A terrible misfortune.

Today, I find out that my lifes work essentially has been tossed in the trash over a mere technicality, to which I had no other options. I was a Nursing student, for several years I have worked hard to obtain my licensure and succeed in life to some degree. During my first semester of Nursing school I missed two days of school to attend the birth of my son. I was present for half the day on both of the days that I missed due to my son being born. The first day, my wife was sick and rushed to the hospita, being a high-risk pregnancy I wanted to be there for support. I left at 12:00pm that day, they let out the class at 12:30pm on that same day, yet still counted me absent. The second day, they induced my wifes labor, so again at around 1pm that day I rushed to the hospital afraid I would miss something. As it turns out, I did miss something that day my opportunities were dwindling away before my eyes and I was painfully unaware of the situation.

I was told by my instructor I could miss 3 days PER semester, the following semester I'm told that it's actually 3 days the entire year by a different instructor which was confirmed by the board of nursing for my state. I entered my last semester not having missed another day and being top in my class the previous semesters. Yesterday, I was reporting to my clinical site at the hospital and was arrested for driving with a suspended license. Subsequently I missed that day at clinicals tallying my third absence for the entire time I've been in Nursing school. Now I'm being told I am being removed from the class, and have to restart the entire program in TWO YEARS.

So because I had an immediate family medical emergency, and then was arrested for something I had no clue about I am now once again back at square one with the beginning of my life at my fingertips. What a technicality. It's not like I ever just decided I didn't want to be at school either of those 3 days. I was appeared for every day ready to work. Then, I get shat on and tossed in the trash like some deliquent.

You may be wondering why I was driving with a suspended license. Here's why, 1. I didn't know my license was supsended or I would have arranged for alternative methods of transportation. 2. I got into an accident 2 years ago and my insurance had just expired. I paid my debts to the county I got into the wreck with, I paid for my cars damages, and the other parties damages as well even though the wreck technically was not my fault since I was T-Boned at a redlight. During the course of geting all of this taken care of I thought I was squared up, and things were fine. Apparently there were additional tickets lingering in the background that I was not informed about, yet required to pay to the state for the no insurance accident. I paid 1. state ticket, assuming that was that, and it was final. Unknowingly, I had to pay two more. I find myself wondering, where the hell was my notification?

Since this appears to be a long rant about my life hitting misfortune, and should probably be a blog-post. I'll ask you guys, what should I do? I still have a son, and a wife that I need to take care of. Now, I'm jobless, no future because I was discharged from school and am back at square one.

"Today, I find out that my lifes work essentially has been tossed in the trash..."
My advice:
Get used to it... ? :P

Shouldn't you be able to at least get the newborn-related absences excused? A school only allowing 3 absences per year regardless of situation seems extremely harsh. I wasn't in nursing but I know all of my teachers were understanding of my situation when I had to stay in the hospital for a week and so they excused those absences. JML897

You would think that an immediate family medical emergency such as your wife going into labor and having the fruit of your loins would be excused. Unfortunately, I found out a few moments ago the absentee policy is not implemented by the school it's self, but by the board of nursing in my state. So unless I appeal to the board there is nothing I can. Even if I do appeal to the board, it would cost me classroom time waiting on their response. The sad reality of the situation is that I was literally 3 months away from graduation and I never once INTENDED to miss school. I never decided "Hey, hurr durr I dun wan 2 be here, not cummin". I even called the school from the back of the cop car to inform them my current situation, rather than calling my family.

I have a meeting with the school on Tuesday, where they will explain the situation and why I'm being kicked out, a mere formality is all. However, I DO plan to go the dean, although I fear my efforts will be futile and I do plan on contacting the board on the way to the meeting to discuss the family medical emergency.

"Today, I find out that my lifes work essentially has been tossed in the trash..."
My advice:
Get used to it... ? :P

Matthew-first

How helpful of you. You must be apathetic because you're always getting fooled around like me. I feel for you, it sucks.. Doesn't it?

What can I say? Everything went wrong for you and it wasn' t even your fault so you have the right to be mad. I know you must have already thought about it so it won' t be much help but, do whatever it takes to fix the situation. Talk to the board and try to make them understand.

What state are you in?

Life isn't fair. :(

I hear a lot of BS about nursing programs lately.

My sister was recently removed from a nursing program after they unilaterally changed a contract she signed. When she first started the program she signed a contract with the school stating she understood her responsibilities and would maintain a specifc GPA or higher.

Three years into her four year program the school unilaterally (as in without contacting the students with which they held the contracts) raised the GPA requirements. My sister was just below the requirement (and not even in the school of nursing, simply in her general education including mathematics and a foreign language, both of which she did poorly in). I keep telling her she should sue them, but she is an emotional wreck because no other nursing programs are accepting entries any time soon and after six months out of school all of her student loan debt will start gathering interest and require repayment. Not to mention she had a 50% tuition scholarship granted by a hospital on the condition she graduate and work for them for 3 years afterward. They tell her she must repay that money in full at six months.

In any case OP, I would appeal if at all possibly and explain the situation. If that doesn't work then I guess you are sh-t out of luck because they had strict requirements that I assume were clearly defined somewhere (in writing) (obviously not clearly defined in class, but humans make mistakes, which is why you read those requirements for yourself). All you can do from then is restart.

I find it seriously hard to believe that you had no clue your licence was suspended.worlock77

I really dont get the appeal of college, a lot of people just rack up debt, they MIGHT get a good paying job, but its all social anyways. You spend a bunch of money on them, in return they treat you like a child, or worst. i think you sort of have to blame yourself honestly, I am pretty sure you would know if your license was suspended. Sounds like you need to clean up your life, luckily the problem is you think you want to be a hospital worker, and have put all your cards into a single aspect of life. Luckily, there are always alternatives, I hope you dont have thousands of dollars of debt. Of course there is someone out there that has a **** life, but for the most part, we do have a lot of choise what happens to us.

so I hope that helps ease your tension, I know what it is like to do a bunch of work... For it all to be sunk down really fast, not quite as bad, luckily I just dont invest too much. the best thing to do is to think positively, and think about your future being full of new opportunities, it might sound like a tough sell now. But believe me, time changes a lot of things. So count your losses and just move on to something more worth your time.

I find it seriously hard to believe that you had no clue your licence was suspended.worlock77

This has happened to a few people that I know.

[QUOTE="worlock77"]I find it seriously hard to believe that you had no clue your licence was suspended.hartsickdiscipl

This has happened to a few people that I know.