Anyone here who is also g@y but don't know how to respond to transgenders?

I am gay but when I see a transgender I get wierded out. I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a woman, gay be gay straight be straight. But when I meet someone who is trangendered I dont know how to be around them. It wierds me out. But I feel so bad because I know that they feel better and they have gone through something similar to what I have except changing sexes. I know they get it even worse than being gay....I dunno, I just feel bad about it. I am lost when I meet transgenders but sympathetic towards them at the same time.

Anyhere in the same position?

If I was gay I wouldn't play that opposite gender role. Fightingfan

We have a new co-worker at work that is transgendered and I honestly don't know what to say. So I just keep it light and friendly and avoid the use of pronouns lol. 

I'm transgender but don't know how to respond to gay people.

I mean gender is largely a social construct so you can be anything you want but if you like the same sex then that's sort of opposite of your natural biological imperative, I don't know how to be around someone like that.

I'm transgender but don't know how to respond to gay people.

I mean gender is largely a social construct so you can be anything you want but if you like the same sex then that's sort of opposite of your natural biological imperative, I don't know how to be around someone like that.

SailorSatourne

If I was gay I wouldn't play that opposite gender role. Fightingfan

I say this without trying to offend. 

But how is that the case? You can't chose gender any more than you can your race

Canuck3000

I was just parodying the opening post, it wasn't meant to be serious. >_>

I suppose people dont always feel comfortable with something they arent familiar with.  It's not unusual to feel a little bit "weirded out".  It's just how you respond to that feeling that matters.  Doesnt sound like you are a hateful or close minded person.

i don't see how being gay would influence your response to transgenders. you'd respond to someone just how anybody else would.

As a gay guy, transgender are in their own category. They are not attractive, but I'm not scared of them. They are just like normal people. That would be rude Foxi911

I'm transgender but don't know how to respond to gay people.

I mean gender is largely a social construct so you can be anything you want but if you like the same sex then that's sort of opposite of your natural biological imperative, I don't know how to be around someone like that.

SailorSatourne

I am gay but when I see a transgender I get wierded out. I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a woman, gay be gay straight be straight. But when I meet someone who is trangendered I dont know how to be around them. It wierds me out. But I feel so bad because I know that they feel better and they have gone through something similar to what I have except changing sexes. I know they get it even worse than being gay....I dunno, I just feel bad about it. I am lost when I meet transgenders but sympathetic towards them at the same time.

 

Anyhere in the same position?

rhoads90

As a gay guy, transgender are in their own category. They are not attractive, but I'm not scared of them. They are just like normal people. That would be rude Foxi911

I usually respond with a hello.

95% of Gay Men actually act like women so....???FelipeInside

Please

That statistic is more like 100% because no REAL man would commit the sin that is homosexuality.

[QUOTE="SailorSatourne"]

I'm transgender but don't know how to respond to gay people.

I mean gender is largely a social construct so you can be anything you want but if you like the same sex then that's sort of opposite of your natural biological imperative, I don't know how to be around someone like that.

Canuck3000

[QUOTE="rhoads90"]

I am gay but when I see a transgender I get wierded out. I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a woman, gay be gay straight be straight. But when I meet someone who is trangendered I dont know how to be around them. It wierds me out. But I feel so bad because I know that they feel better and they have gone through something similar to what I have except changing sexes. I know they get it even worse than being gay....I dunno, I just feel bad about it. I am lost when I meet transgenders but sympathetic towards them at the same time.

 

Anyhere in the same position?

FelipeInside

[QUOTE="Foxi911"]As a gay guy, transgender are in their own category. They are not attractive, but I'm not scared of them. They are just like normal people. That would be rude rhoads90

I usually respond with a hello.

[QUOTE="FelipeInside"] 95% of Gay Men actually act like women so....???Slashless

Please

That statistic is more like 100% because no REAL man would commit the sin that is homosexuality.

[QUOTE="rhoads90"][QUOTE="Foxi911"]As a gay guy, transgender are in their own category. They are not attractive, but I'm not scared of them. They are just like normal people. That would be rude Yusuke420

[QUOTE="Foxi911"]As a gay guy, transgender are in their own category. They are not attractive, but I'm not scared of them. They are just like normal people. That would be rude rhoads90

lol
seriously though, i agree.

I'm straight but if I ended up dating and marrying a woman, and she turned out to have been born a man the entire time.
that would just eff me up in every way possible.

the same with extreme plastic surgery(a little bit doesnt hurt, but a few ppl's face literally changes 100% different)

 
they can dress the way they like, and i know its a free country and all but its still very very awkward and offputting. 

[QUOTE="FelipeInside"][QUOTE="rhoads90"]

I am gay but when I see a transgender I get wierded out. I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a woman, gay be gay straight be straight. But when I meet someone who is trangendered I dont know how to be around them. It wierds me out. But I feel so bad because I know that they feel better and they have gone through something similar to what I have except changing sexes. I know they get it even worse than being gay....I dunno, I just feel bad about it. I am lost when I meet transgenders but sympathetic towards them at the same time.

