make a hard choice between WoW and girlfriend

Tell her to take a hike! Then find a GF that enjoys gaming. :)

Nobody likes being around a nag. What will be the next issue she has with you? And there will be one.....

this could honestly go either way. the first thing i would ask is if you just want to cling to her because she's with you now. I mean, if she can't put up with your gaming habit (assuming that they're not unhealthy habits) this problem will only occur again and again. If she can't tolerate your hobbies, forcing you to drop something that you obviously love, then your answer should be clear.

But on the other hand, if you really think that she might be the one, it would be foolish to give her up for your raiding buddies. I think the best thing you could do now, is tell your guild that you're gf wants some attention too, and that you'll be taking some time off. I don't know about yours, but the guildies i've known are usually understanding about real life affairs. Also, any off-heals in your raid might be looking for an oppurtunity to shine in your stead. I know it happens sometimes with tanks.

If my girlfriend asked me to drop a game i would. Anyway you should spend more time with her then the people on WoW cause they are never going to love you like your girlfriend does.

And people tell me that "no WoW isn't additctive and ruining some peoples lives" :roll:

In any case, Yes you can still play WoW however you need to reduce the amount and need to spend some time with your Girlfriend if you truely do love her. Otherwise when you get bored of the game you'll realize you let it get between possibly the greatest thing in your life.

WoW and females are like oil and water. In fact, I'd go so far as to call WoW (or most videogames) chick repellant. It's like game stink just drives them away like garlic does a vampire. I don't even think there's a hard choice to be made here, Chap -- when it comes down to a videogame or a female you always pick the FEMALE. Period.

ON THE OTHER HAND...... it sounds like this particular female has a real problem with videogames in general (not just WoW), because the way you've described it, you're not playing WoW all that obsessively (well, obsessively compared to the poor d-bags who end up like Cartman on South Park, and THERE ARE those people). If she has problems with you playing games in general, it may be wise to dump her rigid ass and find a more give-and-take chickie..... one who appreciates you for being you -- games and all -- and THEN, you've got yourself a keeper.

And a chick like that isn't going to make your gaming a referendum on the relationship itself, and that will probably make you dig her all the more and not abuse that by becoming a WoW loser who spends more time with the game than he does his hot, awesome girlfriend.

My .02. :)

From the way I read what you said, you're spending 3-4 hours per day on WoW and working a full time job? And you're having to "squeeze" in time for her everyday, and only for an hour at that?

No offense, but it's pretty clear to me that you've let the game take over your life. You should never have to "squeeze" in time for her...you should be squeezing in time for the game. I would admit to her that you were wrong for spending so much time on the game, and agree to do without for a month to show her your serious. After that, you can allot an hour or two a day to play on workdays, but that's it.

lol are you serious?

WoW all the way.

No, but seriously, as stupid as it sounds, if you find that you want to play WoW more than spend time with your GF then it's only fair that you break it off, as you're clearly not as fond of her as she is of you. That's all there is to it.

WoW and females are like oil and water. In fact, I'd go so far as to call WoW (or most videogames) chick repellant. It's like game stink just drives them away like garlic does a vampire. I don't even think there's a hard choice to be made here, Chap -- when it comes down to a videogame or a female you always pick the FEMALE. Period.

Shame-usBlackley

I have a couple of female friends IRL who are into WoW. Yeah I know, its weird.

I do agree that the girl is the more important one out of the 2. One needs personal growth (as opposed to leveling up) and sexual gratification, something you can't get from a videogame.

Are you serious?, Turn that crap off and go and make passionate love to your girlfriend ... NOW! :P69ANT69

agree :)

I have a couple of female friends IRL who are into WoW. Yeah I know, its weird.

personally i dont think its weird when a girl plays a game no one ever said that gaming is only for guys

In the great scheme of life I have learned that bEwBz > anything else.GodModeEnabled

I raise you buttocks, good sir.

[QUOTE="GodModeEnabled"]In the great scheme of life I have learned that bEwBz > anything else.inoperativeRS

I raise you buttocks, good sir.

If you really even have to ask that stupid question, you're messed. It's a GAME bra, it's not REAL.

