Does wanting your ex to be unhappy make you a terrible person?

Half of my buddies think this rationale is perfectly normal, the other half think I'm a monster. I'll eventually get over it but for the foreseeable future, my mind is saying "she needs to be miserable".

yap.

Depends on how the relationship ended..................

if she hurt you in some way, probably better for you to move on and hope for the best for the offending party, but I wouldn't blame you if you did otherwise.............

If that's not the case, then you're just an angry douche........

Takes two to tango. Yes, that's messed up =/

If you waste your time thinking about how you want someone else to be unhappy, it's only going to be harder for you to move on. Live, learn and get on with your life.

Not terrible, it just makes you immature.

Best way to make your ex unhappy is to get a new girl.

Not if she's a b*tch.

Yes, but it also varies on the situation as well.

It's really immature, but it doesn't make one a terrible person.

All i can think of is, what could she have possibly have done to make one want to spend time and energy to make her miserable?

It's gonna be hard to make her unhappy considering she just left someone like you.
Stop whining and move on.
Damn weaklings.

No, I think it's pretty human to have thoughts like that assuming they hurt you in some way.

Now if you were to actively try and make them unhappy, then yes, you're a bad person.

It's better for you if you try to supress those sorts of feelings but it is pretty natural to feel that way. Better to always just move on.

I think only if you take on an active role to ensure they have a miserable life, yes. As for thinking it, I see no reason to believe you're a terrible person....

Instead of devoting that energy into making them miserable, how about devoting that energy into making them want you again. Positive thinking bro

how about devoting that energy into making them want you again.megaspiderweb09

Sounds like a massive waste of time and would probably cause more suffering for you than them. I try to pretend they do not exist and usually it's actually true that the person i thought they were never existed in the first place. Or at least that is the best strategy I know of if it's someone I once cared for a lot. The more you think about them the more it hurts. Put them out of your mind and move on.

It depends if the relationship ended on a good note or a bad note.

What I've learnt is that nothing is quite as satisfying as hearing about your ex and think 'shlt, I got the better end of the deal' :P

What I've learnt is that nothing is quite as satisfying as hearing about your ex and think 'shlt, I got the better end of the deal' :Papplesxc47

Ihow about devoting that energy into making them want you again.

megaspiderweb09

No. I'm a firm believer that if it didn't work out in the first place, don't try to force the issue. Obviously, whatever cause the relationship to fallout might happen again.

Beside, with just one life, its better to pursue a more compatible mate instead of wasting time trying to mold yourself or the other person to force a relationship to work. And I don't like people who change like that. I don't mind a subtle change or a change that stops you from doing thing that's detrimental to your health. But if its a change that completely warps your character, that's where I have a problem. I'd rather have someone that I share a special connection when it comes to hobbies and other interested than to deal with someone who wears a mask that forces themselves to find interest just for the sake of keeping that relationship from falling apart. I don't want to be the cause of taking away sineones happiness...

Even though it may be deemed immature I think it's only natural to feel that way about someone who has hurt you, but over time you'll learn to ignore them and forget about it,

It just shows that you still care about them. Doesn't make you a bad person. It's a normal human reaction to wish ill upon someone who you feel has done you wrong or hurt you in some way.

Never had an ex to hate, but a friend went through an incredibly nasty break with his and we ALL want life to kick her in the ass. She broke up with him because his car was broken down and he was going to be late taking her to our other friend's house (who she was trying to get with).

She was just one of those whiny, self-entitled brats who thinks that people are instruments to be used to get what you want, then tossed aside when you're done with them.