 

Anyhere in the same position?

rhoads90

I ain't talking about movies, I'm talking about the gay men I know through friends, relatives etc. I'm not saying they are ALL like that, but the majority for sure.

As for movies, why do you think they are represented like that?  Same point, cause the majority are.

[QUOTE="FelipeInside"][QUOTE="rhoads90"]

I am gay but when I see a transgender I get wierded out. I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a woman, gay be gay straight be straight. But when I meet someone who is trangendered I dont know how to be around them. It wierds me out. But I feel so bad because I know that they feel better and they have gone through something similar to what I have except changing sexes. I know they get it even worse than being gay....I dunno, I just feel bad about it. I am lost when I meet transgenders but sympathetic towards them at the same time.

 

Anyhere in the same position?

rhoads90

Sorry to be Devil's Advocate here, but you say you are gay and people should act what they are.

95% of Gay Men actually act like women so....???

You don't know anything. What you see on movies and tv is not the case. I would say 80% of gay people I meet in life and clubs are not feminine.

lol
the gay men that act like women(the flamboyant ones lol), and the lesbians that act and dress like men are extremely awkward to be around.
try hanging with a group of lesbians that think they're men. its extremely awkward.

Well, us gay people know we were born gay And scientists agree that is isn't a choice, and you can't prove we choose to be this way. You can prove someone was born man or woman, and that they chose to change. so we aren't comparable.rhoads90

lol
seriously though, i agree.

I'm straight but if I ended up dating and marrying a woman, and she turned out to have been born a man the entire time.
that would just eff me up in every way possible.

the same with extreme plastic surgery(a little bit doesnt hurt, but a few ppl's face literally changes 100% different)

 
they can dress the way they like, and i know its a free country and all but its still very very awkward and offputting. 

Hakumen21

I take the view that it's a surgical solution for a psychological problem. Cross-dressing never bothered me but the mere thought of surgically constructed genitals and all that that entails is sickeneing. 

[QUOTE="lamprey263"][QUOTE="rhoads90"]Well, us gay people know we were born gay And scientists agree that is isn't a choice, and you can't prove we choose to be this way. You can prove someone was born man or woman, and that they chose to change. so we aren't comparable.magicalclick

I can tell you one thing. I would never be gay in my home country because they are so unattractive. I turn gay because western bears are so ***drool***. I am born to drool on western bears. Just like I am born to like chocolate ice cream. But, it is my choice to pursuit further, or I should clearify, it is my choice to be myself. I can always choose to lie to myself and be str8 if I have too. One has to survive before he can allocate his resources on luxery items such as true love.

[QUOTE="FelipeInside"] That may be true, but then how do you explain that I can 99.9999% of the time tell when a Man is gaymagicalclick

Yes, they are flaming gay Can you detect closet gays? You can't even verify that when no one knows except himself. Most of professional gays are quite discrete and you don't see them in clubs.

[QUOTE="rhoads90"]Well, us gay people know we were born gay And scientists agree that is isn't a choice, and you can't prove we choose to be this way. You can prove someone was born man or woman, and that they chose to change. so we aren't comparable.lamprey263

For some it's a choice, if they want to be with a man or a woman.  That's called being bisexual. 

But generally speaking, there's a spectrum, and there's very little a person can do to change where they fit on that spectrum.

We have a new co-worker at work that is transgendered and I honestly don't know what to say. So I just keep it light and friendly and avoid the use of pronouns lol. 

Yusuke420

[QUOTE="Hakumen21"]

lol
seriously though, i agree.

I'm straight but if I ended up dating and marrying a woman, and she turned out to have been born a man the entire time.
that would just eff me up in every way possible.

the same with extreme plastic surgery(a little bit doesnt hurt, but a few ppl's face literally changes 100% different)

 
they can dress the way they like, and i know its a free country and all but its still very very awkward and offputting. 

Audacitron

I take the view that it's a surgical solution for a psychological problem. Cross-dressing never bothered me but the mere thought of surgically constructed genitals and all that that entails is sickeneing. 

I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a womanrhoads90

[QUOTE="rhoads90"] I feel like if you are a man, be a man, if you are a woman, be a womanswivet-

[QUOTE="Foxi911"][QUOTE="magicalclick"]

I can tell you one thing. I would never be gay in my home country because they are so unattractive. I turn gay because western bears are so ***drool***. I am born to drool on western bears. Just like I am born to like chocolate ice cream. But, it is my choice to pursuit further, or I should clearify, it is my choice to be myself. I can always choose to lie to myself and be str8 if I have too. One has to survive before he can allocate his resources on luxery items such as true love.

magicalclick

What I like is not a choice. But, like I said, I can always choose to lie to myself if the society is going to leench gays. The actual action is a choice desipte one's preference.