A quick question to all of you older GS users *WARNING: Potentially depressing*

Quesiton, during your childhood life were you constantly praised for everything you did? Did anybody ever stop and say that you really messed up and you needed to do something again?

I'm starting to notice that in our current society failure is not allowed to happen until you're out on your own. It's nearly impossible to fail at school when you're younger. Society constantly builds up this layer of protection that shields the youth from failure. Failure isn't looked down upon, it's avoided by changing the circumstances so that people don't have to experiance it.

So finally when you get out into the real world it kicks you straight in the ass. Nobody is there to hold your hand, nobody is there to tell you what to do, and nobody is there to protect you when you screw up at something.

Wasdie

I have to admit, this describes my current situation pretty well.

How were you like at beggining of your twenties ?

I'm 21 now and I'm maniacally depressed !! Nothing seems to work with me !

Is this normal ? how did you guys deal with it ?

hellraiser_07

It is normal to be depressed from time to time.

My advice is to stay busy.

Work/school. Don't be idle.

I just turned 22 a couple days ago. Everything isn't as bad as it used to be. At 20-21 I was depressed, but getting better. I just try do things on my own that I enjoy and make me feel better.

i get what you mean, the transition in to the real world can be hellish.weezyfb

That's pretty much it - it isn't depression, rather it's mourning the slow and unavoidable departure of youth and facing the harrowing prospects of being all growed up. EEK!

Thanks guys, atm I have a girlfriend and have my circle of good friends/family.

And as of things I like doing, I still *briefly* enjoy video games, hanging out with friends and all that, I used to enjoy doing my major in uni but not anymore ,even though I trying to look at it from alot of different prespectives, it still doesnt do it. I just can't find a way to feel fullfillment in life or a way to enjoy it.

Maybe I should try therapy, see how that goes ..

hellraiser_07

therapy is expensive. just sayin.... i was in therapy twice a week for about a year and a half. cost jump up pretty quick. i reccomend some whiskey, its cheap and is a hell of a lot better than seroquel or depakote (you know....meds for manic depression, not standard depression which is typically treated with much less intense meds, dont get the two confused.)

I was indifferent about everything...oh wait I still I am.

Then i was 20-23 everything was normal. Studing by correspondence and working at a factory i was able to play videogames nd stuff. But now everything turned to **** after finishing university i left a factory in hope of getting better job .. but in result i spent a year of doing nothing but playing videogames. Eventually i found a job as sales manager but the company was pretty unsuccesful.. the worst part of it was that i, trying to do as i could to save that sinking ship, became afflicted by mental disease and spent 2 months in funny farm.. the pills they'd been giving me made me depressed as hell.. so afterwards i spent half of the year recovering from that **** But one thing finished my optimism for good... it was much worse than all bad things i'd lived through. Right now i'am done for and i cant see an end of this dark tunnel.

At 21 I was in Korea. When I wasn't working or training I was either alternating between Gamecube, PS2, and Dreamcast play or I was downtown in the clubs right outside of the base.

At 22 I went into Iraq for the initial invasion. Good times even though 99% of it was spent driving a captain all over the place and there were no Modern Warfare moments. I'll take a boring war over a deadly war anyday.

At 23 I had my daughter. I also got married a few months later after I turned 24 to her mom. Shortly after that I went to Iraq again for my second trip, which was spent playing videogames (no Dreamcast this time, I sold it by now), watching European satelite TV, and sipping iced coffee.

The worst thing that happened in my 20s was when I became a recruiter at 28. I swear, between Iraq and dealing with a bunch of high school kids who let their life decisions be made by their girl/boyfriends and peer pressure as well as dealing with overprotective parents, I'd rather just go back to Iraq.

Well im 21 and im not manically depressed and neither is anyone else I know, but I might have been a little depressed about a couple of years ago.

Around that time a lot changes in your life so maybe if you try to look at the causes of why you are depressed TC then you can find solutions to your problems rather than medication :)

I was sometimes before. But not anymore. BTW im 15.

20. Been depressed for the better part of two years because of health problems.

Still have a little bit of hope though.

I'm 23 and after finishing high school at 18 the transition to college was rough and I was unprepared for it, and life threw some big rocks my way. It took a while but I recently started a new college course and having alot of fun now, seems now like I'm past the obstacles.

After finishing school it's all about building your own life, no more hiding you know, you gotta make decisions, step up, take care of so many things, build a new social life, pay the rent if you have your own place, study etc.

Depression feels good to me. I like feeling worthless. Diophage

Yeah, it gets to that point if you have it for so long.

I am where I am today. Finishing college and working.

what one thing?Jandurin

There is something that opens up for you at 21 that can help with that, provided you don't have an addictive personality that is.

anyways for me 21 was a stressful time. I had a short term relationship with a particularly aweful girlfriend and school was going pretty rough. It was a lonely time because I hadn't had a girlfriend for quite some time and then I got a small taste (not the kinky kind) which was quickly taken away from me.

That being said I always made it a point to try and savor the time when I was with friends and played a lot of video games in my off time. looking back I should have studied more and played less games. Also I took up walking/jogging for almost a year which helped. I always went to the workout room at school and hopped on the treadmill.

[QUOTE="Jandurin"]what one thing?barret1986

i'm in college right now, and i'm doing good overall, but in 1 class, i'm screwing up badly, and that is partially making me depressed, that and some of my "friends" don't hangout with me much anymore, so it's kinda depressing in that sort as well

I've been depressed for a the last two years and I just turned 20 in July.

Shortly after that I went to Iraq again for my second trip, which was spent playing videogames (no Dreamcast this time, I sold it by now), watching European satelite TV, and sipping iced coffee.

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I didnt know that they allowed to take videogames with you in the US military. here in Russia commanders hardly allow you to use cell phone.. so the most folks are using papaer letters to communicate with the close ones .. i feel like we live in the middle ages.

You could say I probably was depressed at 21. The person I am today is probably worse off than that guy, both financially and mentally (I've seen some things, man), but I would say I'm happier as a whole. Life gets better, or at least manageable, and then we die. *Cues African chorus to sing "Circle of Life"*

I'm only 22, but I feel like I'm already too old, and it's probably because I'm so pessimistic.

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Shortly after that I went to Iraq again for my second trip, which was spent playing videogames (no Dreamcast this time, I sold it by now), watching European satelite TV, and sipping iced coffee.

barret1986

I didnt know that they allowed to take videogames with you in the US military. here in Russia commanders hardly allow you to use cell phone.. so the most folks are using papaer letters to communicate with the close ones .. i feel like we live in the middle ages.

I have friends serving in Afghanistan right now. We chat on facebook all the time :lol:

21 was best time of my life . g.f's , college , enjoying life .

How were you like at beggining of your twenties ?hellraiser_07

Working like a mule in medschool.