A big problem with a friend.

[QUOTE="Frame_Dragger"][QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

wat

So? I think it's pretty clear how it went. He can't take a joke and he can't throw one back so he left. And what beta thing?

Right, you THINK it's pretty clear how it went, but that's all... you have no real idea. As for the "beta thing", I assumed you were joking about being beta... I guess not. @Spinnerweb: You know what, don't take any advice here, you'll be better off. Except for that advice. And that. And that.... errrr...Frame_Dragger

Oh I'm sorry, maybe you didn't see this:

So, yesterday in a chatroom I was constantly at the receving end of the great number of jokes my friend was making. I left because it got annoying. When she PMed me asking me why I left, I told her I was annoyed at her because of being repeatedly at the receiving end of the jokes.She took it more seriously than I thought, and said she wouldn't do it again. I told her it was fine as long as she didn't go overboard. She left then.

So, today I told her I was sorry if my message was too harsh and she said she'd been really worried by that and it made her cry. (That was a bit of a surprise.) I told her it was OK if she made a joke about me once in a while but not all the time. She insisted that she wouldn't ever do it again and, seeing that we are both humorous, it was very disappointing. I talked in chat to her, but our conversation was strained. She'd give three-word replies or none at all. I didn't think one message of mine would go this far. How can I be friends again?

Spinnerweb

I have a very real idea. Beta means not alpha. I'm not beta. This guy is beta. Because he has no comebacks and leaves the conversation when a girl teases him. That is the definition of beta. Someone alpha wouldn't be teased in the first place, or if it was just playful teasing (which this situation was) they would tease back. I'm not trying to make the guy feel bad, I'm giving him valuable information. Man up = this won't happen again. Simple.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

If she was ripping the **** out of you then you know what you do? Rip the **** out of her. Simples.

Spinnerweb

Tsk tsk bad form :(

How is it? If its all in fun then there's no harm done.

[QUOTE="Frame_Dragger"]Right, you THINK it's pretty clear how it went, but that's all... you have no real idea. As for the "beta thing", I assumed you were joking about being beta... I guess not. @Spinnerweb: You know what, don't take any advice here, you'll be better off. Except for that advice. And that. And that.... errrr...cheese_game619

Oh I'm sorry, maybe you didn't see this:

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]So, yesterday in a chatroom I was constantly at the receving end of the great number of jokes my friend was making. I left because it got annoying. When she PMed me asking me why I left, I told her I was annoyed at her because of being repeatedly at the receiving end of the jokes.She took it more seriously than I thought, and said she wouldn't do it again. I told her it was fine as long as she didn't go overboard. She left then.

So, today I told her I was sorry if my message was too harsh and she said she'd been really worried by that and it made her cry. (That was a bit of a surprise.) I told her it was OK if she made a joke about me once in a while but not all the time. She insisted that she wouldn't ever do it again and, seeing that we are both humorous, it was very disappointing. I talked in chat to her, but our conversation was strained. She'd give three-word replies or none at all. I didn't think one message of mine would go this far. How can I be friends again?

I have a very real idea. Beta means not alpha. I'm not beta. This guy is beta. Because he has no comebacks and leaves the conversation when a girl teases him. That is the definition of beta. Someone alpha wouldn't be teased in the first place, or if it was just playful teasing (which this situation was) they would tease back. I'm not trying to make the guy feel bad, I'm giving him valuable information. Man up = this won't happen again. Simple.

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

[QUOTE="Frame_Dragger"]

Oh I'm sorry, maybe you didn't see this:

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]So, yesterday in a chatroom I was constantly at the receving end of the great number of jokes my friend was making. I left because it got annoying. When she PMed me asking me why I left, I told her I was annoyed at her because of being repeatedly at the receiving end of the jokes.She took it more seriously than I thought, and said she wouldn't do it again. I told her it was fine as long as she didn't go overboard. She left then.

So, today I told her I was sorry if my message was too harsh and she said she'd been really worried by that and it made her cry. (That was a bit of a surprise.) I told her it was OK if she made a joke about me once in a while but not all the time. She insisted that she wouldn't ever do it again and, seeing that we are both humorous, it was very disappointing. I talked in chat to her, but our conversation was strained. She'd give three-word replies or none at all. I didn't think one message of mine would go this far. How can I be friends again?

Frame_Dragger

I have a very real idea. Beta means not alpha. I'm not beta. This guy is beta. Because he has no comebacks and leaves the conversation when a girl teases him. That is the definition of beta. Someone alpha wouldn't be teased in the first place, or if it was just playful teasing (which this situation was) they would tease back. I'm not trying to make the guy feel bad, I'm giving him valuable information. Man up = this won't happen again. Simple.

Nah come on, you'll end up winning. I've been modded a few times recently so if we get into something here it will probably be my last argument... on this account anyway.

You probably think I want him to be a jerk. Being alpha isn't necessarily about being a jerk it's just standing up for yourself and in this situation he barely even has to do that. He just has to joke back and not be a sook.