No, but seriously, as stupid as it sounds, if you find that you want to play WoW more than spend time with your GF then it's only fair that you break it off, as you're clearly not as fond of her as she is of you. That's all there is to it.

DukeBriggs

You guys in here telling him what to do don't even know what his girlfriend is like. If he likes WoW more than her, then clearly she isn't the perfect, beautiful, nympho all of you automatically assume she is the moment you hear the word "girl".

You go with what you feel. Not some preconceived societal notion that states girls are always more important than doing the things you love to do. Life is short, buddy. Spend it doing what makes you happiest. If girls aren't at the top of your priority list at this moment, then that is perfectly fine.

I smell a troll too but whatever, ill bite.

Funny to see people rush and say zomg get the girl! Bewbz! I seriously hope you guys are kidding, either that or you havent passed your teenagers hormones rush yet... Once you start thinking with your head instead of your genitals you will understand.

But to answer the OP, why would you have to give up one, if the game take over your life there is a problem, if the girl take over your life you also have a problem. Learn to balance them out and make compromises with your girlfriend, i dont know, play 2 hours per day instead of 3-4 and spend the extra hours with her if you really do like her.

If she do love you, she will be willing to make compromises over it, if she dont want to hear anything, ill call a control freak over it, in that case you would be better without her because one day you will wake up at the side of your girl and realise how your life suck and everything will go downhill really fast. If your WoW friends arent willing to let you raid with them for 2 hours and replace you when you have to go, well you should question yourself if they really are friends...

[QUOTE="DukeBriggs"]

No, but seriously, as stupid as it sounds, if you find that you want to play WoW more than spend time with your GF then it's only fair that you break it off, as you're clearly not as fond of her as she is of you. That's all there is to it.

Mash_Affect

You guys in here telling him what to do don't even know what his girlfriend is like. If he likes WoW more than her, then clearly she isn't the perfect, beautiful, nympho all of you automatically assume she is the moment you hear the word "girl".

You go with what you feel. Not some preconceived societal notion that states girls are always more important than doing the things you love to do. Life is short, buddy. Spend it doing what makes you happiest. If girls aren't at the top of your priority list at this moment, then that is perfectly fine.

I agree with you but it's not as simple as to just "break it off" and let it be that. He already stated he does like her and likes WoW so giving 1 up is not an easy decision. Im married with a kid and i grew up playing video games. I started with Atari and Commodore 64 up to the new consoles and everything in between. Everyone i have ever been with understood gaming is a part of who i am and accepted that. In the same sense, i understood its a relationship and i need to work on that 2 so like i said you both need to give. Sit down and talk to her, explain you like gaming and you want the relationship to work and go from there. You might have to raid twice a week instead of 4 times to keep the relationship going. But ultimatley if you cant come to some sort of agreement or you feel it's just not going to work out, then break it off.

[QUOTE="Mash_Affect"][QUOTE="DukeBriggs"]

No, but seriously, as stupid as it sounds, if you find that you want to play WoW more than spend time with your GF then it's only fair that you break it off, as you're clearly not as fond of her as she is of you. That's all there is to it.

RunOut1724

You guys in here telling him what to do don't even know what his girlfriend is like. If he likes WoW more than her, then clearly she isn't the perfect, beautiful, nympho all of you automatically assume she is the moment you hear the word "girl".

You go with what you feel. Not some preconceived societal notion that states girls are always more important than doing the things you love to do. Life is short, buddy. Spend it doing what makes you happiest. If girls aren't at the top of your priority list at this moment, then that is perfectly fine.

I agree with you but it's not as simple as to just "break it off" and let it be that. He already stated he does like her and likes WoW so giving 1 up is not an easy decision. Im married with a kid and i grew up playing video games. I started with Atari and Commodore 64 up to the new consoles and everything in between. Everyone i have ever been with understood gaming is a part of who i am and accepted that. In the same sense, i understood its a relationship and i need to work on that 2 so like i said you both need to give. Sit down and talk to her, explain you like gaming and you want the relationship to work and go from there. You might have to raid twice a week instead of 4 times to keep the relationship going. But ultimatley if you cant come to some sort of agreement or you feel it's just not going to work out, then break it off.

