Dating advice?

Hey OT, long-time lurker, infrequent poster here.

Today, I called up a girl I know from highschool (we're both 16) and suggested we hang out. I picked her up at her house and we went to see a movie (Kung Fu Panda...her choice). It went pretty well. It seemed like she had fun, since she was really talkative and friendly. But here's the problem... I'm a pretty insecure person (I'm getting better though), and I've never really went on a date before. I like this girl, and I'd like to think it was a date, but I'm not sure she thinks the same way. I'd like to do something else with her soon, but I'd like for it be an actual date. Any advice with this? How should I suggest this, or imply, that I'd like it to be an actual date? Or should I not, and just hope that some sort of connection will happen?

Signed,

a confused teen who's new to this whole dating thing. :S

Touch her shoulder and she'll understand...:|

Hey OT, long-time lurker, infrequent poster here.

Today, I called up a girl I know from highschool (we're both 16) and suggested we hang out. I picked her up at her house and we went to see a movie (Kung Fu Panda...her choice). It went pretty well. It seemed like she had fun, since she was really talkative and friendly. But here's the problem... I'm a pretty insecure person (I'm getting better though), and I've never really went on a date before. I like this girl, and I'd like to think it was a date, but I'm not sure she thinks the same way. I'd like to do something else with her soon, but I'd like for it be an actual date. Any advice with this? How should I suggest this, or imply, that I'd like it to be an actual date? Or should I not, and just hope that some sort of connection will happen?

Signed,

a confused teen who's new to this whole dating thing. :S

thorboy03

My advice is this: Forget about whether it was a date. If the two of you had a good time, then that is all that matters. Try to be a friend to her. If something more develops, then that's all well and good. If you two end up being just great friends, then that is wonderful. Trying to push the dating agenda on her might cause something to happen that would decrease your chances of creating a meaningful relationship.

I can understand your desire for her to acknowledge your attempts, but just take joy in the knowledge that you can provide a great evening for her.

For now, at least.

Well first off, you've come to the right place. OT = dating advice heaven lol.

Jokes aside, the best idea is to be straight up with her. This may sound like the obvious answer, but trust me, if you want to be a more secure individual the only way to do that is to be honest. Ask her if she'd like to go out on a date with you, if she raises any questions about it it being a date be honest and tell her the truth that yeah, you'd like to get to know her better and it would be a date. Being honest is a great way to start a healthy relationship! :)

Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.dracula_16

Do this, very solid advice my friend.

Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.dracula_16

Personally, that sounds as though it is moving too fast. Going for a kiss on a second date? No thanks...

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.UTXII

Do this, very solid advice my friend.

Thanks, bud. :)

WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONETheCraving

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONEMaster_Sword91

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

My advice is this: Forget about whether it was a date. If the two of you had a good time, then that is all that matters. Try to be a friend to her. If something more develops, then that's all well and good. If you two end up being just great friends, then that is wonderful. Trying to push the dating agenda on her might cause something to happen that would decrease your chances of creating a meaningful relationship.

I can understand your desire for her to acknowledge your attempts, but just take joy in the knowledge that you can provide a great evening for her.

For now, at least.

muthsera666

That's good advice. There's no need to rush things.

[QUOTE="Master_Sword91"]

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONETheCraving

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Now THIS isn't what you do. :|

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.muthsera666

Personally, that sounds as though it is moving too fast. Going for a kiss on a second date? No thanks...

Well you have to read body language. If she seems uncomfortable when you put your arm around her then yeah, you shouldn't force yourself on her. I just made my initial post assuming that this girl was interested in the topic creator.

My advice is this: Forget about whether it was a date. If the two of you had a good time, then that is all that matters. Try to be a friend to her. If something more develops, then that's all well and good. If you two end up being just great friends, then that is wonderful. Trying to push the dating agenda on her might cause something to happen that would decrease your chances of creating a meaningful relationship.

I can understand your desire for her to acknowledge your attempts, but just take joy in the knowledge that you can provide a great evening for her.

For now, at least.

muthsera666

I think this is the best advice. The other suggestion seemed like it was rushing it a little bit.

[QUOTE="TheCraving"][QUOTE="Master_Sword91"]

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONEUTXII

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Now THIS isn't what you do. :|

unless she's a porn star ;)

[QUOTE="UTXII"][QUOTE="TheCraving"][QUOTE="Master_Sword91"]

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONEfirebreathing

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Now THIS isn't what you do. :|

unless she's a porn star ;)

Precisely! :P

[QUOTE="muthsera666"]

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.dracula_16

Personally, that sounds as though it is moving too fast. Going for a kiss on a second date? No thanks...

