Does your girlfriend or any girl you know do this too?

I come to you with a question, I've been going out with my girlfriend for a little bit now, she's great and all but something keeps getting to me about her. She barely ever texts me first to start a conversation since we started going out. I always initiate conversations with her, I always have to call her up or text her first for a conversation to pop up. The only time she'd only contact me first hand is if we're in a fight, only then will she come to me to talk if I'm not saying anything. It would be nice to have her text me or call me first once in a while, but I guess I can live with things as it is since our phone calls and SMS conversations go by great and without a hitch. Hell I just got off like a near four hour phone call with her just now.

I've talked to her about it and she says that it's completely normal for girls to do what she's doing. I tell her no and that nearly every other girl I've been with either than her has always texted or called me first to initiate conversations. But anyways, to you guys or girls out here on OT, is it normal for the guy to do all the initiating?!?! Oh and she specifically told me to go on here to ask you guys, she thinks she's in the right so I'll be showing her your responses later on :D

Thanks for the response if you do respond haha.

Uhhhh no it's not normal. :? I initiate convos a lot with my bf but he does too. It is about 50/50 for us and it is about the same for all the other couples I know.

She's playing with you. If you submit, that's not so good.

Make her work for it. Make her crawl back. I said CRAWL!

you are not the only one i am currently having that problem and sometimes it pisses me off when she aks if im mad because i didnt txt her the whole day..i always respond "texting works both ways"NetYankEagle

Ya I had a girl who did the same thing! I hate how we have to do all the work...it gets annoyingCleanPlayer

[QUOTE="CleanPlayer"]Ya I had a girl who did the same thing! I hate how we have to do all the work...it gets annoyingHexagon_777

My girl does that to some extent but she knows I love the hunt. She does complain when we haven't spoken for like a day or so. I need to call her today since I haven't managed to all week.

[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="CleanPlayer"]Ya I had a girl who did the same thing! I hate how we have to do all the work...it gets annoyingmr-sheep

[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="CleanPlayer"]Ya I had a girl who did the same thing! I hate how we have to do all the work...it gets annoyingmr-sheep

Yep same problem. It pisses me off

[QUOTE="mr-sheep"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]Right on.GTA_dude

Is this really that big of a deal...? >_>NuclearFlower

yeah it is.

because it starts to feel like only one person is caring about the relationship.

I've talked to her about it and she says that it's completely normal for girls to do what she's doing.

mr-sheep

So you told her something she does bothers you, and her response was basically "Tough ****"? That's not good.

[QUOTE="mr-sheep"]

I've talked to her about it and she says that it's completely normal for girls to do what she's doing.

Palantas

So you told her something she does bothers you, and her response was basically "Tough ****"? That's not good.

it's not really normal for girls to not call / text a guy, but in the grand scheme of things this really isn't a deal breaker. just deal with it, and enjoy the relationship that you have.

Your girlfriend told you to share the troubles of your relationship on Gamespot.com and get back to her about the responses? On the serious? Ninja-Hippo

I seldom text guys unless they have text me first, and if I were in a relationship I would wait for him to contact me too. I don't want to be one of those 'desperate' girls who are always texting despite having nothing of interest to say. Like, 'Hi! Just thinkin of you XXXXXXX' who needs to hear that?

[QUOTE="Ninja-Hippo"]Your girlfriend told you to share the troubles of your relationship on Gamespot.com and get back to her about the responses? On the serious? mr-sheep

I tell her no and that nearly every other girl I've been with either than her has always texted or called me first to initiate conversations.mr-sheep

BAD move there, she doesn't want to hear about how she compares to ex's!

Ya I had a girl who did the same thing! I hate how we have to do all the work...it gets annoyingCleanPlayer

I've been out with blokes who do the same though so both sexes are to blame for this one! :)

I went out with someone who NEVER initiated convos and it used to drive me mad, I always felt clingy starting it every time and he never made any effort to carry the conversation on. Then I went out with someone completely opposite and it made me relax and never start them. Now I'm at a happy medium with my bf so I think it depends on who you're going out with.

I seldom text guys unless they have text me first, and if I were in a relationship I would wait for him to contact me too. I don't want to be one of those 'desperate' girls who are always texting despite having nothing of interest to say. Like, 'Hi! Just thinkin of you XXXXXXX' who needs to hear that?MissLibrarian

[QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]Who needs to hear that?Hexagon_777

[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]Who needs to hear that?MissLibrarian

I can't wait till her birthday comes up.

Hexagon_777

Usually my girlfriends and now my wife initiate conversations and stuff with me... otherwise they'd never see me.......... i suck at calling peopleJandurin

[QUOTE="Jandurin"]Usually my girlfriends and now my wife initiate conversations and stuff with me... otherwise they'd never see me.......... i suck at calling peopleHexagon_777

[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I can't wait till her birthday comes up.Jandurin

I have a headache. In relating to your question I read an article on relationships about how women feel the need to cooperate whereas men want to be in control. Does that answer your question?

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]How did you get her to marry you? >_>

medic36

Ay man, straight up, she is a stunner. I don't want you fools adding her on facebook haha.

No I say it's about 50/50. Sometimes i start a conversation with my girlfriend and sometimes she starts them with me.

[QUOTE="medic36"][QUOTE="Jandurin"] considering a ton of other crap, i haven't a clue. one of those must be destiny things, seriouslymr-sheep

Did encounter this with my ex, however this might not be the same in your case. Over the last half year it seemed like I was the only one who initiated conversations with her either over the computer and by phone, even did a test to see how long she would contact me if I stopped initiating conversations with her. It took three weeks before I got a hi. Then just before Summer she broke up with me which at that point was starting to be suspected.Treflis

[QUOTE="Treflis"]Did encounter this with my ex, however this might not be the same in your case. Over the last half year it seemed like I was the only one who initiated conversations with her either over the computer and by phone, even did a test to see how long she would contact me if I stopped initiating conversations with her. It took three weeks before I got a hi. Then just before Summer she broke up with me which at that point was starting to be suspected.Hexagon_777

No. I hate talking on the phone so if someone is waiting for me to call them they will probably die of old age before it happens.