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

If she was ripping the **** out of you then you know what you do? Rip the **** out of her. Simples.

Tsk tsk bad form :(

How is it? If its all in fun then there's no harm done.

give her time, maybe she just needs to get over it on her end...she hurt you and that hurt her in return...?

[QUOTE="Frame_Dragger"][QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

I have a very real idea. Beta means not alpha. I'm not beta. This guy is beta. Because he has no comebacks and leaves the conversation when a girl teases him. That is the definition of beta. Someone alpha wouldn't be teased in the first place, or if it was just playful teasing (which this situation was) they would tease back. I'm not trying to make the guy feel bad, I'm giving him valuable information. Man up = this won't happen again. Simple.

Nah come on, you'll end up winning. I've been modded a few times recently so if we get into something here it will probably be my last argument... on this account anyway.

You probably think I want him to be a jerk. Being alpha isn't necessarily about being a jerk it's just standing up for yourself and in this situation he barely even has to do that. He just has to joke back and not be a sook.

I'm not going to quote you anymore FD because GS is having a heart attack but we agree, which is sort of disappointing. Luckily we disagree on one thing which is he should definitely man up and being sensitive will get him nowhere.cheese_game619

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]

Tsk tsk bad form :(

Frame_Dragger

How is it? If its all in fun then there's no harm done.

I'm sensitive, quite sensitive. But i know when to have a bit of fun and when teasing is just teasing its ok. It's not "manning up" or being an ass as i hate both those things but i mean c'mon it just sounded like banter to me.

The problem about me 'being beta' and not 'manning up' is that once when I teased back she got all offended and later said, as I already said, that it made her noticed and people will be wankers to her. So I usually tread around her carefully.

Also, mentioning her in a forum today (not about our arguement, just general mentionin) resulted in this.

*Drum Roll*

Why are u dragging me into things I arent a part of ? You just set me up againThink I really have had enough of this forum, its just never going to stop is itWhat did I do to deserve that? (this part was linked to my forum post)

So you told her about posting this..? I never said she wasn't a crazy b****, I was just addressing the problem I could. You were here, I could address you. I didn't know she was here :lol: Bad move, Romeo.cheese_game619

A FORUM. Not THIS FORUM. Of course not.

It's dinknetwork.com/forum.cgi and if you're interested, my post about her was:

and this another version of (her username)'s post?

The question was asked earlier, how old are you two? As pathetic as this is it's good for a laugh so I'm interested.cheese_game619

That's mean.

97.

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]The question was asked earlier, how old are you two? As pathetic as this is it's good for a laugh so I'm interested.Spinnerweb

That's mean.

97.

You're 97 year old gamer!!
Hardcore bro!

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]The question was asked earlier, how old are you two? As pathetic as this is it's good for a laugh so I'm interested.Ilovegames1992

That's mean.

97.

You're 97 year old gamer!!
Hardcore bro!

Yes, yes I am! Glad you noticed.

Patched things up with her ... FINALLY! Geesh. :D

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]The question was asked earlier, how old are you two? As pathetic as this is it's good for a laugh so I'm interested.Spinnerweb

That's mean.

97.

Maybe a little bit but it's relevant.

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]The question was asked earlier, how old are you two? As pathetic as this is it's good for a laugh so I'm interested.Ilovegames1992

That's mean.

97.

You're 97 year old gamer!!
Hardcore bro!

The way I see it, since you'd always be poop socking into your Depends, you could have some real advantage. On the other hand, encroaching dementia and medication breaks would be an issue, along with crippling osteoarthritis. :P

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="Spinnerweb"]

That's mean.

97.

Frame_Dragger

You're 97 year old gamer!!
Hardcore bro!

The way I see it, since you'd always be poop socking into your Depends, you could have some real advantage. On the other hand, encroaching dementia and medication breaks would be an issue, along with crippling osteoarthritis. :P

Pfft :P I'm still young enough, given that I'm a vampire.

But ... not the Cullen type.

Dracula type.

Dracula - Bram Stoker. Great Book.

So, yesterday in a chatroom I was constantly at the receving end of the great number of jokes my friend was making. I left because it got annoying. When she PMed me asking me why I left, I told her I was annoyed at her because of being repeatedly at the receiving end of the jokes.

She took it more seriously than I thought, and said she wouldn't do it again. I told her it was fine as long as she didn't go overboard. She left then.

So, today I told her I was sorry if my message was too harsh and she said she'd been really worried by that and it made her cry. (That was a bit of a surprise.) I told her it was OK if she made a joke about me once in a while but not all the time. She insisted that she wouldn't ever do it again and, seeing that we are both humorous, it was very disappointing.

I talked in chat to her, but our conversation was strained. She'd give three-word replies or none at all. I didn't think one message of mine would go this far. How can I be friends again?

Spinnerweb

She feels you bro.