You'll know what makes you happy, and that's not necessarily always what other people are telling you should be making you happy.

All of this talk about "making time" for your girlfriend rubs me the wrong way. Spending time with your girlfriend shouldn't be spoken about as if it were a chore. He shouldn't have to "make time". He should already like her enough that he would want to spend time with her. Same goes for gaming or any hobby. If that is not the case with this particular girl, or girls in general at this juncture in his life, then I see no reason why he should be forced to.

You'll know what makes you happy, and that's not necessarily always what other people are telling you should be making you happy.

Mash_Affect

It should not be a chore but at the same time, making a radical decision can bring regrets later. Sometime its only when you lose things that you really see how important they were in your life and after, in the case of a relationship, its usually too late to recover. We are not machines and its hard to tell if he will feel different about it in a few weeks. Taking one or another is almost like throwing up a coin and make a decision based on which side it will land, you dont know the future consequences. On the other hand, a relationship is two sided, so has i said, she must be willing to adapt as well, its unhealthy when a relationship is one sided. He should not ignore his girl but at the same time he should not bend over and give up either.

Honestly, you made the right decision.

Compromises are one thing, but when people start asking you to completely give up things that really are a very big part of you...you never want to let anything have that much power over you.

An ultimatum is never a good sign, and I always resolve them the same way based on general principle: Whoever/whatever gave the ultimatum loses.

They're a sign of worse things to come, every time, because then she knows she can change you. That is a power that tends to be abused constantly once established.

That said, if you were ignoring her outright, changes need to be made. However, if there's a balance, you should be fine. An ultimatum is never the right answer.

Have breakup *** (without her knowing you're gonna dump her)... then dump her.

But I'd quit the WoW either way.

Seriously? I mean are you for real? Bro... WoW is a GAME. If I was given an ultimatum like that I'd give up WoW. I mean you'd seriously give up having a GF for something that isn't real? What is that gold going to do for you in real life? Nothing. It's just something that should keep you entertained while you don't have anything to do. You need a reality check my friend.SSJ4Justin

I disagree, if she really likes him, she will accept the fact that he likes to play WOW, he was like that when she met him so why the hell should he change it? I get very annoyed when people expect people to change who they are...even she should love him for who he is or he should find someone else that can accept the fact that he plays WOW, in reality its trying to balance WOW and his personal life in general is the correct way to go, sure WOW is just a game, but you do know that there are other women out there right? Why should u give up a hobby you love just for one person? Would she make this same sarcrifice? Problem not...

HAHAHAHAHA good joke oh wait your serious. DUDE wow is just a bloody game and plus this is a easy choice go with your girlfriend she doesnt charge 15 a month. and you cant sleep with WOWFodpea

How do you know this? Do you have a girlfriend? 15 bucks a month is way cheaper then having a gf/wife.

An ultimatum is never the right answer.

DarkCatalyst

Eh... I'd say they're rarely the right thing. The problem with ultimatums is that usually there's some sort of power struggle at the heart of it. I think there are a lot of natural ultimatums in the world, but they're not at the whims of someone who's, say, trying to get the upper hand in a relationship.

I'm also curious as to what game the original poster is playing. It doesn't seem like a videogame per se. Let's take a look at the post...

Recently i had a problem of being broken up with my girlfriend,
for i spend 3-4 hours on guild, starting Sunwell Plateau，it is more time than 2 hours before everyday.
so less and less time i spare with my grilfriend..
She think playing WoW stupid. I have a full-time job, and I made lots of friends on game that help
me forget troubles i have in work and life . what`s more, I am also a main healing in our guild.
my girlfriend asks me to make a choice between WoW and her. it is so hard for me to give up either one.
by way of squeezing 1 hour to hang with her, i have to quit daily quests which is my sources of economy.
Im a paladin on holy talent, so i have no gold to buy Consumables for raid.
but it is unacceptable that now my girlfriend asks me to quit WoW thoroughly. I feel like that I lost
basal freedom in my life, but I definitly know i love her very very much..
I`m so troublesome. is there anybody who can tell me what i should do?xunyou111

