depression

I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

What kind of help do you want?

I feel your pain I never feel any emotion im always numb. And although I do not cut myself sometimes I squeeze my nuts real hard and smash them with rubber mallet's just fo fun. It's the only thing that reminds me Im alive.Mr_ToastMan

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Rubber mallets....

[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.ElectronicMagic

What kind of help do you want?

I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

There is such a thing as doctor/patient confidentiality. Tell your parents you feel sick and want to see the doctor, when you're with him/her behind closed doors tell the doc. He'll be able to set up appointments with a professional so you can see them without your parents knowing.

I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

Good luck with that one..

A future tip: Coming to a gaming forum usually isn't the best help. Go get professional help. You don't have your own insurance? Well looks like your going to go have a nice little talk with your parents.

What else could we tell you to do? This just sounds like your asking for pity, sorry bud.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

What kind of help do you want?

I understand. A therapist is all I know that could work, but your parents would find out. Do you have a close friend you can talk to?

I'm not suicidal. It just helps deal with my emotions. I'm afraid that if I tell someone that they will think I'm crazy or something. I don't want to go to counciling but I know that if I tell someone I'm close to that I'll have to go to counciling.pokemonlvr51

I know what you feel, I used to cut myself, it's more chemical than people think, your brain generates serotonin everytime you cut so that's where the satisfaction comes from, but I stopped doing it for aesthetical reasons, my arm is f***** up enough.

Therapist will only brainwash you into their mindset of life and depression.. only you can find the tru meaning of your life and dpression through dealing with it yourself... EatenFruit

Congratulations! You have won the WORST ADVICE OF 2008 AWARD!!! *music*

TC, don't listen to this guy. He's obviously never dealt with what you're dealing with. Call a hotline, set up appointments through your family doctor taking advantage of doctor/patient confidentiality, whatever you have to do, but get in touch with a professional.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.ElectronicMagic

What kind of help do you want?

I understand. A therapist is all I know that could work, but your parents would find out. Do you have a close friend you can talk to?

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

What kind of help do you want?

I understand. A therapist is all I know that could work, but your parents would find out. Do you have a close friend you can talk to?

Well if you want help, it's going to take a long time to get over this. You are going to have to take risks and trust someone(s). It's the only way I can think of that you are going to solve this. It's easier said then done, I know. But if I were you, I would trust either a close friend or a therapist. Either way you are going to have to risk something. That is what life is pretty much all about.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.ElectronicMagic

What kind of help do you want?

I understand. A therapist is all I know that could work, but your parents would find out. Do you have a close friend you can talk to?

Well if you want help, it's going to take a long time to get over this. You are going to have to take risks and trust someone(s). It's the only way I can think of that you are going to solve this. It's easier said then done, I know. But if I were you, I would trust either a close friend or a therapist. Either way you are going to have to risk something. That is what life is pretty much all about.

A close friend is the way to go, my friends made me stop, between us there are no secrets, so we always are helping each other when needed.

I have my best friend who went through cutting...I'm afraid she might tell my parents because she's worried about me.

pokemonlvr51

There's your best bet. Talk to her about it.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.vash47

What kind of help do you want?

I understand. A therapist is all I know that could work, but your parents would find out. Do you have a close friend you can talk to?

Well if you want help, it's going to take a long time to get over this. You are going to have to take risks and trust someone(s). It's the only way I can think of that you are going to solve this. It's easier said then done, I know. But if I were you, I would trust either a close friend or a therapist. Either way you are going to have to risk something. That is what life is pretty much all about.

A close friend is the way to go, my friends made me stop, between us there are no secrets, so we always are helping each other when needed.

Thank you everyone for your advice. I'll try and find help somehow.pokemonlvr51

A: Set up appointments through your family doctor taking advantage of doctor / patient confidentiality.

B: Call an anonomous hotline (google it) and talk to someone

C: Talk to your friend who's been through it, I highly doubt she's tell on you.