Well you have to read body language. If she seems uncomfortable when you put your arm around her then yeah, you shouldn't force yourself on her. I just made my initial post assuming that this girl was interested in the topic creator.

Ah. I see your point. It is a valid point.

But I would still wait longer, personally. :P

know this.............................NEVER compliment a girl on her looks, or anything else. Unless you WANT to be the wussy boring typical guy who's just like everyone else. Instead make fun of how she dresses or anyhing else about her, but don't be an ass about it. As for being insecure, I suggest you look up deep What inner game..............you knnow where to find it. firebreathing

What are you talking about? Girls hate that. Take that advice from a girl. You do that and you'll get a slap to the face. So I suggest you stop giving out what you THINK you're supposed to do. Probably because you've never had the guts to try it. If you had, you would've known it's wrong.

[QUOTE="firebreathing"]know this.............................NEVER compliment a girl on her looks, or anything else. Unless you WANT to be the wussy boring typical guy who's just like everyone else. Instead make fun of how she dresses or anyhing else about her, but don't be an ass about it. As for being insecure, I suggest you look up deep What inner game..............you knnow where to find it. Athie-Marie

What are you talking about? Girls hate that. Take that advice from a girl. You do that and you'll get a slap to the face. So I suggest you stop giving out what you THINK you're supposed to do. Probably because you've never had the guts to try it. If you had, you would've known it's wrong.

Win! :D

[QUOTE="TheCraving"][QUOTE="Master_Sword91"]

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONEUTXII

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Now THIS isn't what you do. :|

Alright fine!

Phone her, ask her out, but DO NOT mention it as a date. Just simple ask her if she'd like to go somewhere, see a film. Or better yet, see a film then go get some food, a good conversation there for the meal. Afterwards, walk her home, hopefully it will be a clear night and you can walk slowly, breathing in the night air together. It may be cool, so you can walk slow and take your time. Make conversation in this time. Ask about her and show her you care care by doing this.

When you reach her house, look her in the eyes. If she looks directly back then there is a good chance. Although, she could look away since she's embarrassed and shy, look for signs of her playing with her hair, tucking it behind her ear or biting her bottom lip.

This is the golden moment. Lean in close, make sure you have mints or chewing gum. Brush your hand lightly across her cheek, caress her skin as your fingers push her hair from her face. Put your hand on the back of her neck and gently pull her to you. Lean in and kiss her gently, but not soppy and no tongues, just a nice, few second kiss on the lips.

If she kisses back, happily whip out your peice and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Yes.

[QUOTE="UTXII"][QUOTE="TheCraving"][QUOTE="Master_Sword91"]

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]WHATS THE POINT!? YOU'RE ONLY GOING TO DIE ALONE ANYWAY!!!!11111111ONETheCraving

If you really think that way then why even bother living anymore?

I was joking mate (hence the '111111oneoneone)

I say just ask her. Be confident. Whip your peice out and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Now THIS isn't what you do. :|

Alright fine!

Phone her, ask her out, but DO NOT mention it as a date. Just simple ask her if she'd like to go somewhere, see a film. Or better yet, see a film then go get some food, a good conversation there for the meal. Afterwards, walk her home, hopefully it will be a clear night and you can walk slowly, breathing in the night air together. It may be cool, so you can walk slow and take your time. Make conversation in this time. Ask about her and show her you care care by doing this.

When you reach her house, look her in the eyes. If she looks directly back then there is a good chance. Although, she could look away since she's embarrassed and shy, look for signs of her playing with her hair, tucking it behind her ear or biting her bottom lip.

This is the golden moment. Lean in close, make sure you have mints or chewing gum. Brush your hand lightly across her cheek, caress her skin as your fingers push her hair from her face. Put your hand on the back of her neck and gently pull her to you. Lean in and kiss her gently, but not soppy and no tongues, just a nice, few second kiss on the lips.

If she kisses back, happily whip out your peice and slap her in the face with it. Aw yeah.

Aw Yeah! :lol:

Phone her, ask her out, but DO NOT mention it as a date. Just simple ask her if she'd like to go somewhere, see a film. Or better yet, see a film then go get some food, a good conversation there for the meal. Afterwards, walk her home, hopefully it will be a clear night and you can walk slowly, breathing in the night air together. It may be cool, so you can walk slow and take your time. Make conversation in this time. Ask about her and show her you care care by doing this.

When you reach her house, look her in the eyes. If she looks directly back then there is a good chance. Tell her that you enjoyed the night and would like to do it again soon. Tell her that you will call her in a few days and try to arrange some time that is suitable for the two of you. Say good-night, and leaver her.

TheCraving

There. Fixed.

