, and she knows im not stupid (dont let my improper spelling and grammar fool u). im really wondering why the hell shes so weird. who decides one day that "hey, i dont wana be near this guy, so ill suddenly develop this fobia wich ive never shown signs of before"
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