Am I An Abusive Boyfriend?

last night me and my girl were aguring about something completely meaningless and I finally gave up because I didn't particularly care for what we were arguing about, but she kept pestering me and pestering me. finally the conversation ends and she says to me "youre so weak". now i never laid a finger on her before what she said struck a nerve in me this time. I got in her face and pushed her into the wall (we were standing at the side of my house). She said I hurt her arm and she was fighting back tears. I said sorry and she forgave me but i felt bad the rest of the night. I didnt mean to hurt her i just got pissed and lost my head for a minute

does this incidient make me an abusive boyfriend:?

Boogie_J

[QUOTE="vlin1108"][QUOTE="Theokhoth"]

Um, no?

clayron

Parents could slap their children a bit if they didn't shut up. Why not women? They aren't children anymore, so I'm givin' it two thumbs up because of that. They are the ones who should learn to practice self-restraint.

No, you need to practice self-restraint. There is so much wrong with what you are saying. 1. Children should never be hit across the face, they should be disciplined but the face is a sensitive area. 2. You condone striking women. What would you do if a man hit your mother because she was talking? 3. How can you expect someone to have self-restraint if you always haul off and slap people. 4. What gives you the right to harm another person?

Fair enough, my dad didn't slap me across the face very often, just hit me with the belt and here I am; I turned out just fine. If that's what you mean by 'disciplined.'

Only in special cases. I wouldn't mind getting hit by a woman; I'd prefer it compared to having her scream in my ear for the next 10 minutes. Heck, I wouldn't mind getting scratched, bitten or strangled a little during sexual intercourse.

You misunderstand me. I wouldn't just go hitting a woman I barely know because she's screaming at me. I'd most likely shove her out of my way but I wouldn't hit a woman I don't know.

Isn't the woman harming me first when she's screaming? My ears are very perceptive to sound; she'd do more damage to me than I'd do to her if I'd slap her.

[QUOTE="remmbermytitans"][QUOTE="vlin1108"]Hitting a woman is okay if she can't shut up. There are some messed up things happening in the world; if you would be allowed to slap your woman around a little she may learn how to shut up and take care of her children, to raise them properly. Women don't seem to be doing very well at that.vlin1108

I've never been to America myself, but I've heard you can go to jail for slapping a woman once. It seems true enough; do you live there? I don't have anything against Americans, just for the record.

Fair enough, my dad didn't slap me across the face very often, just hit me with the belt and here I am; I turned out just fine.

vlin1108

I dispute this claim.

[QUOTE="jamejame"]Well I wouldn't say you're abusive, just short tempered. There was no need to push your girlfriend at all, she was just messing with you and you took it too far. If it were one of the guys that would have been different, but physically pushing around a girl (much less your girlfriend) is never okay in my opinion.clayron

No. Women need to know who the boss is. Devour2Survive

lol my cousin was telling me the same thing

Yes that is abusive. By the sounds of it, she was right. You are weak.Bourbons3

Sorry dude but yes you would be.