I can't help but feel that this is someone's idea of blending in with the gaming population. The sty1e (bleh, I still can't believe they haven't fixed the sty1e glitch) of writing is that of someone who is somewhat well-read and educated trying to appear to be the "average gamer". Note the thoroughly middle of the pack vocabulary, and the awkward way grammatically incorrect phrases seemed forced onto the post ("so less and less time I spare with my girlfriend", "which is my sources of economy", the way "Consumables" is capitalized for no particular reason) against a general writing sty1e that flows somewhat naturally (notice that the comma placement is almost perfect, whereas the speaker the writer is trying to emulate barely knows of the existence of commas?). There's also the matter of the sentence "I'm so troublesome". If you know a word like troublesome, you're not going to use it to describe yourself without a large dose of irony. It also makes it clear that the character writing this post is supposed to have self-esteem issues, so perhaps our mystery writer is also a believer in pop psychology?

It's doubtful this person is actually a gamer, because of the odd way he/she expresses her concerns about World of Warcraft (I've never met a World of Warcraft player who talked about sources of economy). Equally doubtful this person is, or ever has been, a part of a serious gaming community, as he/she would have picked up a more accurate set of lingo than what is being used here. The interesting part is, based on my Google search, that the World of Warcraft references fit (an actual World of Warcraft player would have to tell me how well), which means that the writer either has had some direct exposure to the game, or done their research. I would guess, based on this, that the identity of the original poster is either:

1. Actually a non-gamer girlfriend who has been, in some way, slighted by a boyfriend in favor of a videogame (most likely World of Warcraft).

2. An outsider trying to get "inside the minds of gamers" by getting them to say what they really think to a "fellow gamer". His/her motivation could range from compiling a story for a news service to satiating personal curiousity. May or may not have an agenda towards proving that gamers are callous, inhuman people who are so addicted to videogames that they neglect the people in their lives.

I could be way off with both guesses, but I'm pretty sure that the original poster is not who he/she claims to be. The writing doesn't make any sense otherwise. Either way, "xunyou111", the high road would be to admit what you were after. Besides, you've probably gotten enough of a sample of the type of responses you were after anyway.

[QUOTE="DarkCatalyst"]

An ultimatum is never the right answer.

Oilers99

Eh... I'd say they're rarely the right thing. The problem with ultimatums is that usually there's some sort of power struggle at the heart of it. I think there are a lot of natural ultimatums in the world, but they're not at the whims of someone who's, say, trying to get the upper hand in a relationship.

I'm also curious as to what game the original poster is playing. It doesn't seem like a videogame per se. Let's take a look at the post...

Recently i had a problem of being broken up with my girlfriend,
for i spend 3-4 hours on guild, starting Sunwell Plateau，it is more time than 2 hours before everyday.
so less and less time i spare with my grilfriend..
She think playing WoW stupid. I have a full-time job, and I made lots of friends on game that help
me forget troubles i have in work and life . what`s more, I am also a main healing in our guild.
my girlfriend asks me to make a choice between WoW and her. it is so hard for me to give up either one.
by way of squeezing 1 hour to hang with her, i have to quit daily quests which is my sources of economy.
Im a paladin on holy talent, so i have no gold to buy Consumables for raid.
but it is unacceptable that now my girlfriend asks me to quit WoW thoroughly. I feel like that I lost
basal freedom in my life, but I definitly know i love her very very much..
I`m so troublesome. is there anybody who can tell me what i should do?xunyou111

I can't help but feel that this is someone's idea of blending in with the gaming population. The sty1e (bleh, I still can't believe they haven't fixed the sty1e glitch) of writing is that of someone who is somewhat well-read and educated trying to appear to be the "average gamer". Note the thoroughly middle of the pack vocabulary, and the awkward way grammatically incorrect phrases seemed forced onto the post ("so less and less time I spare with my girlfriend", "which is my sources of economy", the way "Consumables" is capitalized for no particular reason) against a general writing sty1e that flows somewhat naturally (notice that the comma placement is almost perfect, whereas the speaker the writer is trying to emulate barely knows of the existence of commas?). There's also the matter of the sentence "I'm so troublesome". If you know a word like troublesome, you're not going to use it to describe yourself without a large dose of irony. It also makes it clear that the character writing this post is supposed to have self-esteem issues, so perhaps our mystery writer is also a believer in pop psychology?

