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I've been in an almost identical situation (except for the university setting), so please heed my advice.
I suggest you pick #2 for a number of reasons. Just consider this; If you hook up with #1 and then break up, you'll get to see her face for many years, something that won't happen with #2 if you ever break up.
It would be best if you friendzoned #1. You won't regret it and years later you can laugh about your mutual crush in university.
seriously if you can't pick either based on their personality choose the hotter one. also i know you're not after the 2nd chick's money but that doesn't mean she's not gonna buy you a couple of good presents from time to time. be honest with yourself, you don't have to be ashamed of considering every detail that may affect your relationship and happiness.
Nothing is true, everything is permitted. Let these words guide you.[QUOTE="Mink"][QUOTE="iskeethunters"] I'm not that kind of guy unfortunately. When I like a girl (and I mean more than liking her looks), I also respect her. That's the whole dilemma. I just can't do that thing. worlock77
Listen to this woman.
And Ezio Auditore....OH flip a coin.Edited for coin flips.
From what you' re told us I' d go with #1. Either way don' t agonize over it too much. It' s going to be your first relationship - not your last. Mistakes are allowed and risks should be taken.
Also you do realize that you' re lucky right? I' m pretty much the same as you when it comes to the reason of never had a girlfriend before and there are no girls in my class I like. There should be. :(
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[QUOTE="Mink"] Nothing is true, everything is permitted. Let these words guide you.Mink
Listen to this woman.
And Ezio Auditore....OH flip a coin.Edited for coin flips.
I kind of decided. Check page 2 if you're interested. Flipping a coin would work the same way I realized the right choice. For the time the coin is in the air, you'll know what you want since you're going to be hoping the coin lands that way.Well I am completely screwed. I was a cool guy in high-school yet I did not have a girlfriend. I'm very picky when it comes to girls (I'd rather be alone unless I find someone I really like). There were a few girls I liked but I was either too affraid to ask them out or too late.
Now I'm in my first university year and I like 2 girls and they both like me back. This has been driving me insane. I never panicked that I'll be forever alone, I knew there would be girls out there for me. But I certainly didn't expect 2 at the same time. This is so unfair. It's like fate is mocking me.
So, #1 is going at university with me and #2 with a friend's girlfriend. Whenever I go out with my colleagues, I talk a lot with #1 and we get along great. We joke around, I walked her home a few times and she always starts talking with me, paying significantly less attention to the others. She's smart, very good looking and really nice.
Now #2 isn't as hot but she's very cute. I guess that's the word since I can't really tell what I like about her. The smile, the eyes? I do not know. She's very funny. Actually she has a sense of humor pretty much like mine. She's also significantly rich (that doesn't influence me - I'm not after her money, though I'd be pretty scared of her father if I had to face him and I probably would at some point since she lives in a house in the suburbs so I'd have to pick her up at least once even if she has her own sports car... I'd look bad if she'd be the one always picking me up). I also like her education - her parents are pretty strict. She's polite, nice and always happy and smiling though I (at least) can notice her exquisite manners and taste.
I've talked to some of my friends and they all told me the situation sucks and that I should just keep going out, in groups, until I can see who I like better. Problem is, each time I like both of them more. It's driving me insane. Everyone refuses to tell who would they pick since they don't want to alter my thinking, so I'm asking you guys. What would you do? Or who would you pick? I'm just scared I'll lose both and that would be incredibly depressing for me since this is the first time I could have a relationship.
I'm not the "player" type. I actually have strong feelings for both but I will not try to cheat on one with the other or something like that. I know, I know... I'm asking people on a game forum, but I'm really desperate.
iskeethunters
go for it imo u like girls yar chana knows it too.
[QUOTE="Kats_RK"]
[QUOTE="call_of_duty_10"]
There's only one solution---Threesome.
benleslie5
Yep.
This
No, that can go badly, they could wind up liking each other more. I let my ex gf and this other chick I'd been talking with talk to each other and they both just started agreeing on how horrible I was. They didn't hookup but it was a nightmare for a while.this is simple pick no 1.Well I am completely screwed. I was a cool guy in high-school yet I did not have a girlfriend. I'm very picky when it comes to girls (I'd rather be alone unless I find someone I really like). There were a few girls I liked but I was either too affraid to ask them out or too late.
Now I'm in my first university year and I like 2 girls and they both like me back. This has been driving me insane. I never panicked that I'll be forever alone, I knew there would be girls out there for me. But I certainly didn't expect 2 at the same time. This is so unfair. It's like fate is mocking me.
