Friend Zone The **** Up Place To Be

I would probably feel better about my life if I believed the "friend zone" existed. But, I don't. Well, I don't believe it's like most of the people in this thread are saying. Women are willing to date you or they aren't. That opinion is subject to change though. I think guys have convinced themselves this friend zone exists to feel better about themselves and not have to face the fact that the girl just doesn't like them.

But hell, I'm not a woman and I'll never understand those creatures so this is probably all crap.

[QUOTE="Bloodaxe726"]The friend zone causes you to see the futility of romance.foxhound_fox

No, the whole thing is futile. There is no point.

I would probably feel better about my life if I believed the "friend zone" existed. But, I don't. Well, I don't believe it's like most of the people in this thread are saying. Women are willing to date you or they aren't. That opinion is subject to change though. I think guys have convinced themselves this friend zone exists to feel better about themselves and not have to face the fact that the girl just doesn't like them.

But hell, I'm not a woman and I'll never understand those creatures so this is probably all crap.

tryagainlater

well so far I concluded that, friendzone is impossible to destroy, there are few occasions that people managed to get out, but nobody ever has moved further then sexual interactions. I aslo think I didnt make my point clear, I don't just want to have sex with the girl I also want to be with her, share some time as a couple, as gay as it sounds.

No, the whole thing is futile. There is no point.Bloodaxe726

[QUOTE="Bloodaxe726"]No, the whole thing is futile. There is no point.foxhound_fox

We all go through life alone, regardless of how many people we surround ourselves with. Thus, romance, friendship, etc. All pointless.

well so far I concluded that, friendzone is impossible to destroy, there are few occasions that people managed to get out, but nobody ever has moved further then sexual interactions. I aslo think I didnt make my point clear, I don't just want to have sex with the girl I also want to be with her, share some time as a couple, as gay as it sounds.martin101n

We all go through life alone, regardless of how many people we surround ourselves with. Thus, romance, friendship, etc. All pointless.Bloodaxe726

[QUOTE="Bloodaxe726"]We all go through life alone, regardless of how many people we surround ourselves with. Thus, romance, friendship, etc. All pointless.foxhound_fox

You can open up to another person, but they will never understand you.

You can open up to another person, but they will never understand you.Bloodaxe726

[QUOTE="Bloodaxe726"]You can open up to another person, but they will never understand you.foxhound_fox

No they won't, no two people react the same to what's happening, thus no two people understand each other.

Whoever says you can't get out of the friend zone is a liar. I friend zoned my boyfriend before he was my boyfriend. With the right convincing and enough time to actually figure out if she likes you or not you can be un-friend zoned.

Though three years is a long time, move on. My boyfriend was friend zoned for no more than about a month.

Dudes: if you want a girl then don't be her friend. Seriously. Rarely will a girl consider a friend for a romantic interest. Friends should be friends. If you want a romantic relationship with a girl don't act like her friend hoping that it will one day lead inside her pants.

[QUOTE="martin101n"]well so far I concluded that, friendzone is impossible to destroy, there are few occasions that people managed to get out, but nobody ever has moved further then sexual interactions. I aslo think I didnt make my point clear, I don't just want to have sex with the girl I also want to be with her, share some time as a couple, as gay as it sounds.foxhound_fox

i've been friend zone'd by so many girls it's not even funny :P

[QUOTE="silentexistence"]Sorry to say that given her response, you're probably not going to end up with her. Move on, man.martin101n

I think you reach your conclusion on too brief of an examples, I've been out of high school for few years now, almost done with a college degree in social sciences. I didn't mean to use gay in derogatory way, but in a way that our current society accepts this words. As in fruity, not masculine, full of futile feelings. martin101n

[QUOTE="martin101n"]

[QUOTE="silentexistence"]Sorry to say that given her response, you're probably not going to end up with her. Move on, man.MissLibrarian

[QUOTE="martin101n"]I think you reach your conclusion on too brief of an examples, I've been out of high school for few years now, almost done with a college degree in social sciences. I didn't mean to use gay in derogatory way, but in a way that our current society accepts this words. As in fruity, not masculine, full of futile feelings. foxhound_fox

My crush (who is two years older than me) said you're like a little brother to me. Its like 10 times worse than getting friend zoned. lonewolf604

^ That hapened to me too. Cept i dont like her anymore, cause i got friend zoned told her i liked her and no dice.

Just because it happened for you, doesn't mean it can happen for everybody. You probably possess things about yourself that are beneficial that other people probably don't possess. In short, you lucked out.the_plan_man

Don't know. I haven't been in the friendzone and if I do ever venture into it. I just move on to the next girl. For me its rare to be in the friendzone because TC you need to be more proactive. I can tell your a guy that doesn't take risks. Live a little TC. Flirt with her, look her in the eye, be rude a little. Don't be a bore. Also you waited 3 years for a chick? Really TC?! There are so much and better fish in the sea. You wasted your time, there is no one else to blame but yourself.MgamerBD

[QUOTE="martin101n"]

[QUOTE="silentexistence"]Sorry to say that given her response, you're probably not going to end up with her. Move on, man.MissLibrarian

by the way the previous messsage is not directed towards you (MissLIbrarian), I just proof red it and realized it could be taken taht way

I've been in the friends with benefits zone, does that count?ad1x2

If you buy her a sandal she will be yours forever.Crunchy_Nuts

And you know what if i get desperate enough ill try that.