It's doubtful this person is actually a gamer, because of the odd way he/she expresses her concerns about World of Warcraft (I've never met a World of Warcraft player who talked about sources of economy). Equally doubtful this person is, or ever has been, a part of a serious gaming community, as he/she would have picked up a more accurate set of lingo than what is being used here. The interesting part is, based on my Google search, that the World of Warcraft references fit (an actual World of Warcraft player would have to tell me how well), which means that the writer either has had some direct exposure to the game, or done their research. I would guess, based on this, that the identity of the original poster is either:

1. Actually a non-gamer girlfriend who has been, in some way, slighted by a boyfriend in favor of a videogame (most likely World of Warcraft).

2. An outsider trying to get "inside the minds of gamers" by getting them to say what they really think to a "fellow gamer". His/her motivation could range from compiling a story for a news service to satiating personal curiousity. May or may not have an agenda towards proving that gamers are callous, inhuman people who are so addicted to videogames that they neglect the people in their lives.

I could be way off with both guesses, but I'm pretty sure that the original poster is not who he/she claims to be. The writing doesn't make any sense otherwise. Either way, "xunyou111", the high road would be to admit what you were after. Besides, you've probably gotten enough of a sample of the type of responses you were after anyway.

Alright dude. There's a line. If you're having trouble picking a hobby over someone you love, that hobby CAN'T be healthy for you. If you're willing to lose someone you care about for some e-friends that would dump you instantly if you ever became an incompetent healer, you need to get your priorities straight.

Think about it, if you can't find a middle ground, you may have to give it up.

when ever theres a choice between a game and reality the answer is simple and obvious, and if you ever take gaming over reality then you have a major problem-DirtySanchez-

There are some games out there that are far and away better than reality, and sometimes reality sucks in general. That's what this is about, really. If you're giving up a game that you consistently feel good playing, it better be one AMAZING situation you're giving it up for.

We need to be careful not to give real life too much credit. By and large, it can be pretty damn miserable.

You're weighing the intangible rewards and loot from a videogame versus the interaction and support of a real-life human being. I'm sorry, but an actual person takes precidence over a game especially if she means something to you.

You'll thank her for giving you an ultimatum when you realize what a time sink World of Warcraft was for you.

I just got the impression that English wasn't his first language.Mash_Affect

Mm... I dunno. It's certainly possible, but there are small things that would make me doubt that, such as the use of a phrase like "what's more" (I suspect you'd have to be fairly familiar with the English language to know that one). When I read the post, I get a sense of intentional, And let's not forget the most important thing; a conspiracy theory is a lot more fun. :P

Recently i had a problem of being broken up with my girlfriend,
for i spend 3-4 hours on guild, starting Sunwell Plateau，it is more time than 2 hours before everyday.
so less and less time i spare with my grilfriend..
She think playing WoW stupid. I have a full-time job, and I made lots of friends on game that help
me forget troubles i have in work and life . what`s more, I am also a main healing in our guild.
my girlfriend asks me to make a choice between WoW and her. it is so hard for me to give up either one.
by way of squeezing 1 hour to hang with her, i have to quit daily quests which is my sources of economy.
Im a paladin on holy talent, so i have no gold to buy Consumables for raid.
but it is unacceptable that now my girlfriend asks me to quit WoW thoroughly. I feel like that I lost
basal freedom in my life, but I definitly know i love her very very much..
I`m so troublesome. is there anybody who can tell me what i should do?xunyou111

oh .... my .... God .....

[QUOTE="Mash_Affect"]

I just got the impression that English wasn't his first language.Oilers99

Mm... I dunno. It's certainly possible, but there are small things that would make me doubt that, such as the use of a phrase like "what's more" (I suspect you'd have to be fairly familiar with the English language to know that one). When I read the post, I get a sense of intentional, And let's not forget the most important thing; a conspiracy theory is a lot more fun. :P

Actually, I got the impression that the poster is Chinese since this is exactly the way my students write and talk. In fact, they overuse the term "what's more" so much it'll make you never want to hear the expression again.

But you're right about the conspiracy theory angle...