So, #1 is going at university with me and #2 with a friend's girlfriend. Whenever I go out with my colleagues, I talk a lot with #1 and we get along great. We joke around, I walked her home a few times and she always starts talking with me, paying significantly less attention to the others. She's smart, very good looking and really nice.
Now #2 isn't as hot but she's very cute. I guess that's the word since I can't really tell what I like about her. The smile, the eyes? I do not know. She's very funny. Actually she has a sense of humor pretty much like mine. She's also significantly rich (that doesn't influence me - I'm not after her money, though I'd be pretty scared of her father if I had to face him and I probably would at some point since she lives in a house in the suburbs so I'd have to pick her up at least once even if she has her own sports car... I'd look bad if she'd be the one always picking me up). I also like her education - her parents are pretty strict. She's polite, nice and always happy and smiling though I (at least) can notice her exquisite manners and taste.
I've talked to some of my friends and they all told me the situation sucks and that I should just keep going out, in groups, until I can see who I like better. Problem is, each time I like both of them more. It's driving me insane. Everyone refuses to tell who would they pick since they don't want to alter my thinking, so I'm asking you guys. What would you do? Or who would you pick? I'm just scared I'll lose both and that would be incredibly depressing for me since this is the first time I could have a relationship.
I'm not the "player" type. I actually have strong feelings for both but I will not try to cheat on one with the other or something like that. I know, I know... I'm asking people on a game forum, but I'm really desperate.
iskeethunters
[QUOTE="Laihendi"]I suggest having a discussion with both of them at the same time and try to work out a 3-person relationship.Opi0usWait wat?
Watch the movie Savages.
In all seriousness, try number 2. Although that oculd just be my preference for understated beauty talking.
Living with one girl is hard enough. Living with two would be screechy hell.
Opi0us
There might be truth to this.
Flip a bloody coin, mate. Seriously, pick #1. You know exactly why you like her, unlike #2, and you're both from similar economic backgrounds. You also think #1 is more attractive.Â
Sometimes I do find myself tempted towards one of them but then I this thought comes up: "What if you're picking the wrong one dude? And you'll be constantly thinking that and over analyzing everything and won't be able to be happy with your current choice. You'll keep thinking what if, even if you made the right choice.". And this thought always rolls back everything to a tie.[QUOTE="iskeethunters"][QUOTE="lostrib"]
Fine, being serious. Either pick one or lose both. Â And I find it hard to believe that when you sit down and are honest with yourself that you don't find yourself more attracted to one of them (in whatever way: physical, emotional...)
lostrib
In that case, pick neither. Â And wait until there is that "one" who doesn't make you question. Â If that's really who you are. or go out and make mistakes, pick one, even if it turns out to be the wrong one, so that when the right one comes along you know what to look for.
This.Well I am completely screwed. I was a cool guy in high-school yet I did not have a girlfriend. I'm very picky when it comes to girls (I'd rather be alone unless I find someone I really like). There were a few girls I liked but I was either too affraid to ask them out or too late.
Now I'm in my first university year and I like 2 girls and they both like me back. This has been driving me insane. I never panicked that I'll be forever alone, I knew there would be girls out there for me. But I certainly didn't expect 2 at the same time. This is so unfair. It's like fate is mocking me.
So, #1 is going at university with me and #2 with a friend's girlfriend. Whenever I go out with my colleagues, I talk a lot with #1 and we get along great. We joke around, I walked her home a few times and she always starts talking with me, paying significantly less attention to the others. She's smart, very good looking and really nice.
Now #2 isn't as hot but she's very cute. I guess that's the word since I can't really tell what I like about her. The smile, the eyes? I do not know. She's very funny. Actually she has a sense of humor pretty much like mine. She's also significantly rich (that doesn't influence me - I'm not after her money, though I'd be pretty scared of her father if I had to face him and I probably would at some point since she lives in a house in the suburbs so I'd have to pick her up at least once even if she has her own sports car... I'd look bad if she'd be the one always picking me up). I also like her education - her parents are pretty strict. She's polite, nice and always happy and smiling though I (at least) can notice her exquisite manners and taste.
I've talked to some of my friends and they all told me the situation sucks and that I should just keep going out, in groups, until I can see who I like better. Problem is, each time I like both of them more. It's driving me insane. Everyone refuses to tell who would they pick since they don't want to alter my thinking, so I'm asking you guys. What would you do? Or who would you pick? I'm just scared I'll lose both and that would be incredibly depressing for me since this is the first time I could have a relationship.
I'm not the "player" type. I actually have strong feelings for both but I will not try to cheat on one with the other or something like that. I know, I know... I'm asking people on a game forum, but I'm really desperate.
iskeethunters
Have sex with both of them.
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At the same time.
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