D: Tell your parents.

The only WRONG option you can choose is to do nothing and try to deal with it yourself. Let us know how everything goes. Good luck.

Just for everyone to know...I'm a girl...pokemonlvr51

Not being rude but telling us you're a girl or not doesnt really matter. There are hotlines though to help with depression that are free and confidential.

Women are more likely to be depressed than men. What I think you have, is a Borderline Personality Disorder. They're the most likely to cut themselves. I'm sorry I can't remember the best methods of treatment or causes for it, it's been a while since i took my AP Psych :s. But there is treatment for it, don't forget.

Try and seek psychiatrist. Professional help is far more than what we can give you.

How old are you by the way?

Remember that all depression is, is a low supply of the neurotransmitter serotonin in your brain. It's biological, and simple medication can help you feel better.

Your parents want to help you. By not telling them about something that is harming you, you are sort of indirectly hurting them because everything they do to help you won't be as good if you were happier.

You'd be surprised what counseling can do. It's not putting you in a hostile room and treating you like an insane person. You'll have someone very sympathetic and caring, and they'll listen to you. When you talk, you find yourself talking about personal things, and you let go of all those burdens. That psychiatrist won't know you, but she'll help you. She'lll give you medicine and you'll feel better.

Remember that what you're going through, can get worse if you don't treat it. You say that you don't want to tell your parents, but maybe tell them lightly, like, "Mom, I think I may have depression, can you help me?" Or if you want to go a bit farther and a little more crazier, find a psychiatrist, find her phone number, and call her and say you really need help and she can tell you what to do. you'd be surprised how relieved you can get.

Women are more likely to be depressed than men. What I think you have, is a Borderline Personality Disorder. They're the most likely to cut themselves. I'm sorry I can't remember the best methods of treatment or causes for it, it's been a while since i took my AP Psych :s. But there is treatment for it, don't forget.

Try and seek psychiatrist. Professional help is far more than what we can give you.

sToK3d

A psychologist, a psychiatrist would only make things worse, one of the worst things of cutting is that you get addicted to it.

And you are right about the Borderline Disorder.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

What kind of help do you want?

One way of dealing with your emotions is talking about them to the people you trust and love (your parents).. ..You keep on saying that you don't want your parents to know which in a way is subtracting the 2 people that care about you the most...

I'm not suggesting that you talk about the deep seated emotions that you are having trouble with but just the fact that you are having problems period is what you should discuss with them...As for you worring about them being heartbroken, I think you not being able to talk to them about your problems would be a bigger hurt to them...

You will be surprised at just how much they want you to be happy...

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.DanBrim1

What kind of help do you want?

One way of dealing with your emotions is talking about them to the people you trust and love (your parents).. ..You keep on saying that you don't want your parents to know which in a way is subtracting the 2 people that care about you the most...

I'm not suggesting that you talk about the deep seated emotions that you are having trouble with but just the fact that you are having problems period is what you should discuss with them...As for you worring about them being heartbroken, I think you not being able to talk to them about your problems would be a bigger hurt to them...

You will be surprised at just how much they want you to be happy...

Unleast that they are the cause of his depression.

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[QUOTE="pokemonlvr51"]I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.cybercris16

What kind of help do you want?

One way of dealing with your emotions is talking about them to the people you trust and love (your parents).. ..You keep on saying that you don't want your parents to know which in a way is subtracting the 2 people that care about you the most...

I'm not suggesting that you talk about the deep seated emotions that you are having trouble with but just the fact that you are having problems period is what you should discuss with them...As for you worring about them being heartbroken, I think you not being able to talk to them about your problems would be a bigger hurt to them...

You will be surprised at just how much they want you to be happy...

Unleast that they are the cause of his depression.

