asking a girl out over IM- is that bad?

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#1 deactivated-5a385958ec9cd
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someone I talked to said that...

i need other opinions

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#3 nickmag
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well it's certainly better than asking them out on an internet gaming forum :P
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#4 Bobby_Oz
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Its becoming more a norm in this day and age.  Ive had a few friends do this.  Seems to work well considering you feel less pressure and can devle into somthing without coming off unnaturally.  Both friends of mine who did it have stayed together for 2 years and 3 years now.
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#5 LJS9502_basic
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In person is better......
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#6 deactivated-5a385958ec9cd
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In person is better......LJS9502_basic

I'm not afraid to ask anyone out... I just hate doing in the middle of everyone

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#7 deactivated-5a385958ec9cd
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bump

I haven't done that in ages

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#8 Samwel_X
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Heh. Asking someone out in person is the better option but if its anything like stuff i've done it can all go wrong.
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#9 6icks_tea_4hoar
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it's better than not asking them out at all.
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#10 TheOT_King
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someone I talked to said that...

i need other opinions

jango7192
I think it depends on the girl... but it is generally considered much better to ask someone out in person.
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#11 daniel52587
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In person is better......LJS9502_basic
QFT.
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#12 foxhound_fox
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Yes. Not showing confidence sews doubt from beginning. And conversing impersonally over IM does that oh so well.

Just go up to her and do it. Don't think about, just do it.
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#13 southy787
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Hmm, I'd rather do it in person myself.
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#14 Spartan-051
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In person is better......LJS9502_basic

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]In person is better......jango7192

I'm not afraid to ask anyone out... I just hate doing in the middle of everyone

yeah me too but its fine once you get it done
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#15 luke1889
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Asking a girl out in person is the only way to go, in my opinion.
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#16 bluezy
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[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]In person is better......jango7192

I'm not afraid to ask anyone out... I just hate doing in the middle of everyone

You don't have to go in the middle of the Black Friday rush, you know. Go somewhere for the two of you to be alone.
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#17 queenfan66
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id do that i dont no when i can ask out mine in school and i dont want rumor control to catch it
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#18 deactivated-5b4bf92fc902e
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Not so bad. If you get rejected, it wouldn't feel as bad.

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#19 kyleali11
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I'm going to ask the girl over msn, to meet me outside, then I could ask her.
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#20 staindcoldlp
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I think it's bad. Either in person or over the phone is a lot better.
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#21 dodgerblue13
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Try doing it in person or at least on the phone. IM is kinda lame to ask someone out.
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#22 Undoing_Ruin
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Should just call her up.
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#23 xwolfghost
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In person is better. Makes you look better
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#24 Brainkiller05
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It's not bad.
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#25 mumotuma_man
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I'm going to ask the girl over msn, to meet me outside, then I could ask her.kyleali11
thats still fine. as long as the act is in person you dont come off looking like a loser.
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#26 metallica_fan42
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It can work, but talking to them in person is much better.
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#27 double_decker
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I would never do that personally... but you never know for sure... each women is different and would react in a different way. But I have always prefered to ask in person so I can look into their eyes and vice versa that way the level of sincerity can be judged accordingly... but whatever way you feel more comfortable with is the one you should go with. If that's not good enough for her then you are better off finding someone who understands your communication needs better:)
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#28 xXBuffJeffXx
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I'm a pretty shy guy so I asked somebody on a date over the phone, which is a small step up from AIM, I guess. I asked them out in person, though.
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#29 xwolfghost
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I would never do that personally... but you never know for sure... each women is different and would react in a different way. But I have always prefered to ask in person so I can look into their eyes and vice versa that way the level of sincerity can be judged accordingly... but whatever way you feel more comfortable with is the one you should go with. If that's not good enough for her then you are better off finding someone who understands your communication needs better:)double_decker
Touching :P
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#31 double_decker
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Touching :Pxwolfghost
No... touching is when you reach out and make contact with another person... *smacks you* Like that:P:lol: Where have you been haven't saw you around for a while:(
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#32 xwolfghost
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[QUOTE="double_decker"] No... touching is when you reach out and make contact with another person... *smacks you* Like that:P:lol: Where have you been haven't saw you around for a while:(

I have had a lot of homework lately. Speaking of which I should get starting on it soon
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#33 194197844077667059316682358889
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Depends on the people involved, as with most things
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#34 double_decker
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I have had a lot of homework lately. Speaking of which I should get starting on it soonxwolfghost
That sucks:( But homework is important:| I'm sure I will see you around... just don't forget me:)
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#35 newbpwnage
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well if you ask her to do somethin thats fine, but if you say you wanna go out with me... thats just lame.
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#36 Articuno76
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Not really, nor breaking up over the phone or text. I'd prefer to do it in person though, it seems a bit wimpy not too, but then all the girls I've talked to haven't found using a message to be impersonal or anything like that, at least not to the same extent that a confrontation prone bloke might. I was actually quite surprised to learn that, but I guess women are weird...at the end of the day you should care about how she perceives the way you ask her out, not how big it makes you feel, and since women are pretty much non-plussed either way it doesn't matter. In person can potentially be better (or worse), but impersonal isn't rarely a bad sign in and of itself, quite neutral.

The most common method I have seen is to not ask them out in person at all, but just strike up conversation, get their number as you leave and then call them the next day and ask over the phone, that way you get the best of both worlds.

 

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#37 PaperMario97
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That's pathetic.
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#38 xwolfghost
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[QUOTE="double_decker"] That sucks:( But homework is important:| I'm sure I will see you around... just don't forget me:)

Forget you? :o Never! :P
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#39 Outsider-G
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Ask her out in person.
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#40 GameFreak315
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I don't know if it's necessarily "bad"...but it didn't work when I tried.  :P
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#41 04JETTA
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in person is better but AIM is not that bad i dont think