:)

[QUOTE="TheCraving"]

Phone her, ask her out, but DO NOT mention it as a date. Just simple ask her if she'd like to go somewhere, see a film. Or better yet, see a film then go get some food, a good conversation there for the meal. Afterwards, walk her home, hopefully it will be a clear night and you can walk slowly, breathing in the night air together. It may be cool, so you can walk slow and take your time. Make conversation in this time. Ask about her and show her you care care by doing this.

When you reach her house, look her in the eyes. If she looks directly back then there is a good chance. Tell her that you enjoyed the night and would like to do it again soon. Tell her that you will call her in a few days and try to arrange some time that is suitable for the two of you. Say good-night, and leaver her. Before leaving, whip out your peice and slap her in the face. Aw yeah.

muthsera666

There. Fixed.

:)

Ok... So here's a new question. When do I invite her for another "date"? I don't want to ask too soon and seem desperate or anything. Also, do you think I should take her to a movie again or something else?thorboy03

Be candid with her. Tell her that you enjoyed the time together and you would like to do it again. Ask where she would like to go, and list a couple of general options: get something to eat, see a movie, maybe to a local mall. Don't necessarily go into specifics with it, just keep it general until she tells you what she would like to do.

Around three or four days after the first date should be about right, I think.

[QUOTE="thorboy03"]Ok... So here's a new question. When do I invite her for another "date"? I don't want to ask too soon and seem desperate or anything. Also, do you think I should take her to a movie again or something else?muthsera666

Be candid with her. Tell her that you enjoyed the time together and you would like to do it again. Ask where she would like to go, and list a couple of general options: get something to eat, see a movie, maybe to a local mall. Don't necessarily go into specifics with it, just keep it general until she tells you what she would like to do.

Around three or four days after the first date should be about right, I think.

Exactamungo. Perfect.

Holy Crap. The same exact thing happened to me. I went to kung fu panda with a girl and i had feelings just like that.

Creepy...

Holy Crap. The same exact thing happened to me. I went to kung fu panda with a girl and i had feelings just like that.

Creepy...

chicken_dude_05

:o

[QUOTE="dracula_16"]Ask if she's attracted to you; if she says yes then go on another date with her. Let's say you go to another movie... be sure to put your arm around her and/or kiss her at some point to show that you're interested. I know what it's like to be in your position....reminds me of my first girlfriend.muthsera666

Personally, that sounds as though it is moving too fast. Going for a kiss on a second date? No thanks...

Seriously lol. I think his first girlfriend was a prostitute.

update! I'm taking her to see Dark Knight on the 17th. :)thorboy03

update! I'm taking her to see Dark Knight on the 17th. :)thorboy03

Sounds like a good plan. Good luck with everything!

[QUOTE="thorboy03"]update! I'm taking her to see Dark Knight on the 17th. :)muthsera666

Sounds like a good plan. Good luck with everything!

Thanks. I think I'm going to try to do something between now and then too. That's over a week away. :P

Hey OT, long-time lurker, infrequent poster here.

Today, I called up a girl I know from highschool (we're both 16) and suggested we hang out. I picked her up at her house and we went to see a movie (Kung Fu Panda...her choice). It went pretty well. It seemed like she had fun, since she was really talkative and friendly. But here's the problem... I'm a pretty insecure person (I'm getting better though), and I've never really went on a date before. I like this girl, and I'd like to think it was a date, but I'm not sure she thinks the same way. I'd like to do something else with her soon, but I'd like for it be an actual date. Any advice with this? How should I suggest this, or imply, that I'd like it to be an actual date? Or should I not, and just hope that some sort of connection will happen?

Signed,

a confused teen who's new to this whole dating thing. :S

thorboy03

my advice hang out with her a couple of times, then after the 3-4 hangout ask her out then thats a real date. for now try the best you can to get to know each other.

[QUOTE="thorboy03"]

Hey OT, long-time lurker, infrequent poster here.

Today, I called up a girl I know from highschool (we're both 16) and suggested we hang out. I picked her up at her house and we went to see a movie (Kung Fu Panda...her choice). It went pretty well. It seemed like she had fun, since she was really talkative and friendly. But here's the problem... I'm a pretty insecure person (I'm getting better though), and I've never really went on a date before. I like this girl, and I'd like to think it was a date, but I'm not sure she thinks the same way. I'd like to do something else with her soon, but I'd like for it be an actual date. Any advice with this? How should I suggest this, or imply, that I'd like it to be an actual date? Or should I not, and just hope that some sort of connection will happen?

Signed,

a confused teen who's new to this whole dating thing. :S

Travo_basic

Yep go eat somewhere it always works.

Always and i mean ALWAYS make sure its her choice of where to go to eat the first time so if the food sucks it aint your fault!

Just ask if she want's to go see a movie or something sometime, if you have something between you it should just slot into place