I agree with Kam... I prefer taking responsibility for things because it makes me feel good about doing something. The thought of letting my mom pay for my phone bills, video games, shoes, etc... is just kinda wack. My clothes, ok, because I need those. But I really only need 2 pairs of shoes, and I have like 8 or 9.... so it would just be odd to make her pay for the extra 7. If I want something extra, I should pay for it. Not only does it relieve my guilt, but it makes me feel more accomplished as well. It's the same with my passport and other essential stuff... I keep that. Sure, it's nice to not worry about misplacing it and just giving it to a parent, but it feels better to know that you can handle your own **** and not push it on others.
And Colt, I live by myself all the time. My mom is Foreign Service and leaves post maybe 4-5 times annually for a good 3-4 weeks every time. She just got back from a month long trip to the states... So yeah, I know what its like to live completely alone and have to provide for myself. She left me like 100 jds, which is around 140 dollars, but nothing else. And here, lunch at the cheapest place (Mcdonalds) is like 7 jds (11 - 12 dollars). And on top of that I had to pay my montly phone bill, which costs over 100 jds every month. And that's not even factoring in my bill at the American Club (a rec place for Americans in the embassy, with a restaurant, basketball court, tennis court, etc...) which can hit over 100 jds as well, because I end up eating here so much (it's basically the only place to eat during work hours because I only get a 30 min lunch break). Or grocceries, which I don't buy much of... but they can add up. And then taxi money because she doesn't leave me with her car keys. And then money for clubs, movies, etc... (social ****), and whatever other random factors come into play (book fees for AP classes, virus protection renewing - this actually just happened, bad ass luck..-, etc...). So don't try to tell me what's what lol... Because if I don't have money for that ^, she's just like "your problem, you gotta deal with it." I think when you have to eat cup noodles/cereal almost every day just and no go out and chill at all for 4/12 months of the year, you know what's up in the world and what being "mature" really means. And really, this ^ is all my choice. Honestly, I could push my mom into paying for everything, and accept her offers to pay for stuff, and pressure into just giving me more money when she's gone, but I take it upon myself to take care of me. If that's not mature, I don't know how you define the word :?
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