Yes true.That might be the case. I had problems with my Dad growing up him being an alcoholic at the time, but the talk still had to come when his actions started to have a negitive effect on my life...Was it hard to talk to him and my mother about.( At some points even scream rather then talk) ? Yes, but I was the better for it in the long run.

Yes true.That might be the case. I had problems with my Dad growing up him being an alcoholic at the time, but the talk still had to come when his actions started to have a negitive effect on my life...Was it hard to talk to him and my mother about.( At some points even scream rather then talk) ? Yes, but I was the better for it in the long run.

DanBrim1

My dad is a full time alcoholic, and a part time douche bag, I've learned to cope with it... I just feel sorry for my mom, however my brother and I almost jumped his ass when he hit my mom. Then he ran out of the house and walked around all night and morning. He's just a big kid, thinks he's some jock but he's really just a f4g, and very intemidating considering he's 5''12 and 250lbs.

Women are more likely to be depressed than men. What I think you have, is a Borderline Personality Disorder. They're the most likely to cut themselves. I'm sorry I can't remember the best methods of treatment or causes for it, it's been a while since i took my AP Psych :s. But there is treatment for it, don't forget.

Try and seek psychiatrist. Professional help is far more than what we can give you.

sToK3d

You're the closest so far in terms of diagnosis. However, you don't know enough about her to meet the Axis criteria for that diagnosis. Self-harm and impulsivity are only part of the diagnosis. Individuals with mood disorders can have the exact same problem.

If she does indeed have Borderline traits, then the only thing that will help her are particular therapy modalities and pharmacotherapy to control those specific traits.

honestly i wouldnt get help, i would not take drugs that might alter my brain to make me even more depress and do things i would never do, just get help another way man, tell the closest people to you that your going through hard times and that you want help, and if all else fails i guess then you can take drugs.serjitup

Actually, it has recently been proven using fMRI that antidepressants alter the brain at the biochemical and structural level to reduce and even reverse the symptoms of depression.

I don't want pity. I need to find a way to get help without my parents knowing.pokemonlvr51

Why does it matter if your parents know? Bottom-line is you need help. And it shouldn't matter if your parents know or not.

[QUOTE="serjitup"]honestly i wouldnt get help, i would not take drugs that might alter my brain to make me even more depress and do things i would never do, just get help another way man, tell the closest people to you that your going through hard times and that you want help, and if all else fails i guess then you can take drugs.drj077

Actually, it has recently been proven using fMRI that antidepressants alter the brain at the biochemical and structural level to reduce and even reverse the symptoms of depression.

updated 5:30 p.m. PT, Fri., Oct. 15, 2004

WASHINGTON - The Food and Drug Administration on Friday ordered that all antidepressants carry "black box" warnings that they "increase the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior" in children who take them

Antidepressants increase the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior ... in children and adolescents with major depressive disorder and other psychiatric disorders," the warning begins. Those risks must be balanced against clinical need, the label indicates in a warning surrounded by a black box, hence the "black box" designation.

The information guide, available within weeks for patients and their parents, echoes those warnings.

The FDA's action, which follows to the letter a recommendation of its advisers, was driven by data that showed that on average, 2 percent to 3 percent of children taking antidepressants have increased suicidal thoughts and actions. Independent experts, working with Columbia University, based the finding on a review of data from 24 trials that involved more than 4,400 patients taking antidepressants. They found a greater risk during the first few months of treatment.

heres the whole thing in a link please read inform yoursleves of this issue. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6254504/

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[QUOTE="serjitup"]honestly i wouldnt get help, i would not take drugs that might alter my brain to make me even more depress and do things i would never do, just get help another way man, tell the closest people to you that your going through hard times and that you want help, and if all else fails i guess then you can take drugs.serjitup

Actually, it has recently been proven using fMRI that antidepressants alter the brain at the biochemical and structural level to reduce and even reverse the symptoms of depression.

updated 5:30 p.m. PT, Fri., Oct. 15, 2004

WASHINGTON - The Food and Drug Administration on Friday ordered that all antidepressants carry "black box" warnings that they "increase the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior" in children who take them

Antidepressants increase the risk of suicidal thinking and behavior ... in children and adolescents with major depressive disorder and other psychiatric disorders," the warning begins. Those risks must be balanced against clinical need, the label indicates in a warning surrounded by a black box, hence the "black box" designation.