[QUOTE="MissLibrarian"][QUOTE="martin101n"] :< she's a fukyng dumb bytch, god there is no hope for me, its back to random sluts for a while.martin101n

My biased and totally nonfactual opinion assumed through my vast experiences of life, leads me to believe that SINGLE MEN are not interested in female friends, rather female acquaintances, in my definition a friend is not one of the people from your abundant Facebook friends list, its someone you truly trust and can rely on more then an average acquaintance, thus the meaning of a word GIRLfriend comes in a place, males and females are different, and I'll admit that through my permanent placement in the friend zone, I have also became to hate the sentences of girls saying that they rather be friends with guys then with girls because they don't back stab and are not as shady etc. US GUYS DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH GIRLS< WE JUST WANT TO BANG YOU AT SOME POINT IN THE TIME, GIVEN US THE OPPORTUNITY, your not one of the guys, you never will be. Its nice to hang out with you from time to time but your NOT ONE OF THE GUYS

OK, OK, I get it.

:cry:

I have also became to hate the sentences of girls saying that they rather be friends with guys then with girls because they don't back stab and are not as shady etc. US GUYS DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH GIRLS< WE JUST WANT TO BANG YOU AT SOME POINT IN THE TIME, GIVEN US THE OPPORTUNITY, your not one of the guys, you never will be. Its nice to hang out with you from time to time but your NOT ONE OF THE GUYS martin101n

Then don't act like the girl's friend if you just want to have sex with her. Not only is acting like her friend not going to get you into her pants, but it's also a dickish abuse of trust.

I don't only want to have sex, I want a relationship

I don't only want to have sex, I want a relationship

martin101n

Right, you want a relationship with this girl so much you act like her friend for three years, screw around with other girls, and then call her a "stupid b****" when she doesn't fall into your lap? Yeah, that's not really going to work.

[QUOTE="martin101n"]

I don't only want to have sex, I want a relationship

worlock77

Right, you want a relationship with this girl so much you act like her friend for three years, screw around with other girls, and then call her a "stupid b****" when she doesn't fall into your lap? Yeah, that's not really going to work.

[QUOTE="worlock77"]

[QUOTE="martin101n"]

I don't only want to have sex, I want a relationship

martin101n

Right, you want a relationship with this girl so much you act like her friend for three years, screw around with other girls, and then call her a "stupid b****" when she doesn't fall into your lap? Yeah, that's not really going to work.

And knowing is half the battle!

[QUOTE="martin101n"][QUOTE="worlock77"]

Right, you want a relationship with this girl so much you act like her friend for three years, screw around with other girls, and then call her a "stupid b****" when she doesn't fall into your lap? Yeah, that's not really going to work.

worlock77

And knowing is half the battle!

If you like a girl you gotta let her know from the start. Sometimes they'll just think you're being "nice" and you just want to be friends. And they don't expect every guy that walks up to them to want to have sex with them... Some people actually have girls that are just friends...

Dude!I wondering something can't you just be the girl's friend without thinking off wanting to be her girlfriend or wanting have sex with her or whatever else you're thinking of.You can still be nice to the girl, but not an insane amount. Every single time I make friends with a girl I don't think what you think.

I truly feel your pain TC, I know how bad it can feel. You did the right thing by telling her how you feel, though. Sometimes you've just gotta be firm. I was friendzoned a while back, bad. I felt so comfortable around this girl, I felt like I could talk to her about anything, she had great taste in music, she could always make me laugh, and so on and so forth. She was dating this guy I met a couple of times, complete tool, she deserved so much better, but I felt like if I said anything I would come off as jealous (which I was), so I kept my mouth shut for a little over a year. Finally this thing was eating up so much of my life that I couldn't take it any more. I called her up to meet me somewhere and poured my heart out to her. To which she responded, "But you're my best friend, I just don't think of you that way". Worst feeling in the world. We had a huge fight and I don't think I left home for 2 weeks. I stopped talking with her because I couldn't take that she didn't like me back. But probably 7 or 8 months later a mutual friend said she broke up with her tool boyfriend and wanted to talk to me. We got coffee one day and she told me how much she missed my company, so I told her that I missed her too, but I couldn't only be her friend, and if she didn't feel the same way about me then it was best we stayed away from each other. We went on a date a couple of days later and now it's been almost 10 months and it feels great. Moral of the story is, it's not impossible to be un-friendzoned, but you have to be upfront about what you want. It's painful spending time together if you know you guys can't be together, so if she's not into it, no matter how horrible it seems at the time, you gotta let her go.

[QUOTE="the_plan_man"]Just because it happened for you, doesn't mean it can happen for everybody. You probably possess things about yourself that are beneficial that other people probably don't possess. In short, you lucked out.foxhound_fox

I intentionally get friendzoned so I can watch them spiral down into oblivion through a series of abusive relationships.