Girl advice: girl's won't stop touching me.

Well, if you are that upset about the whole thing then perhaps it's time to stop caring about how everyone else sees you and stand up for yourself.  I find it odd that at the start of this OT you were uncomfortable about what to do but now it has escalated to full blown sexual harassment because a few girls are trying to be nice to a 29 year old.  Sounds like you are old enough to say "hey I'm not comfortable with physical contact from my coworkers, show a little respect and give me my 3 feet of personal space that I have thoughtfully allowed you."

And for heaven's sake STOP MAKING MOUNTAINS OUT OF MOLE-HILLS.  You'd think you worked with serial rapists!

i didnt read a single post in this thread but girls touching u is good ok

i didnt read a single post in this thread but girls touching u is good ok

ImBetterThanYou

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i didnt read a single post in this thread but girls touching u is good ok

MoonSpoon

I'm guessing this is your first job in a kitchen? Kitchen's are always like that. They are touchy feely, you have a lot of dirty talk, as well as creepy talk. When I first started my job, I thought, what the hell are these guys and girls doing. They say some of the dirtiest things you will hear, and they touch you all over. I got used to it, and even join in on the action now. It may take some getting used to though.metallica_fan42

[QUOTE="metallica_fan42"]I'm guessing this is your first job in a kitchen? Kitchen's are always like that. They are touchy feely, you have a lot of dirty talk, as well as creepy talk. When I first started my job, I thought, what the hell are these guys and girls doing. They say some of the dirtiest things you will hear, and they touch you all over. I got used to it, and even join in on the action now. It may take some getting used to though.MrGeezer

In the original post, I stopped reading after the sentence,  "How do I get them to stop?".  I don't care who you are, no guy is bothered by this situation, other than you apparently, which I'm completely baffled by. 

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh, but c'mon you don't like all this attention from these girls?  Dude, whatever hang ups you've got about this touching thing,  LET THEM GO, and enjoy this.  Most guys would be in heaven in your shoes. 

I mean, some guys don't want to be players and sleep with everyone and I respect that, but this isn't even sex.  We're talking about flirting, one of the most enjoyable things you can spend you're time doing.   

Congratulations. You get more action at work than most people here get in a month. :|easteast

Nothing wrong with that

[QUOTE="easteast"]Congratulations. You get more action at work than most people here get in a month. :|PercivalCox

Nothing wrong with that

In the original post, I stopped reading after the sentence, "How do I get them to stop?". I don't care who you are, no guy is bothered by this situation, other than you apparently, which I'm completely baffled by.

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh, but c'mon you don't like all this attention from these girls? Dude, whatever hang ups you've got about this touching thing, LET THEM GO, and enjoy this. Most guys would be in heaven in your shoes.

I mean, some guys don't want to be players and sleep with everyone and I respect that, but this isn't even sex. We're talking about flirting, one of the most enjoyable things you can spend you're time doing.

JthRedDragon

I'm 29 years old, have no friends, and have never had a girlfriend. What in my previous posts makes you think that I'm a liar?
MrGeezer

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I'm 29 years old, have no friends, and have never had a girlfriend. What in my previous posts makes you think that I'm a liar?
TwoThumbsDown

Not exactly the kind of speech you want to make at that 10 year reunion...

I can't think of a single way to stop the sexual harassment being perpetrated on me without ****ing myself over. And there is absolutely no reason that I should have to be forced into such a scenario just because I want a job. MrGeezer

Say you post on a video game forum. thats should drive them away.Koolsen

Bottom line is that they don't have the damn right to be touching me like that. And that's all there is to it.

Yet you sound like you're doing nothing about it except coming in here and fearing the "what ifs" if you do take action.  You're right, they don't have the right, but what rights have you exercised to make them stop?  Have you confronted them?  What is the absolute worst thing that can happen?

And frankly, some of the replies here are just shameful. Some of you people are making it seem like just because I'm a man, it doesn't matter that I'm being sexually harassed. Which is bad enough as it is, but you're also buying into the extremist feminist idea that all men are total scum. The only reason why men are expected to put up with this kind of stuff is because of the popular notion that men will **** anything that moves. So if a man has sexual contact  (or sexually implicit contact) forced on him, then he MUST like it because he's a man. Which makes it okay. And since it's okay, the man is a ****ing loser if he has a problem with it.

I agree, but what can be expected from a forum where the majority of posters are still in their teens?


Please tell me, when did it become acceptable to criticize the VICTIMS for having a problem with the acts that were FORCED on them?

You are allowing it to happen.  Would you allow some stranger to come up to you in the street and shove you around?  Look, people are going to be morons everywhere you go in life.  If you can't stand up for yourself and what you believe in and tell others when they are crossing your line of tolerance, then you may just as well stay at home locked in your room.  You can't please everyone, you can only look out for you.  Will you become the black sheep at work if you tell them to knock it off?  Possibly.  But honestly, WHO CARES??  It is not the end of the world.  If they have any level of maturity they will respect what you want.  If not, take further action with the management, or quit and find another job.  This is really not worth getting all worked up about.

You can sit there and get all steamed up inside while they do what they please to you, but until you act on your behalf nothing is going to change.