The information guide, available within weeks for patients and their parents, echoes those warnings.

The FDA's action, which follows to the letter a recommendation of its advisers, was driven by data that showed that on average, 2 percent to 3 percent of children taking antidepressants have increased suicidal thoughts and actions. Independent experts, working with Columbia University, based the finding on a review of data from 24 trials that involved more than 4,400 patients taking antidepressants. They found a greater risk during the first few months of treatment.

heres the whole thing in a link please read inform yoursleves of this issue. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6254504/

Have you ever even read that study?

You really need to, because you just made yourself look very foolish. Sure, more kids have suicidal thoughts, but overall, the vast majority of studies show that fewer adolescents act on those thoughts, and none have ever completed suicide in any of those studies.

How old are you by the way?

Remember that all depression is, is a low supply of the neurotransmitter serotonin in your brain. It's biological, and simple medication can help you feel better.

Your parents want to help you. By not telling them about something that is harming you, you are sort of indirectly hurting them because everything they do to help you won't be as good if you were happier.

You'd be surprised what counseling can do. It's not putting you in a hostile room and treating you like an insane person. You'll have someone very sympathetic and caring, and they'll listen to you. When you talk, you find yourself talking about personal things, and you let go of all those burdens. That psychiatrist won't know you, but she'll help you. She'lll give you medicine and you'll feel better.

Remember that what you're going through, can get worse if you don't treat it. You say that you don't want to tell your parents, but maybe tell them lightly, like, "Mom, I think I may have depression, can you help me?" Or if you want to go a bit farther and a little more crazier, find a psychiatrist, find her phone number, and call her and say you really need help and she can tell you what to do. you'd be surprised how relieved you can get.

RyuHayabusaX

Well, unfortunately most people here haven't experienced what you're going through, so they'll either tell you to "Get help" like you have an "Easy button" and get fixed instantly or "Suck it up", which means they don't know what they're talking about.

I get depressed from time to time, since probably four years ago. At its worst (probably about six months ago) I was suicidal, and eventaully after not telling anyone about it for three years I tried to "Get help". I went to a psycologist, he did help take care of some things, but he didn't help my "feelings" if you will. Eventually he suggested drugs, and I was like "I don't know maybe.." But then I found Slipknot, and for some reason their music made me feel better. I haven't been to the docotor guy since, and though I get depressed from time to time, it hasn't been quite as bad since. I guess you just have to keep looking for your "Slipknot". I wish you luck, I'll answer any questions if you have them.

Don't even worry about the fact that you're depressed. I'd just really re-think cutting yourself. I understand if it helps you relieve stress, but you'll have to weigh that against the paermanent damage you're doing to your body. If you take that into account and decide you'd rather cut, that's your call.

Anyway, just tough it out. Know what to take from your depression, and know what to leave behind, it's just as important. It would really help if you could pinpoint why you're depressed though.

It would really help if you could pinpoint why you're depressed though.Fortier

if a guy has to talk about "emotions" something needs fixingfreshgman

okay let me lay it out, if you are depressed and have absolutely no reason to be then yes you NEED drugs cuz theres something wrong. but if your life just plain sucks or youv got something realy bad going on that bothers you your not mentally ill buddy your just living the thing we call life why cant people see this?serjitup

[QUOTE="serjitup"]okay let me lay it out, if you are depressed and have absolutely no reason to be then yes you NEED drugs cuz theres something wrong. but if your life just plain sucks or youv got something realy bad going on that bothers you your not mentally ill buddy your just living the thing we call life why cant people see this?blackngold29