[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"][QUOTE="rawsavon"] That has not been my experience. But i guess that it has been yours. ...so that makes neither side right/wrong...just a matter of what we have seen I guess Though I thought your frustration came from not being able to get into a relationship (girls not going for that first step b/c of your height and how old you look) and not not really what happens after you get into one. But I could be wrong/misremembering what you said.rawsavon
Sorry if I confused people, but yes my problem is getting into a DATING relationship.
I easily make friends with women and have had older women (who are in relationships) ask me how I am not in a relationship (mainly because of how nice of a guy I am), yet I STILL cannot land a girlfriend...
It just boggles my mind that with having no trouble getting girls to like my personality, not a single one is willing to date me.
I have stopped talking to the last girl who rejected me because I can't help but think of her as a terrible person (she has cheated on multiple boyfriends and I am talking repeatedly with their best friend, and actually screwed around with my cousin/friend AT MY HOUSE WHILE I WAS IN THE SHOWER and this was when she was under the impression I was going to take her on a date...) and despite not wanting to date me, she kept texting me and calling me saying she missed me and ****...
TBH, I have no advice for you. ...well other than to get into great physical shape (that would make you look older [lose baby fat around face] and have the benefit of a great body). Then you would just need to find a girl that did not mind dating a short guy. As you stand now though, you have to find: -a girl that likes your personality (not that yours is bad, it is just something everyone has to consider...compatibility) -a girl that will date someone that looks really young -a girl that will date a short guy -a girl that will date a guy that is not that great of shape IMO, that is asking a lot (as far as dating goes...not just friends [which you seem to be good at]) I know it is not what you want to year, but I would not a date a girl that looked as young as you look (would make me feel 'weird'); I would not date a girl that was not in good shape; and if I were a girl, I think height would matter. You can like someone's personality all you want, but you have to want to **** them as well. I hope we are at the point were you don't take offense to my honesty. We have talked about similar stuff quite a bit, and I figured you would appreciate it (honesty). If not, I apologize.Yeah I had been going to the gym for a bit but I haven't gone in a couple weeks now thanks to my insane work schedule. I have been gradually getting into better shape. Where I am now is miles beyond where I was a year ago, and now that I work as a CNA my job actually works me both physically and mentally (and I do mean the job stresses me to the point I have almost started smoking cigarettes).
And yeah, I know I have to find a girl that fits all those points. Honestly, I think these aspects will lead me to dating someone a bit younger than me. I think I would have better luck at getting an 18 year old girl to find me attractive than a girl who is 23 or even my age of 22.
I still don't understand the height thing at all though. I mean no, I am not going to be dating some 6 foot supermodel, but I still tend to be just as tall if not taller than most women so why it ends up being that my height is such a big deal is beyond me. It is something that I feel should be completely irrelevant yet it is a freaking death sentence when it comes to dating for some stupid reason...
And yes I do understand that there needs to be SOME physical attraction, but at the same time I really don't feel I am some insanely ugly guy. In fact, as I get into better shape I am starting to feel that I am not half-bad looking at all and I do honestly believe that in time I could end up being quite studly.
Oh and no, I didn't take any offense.
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