I like a girl. This is the first time i have, and if she accepts me, she'll be my first girlfriend. I am 22 by the way. Simple: How do i get her to notice me? I sent her a friend request on Facebook but she just ignored it. We have a class together (sort of a seminar, save Earth :p ) Two days before the class finishes. I have 2 days. Any ideas, girls? How do you like a boy and what do you think should i do? She has friends there and mine too, so it won't be a wise idea to do anything stupid that's for sure. Jot down your ideas, please.
phoenix-serpent
There's some really good advice in here, and some REALLY terrible ones. As a girl, I'll tell you everything that has ever worked on me and my friends.
First of all, don't apologize for adding her on Facebook. It would be an INCREDIBLY awkward way to introduce yourself, just short of "how come you won't add me". Not everyone is on Facebook everyday. I have friends I'll send messages to and they'll receive them 3 weeks later because they just didn't check it. If she IS ignoring you, she may not be connecting the face to the name, or she's waiting to find out more about you before accepting. I've gotten requests out of the blue that I'll sit on to see if I actually know this person.
There's just too many "what-ifs" to read anything into this. So whoever said it's a clue she's not into you, just ignore them. I actually met a guy by talking to him via IM that I found on his Facebook and we almost got into a fight within 5 minutes of chatting. I met him in person afterwards (he didn't know who I was but we lived in the same building) and we were best friends for the rest of the year. Just drop the Facebook subject altogether, it'll only make it worse.
The guy that said confidence is attractive completely wins this. Just TALK to her. Especially if she is shy, we like it when guys just make a joke or drop a compliment, even if we aren't sitting there scoping you out, wishing you'd say something. You don't have to force a painful conversation, but you can just say a few things and see how they float with her. It is the NUMBER ONE way you can get noticed. The only way this can backfire is if she's taken, or you two just don't have that much in common. If a fratboy came up to me and said something that sounded completely fratboyish, I'd probably just smile, nod, and remember to sit somewhere else next time.
Look for things she's wearing or carrying that might start a good conversation. I wore a Sealab 2012 pin on my backpack in high school, a few boys started conversations with me about it. If she's wearing a concert tee, or something...you get the idea.
If you only have 3 days left of the class, make sure you ask for her phone number, AIM, something to keep in contact with her. If you know her friends, it might be less painful to just ask where and when they hang out with her, and if you could go, too.
Close to confidence is smell. I know it sounds weird, but even ugly guys can become attractive if they smell good. Don't load up on cologne, just make sure you're wearing a deodorant or just a splash of cologne that smells CLEAN. It's an incredibly sensual experience to smell someone clean, and a ton of girls agree with me on this. It's like coming into a house that smells like cookies, except ten times sexier.
I wouldn't talk to her friends to find out if she thinks your cute or anything, though. I had class with this guy who knew one of my friends, and she came up to me everyday for 5 months to tell me he was talking about how beautiful I was or how he wanted to talk to me so bad in their class. Considering the guy NEVER SAID A WORD to me for those 5 months, it got old and creepy. There's a line between being creepy and really liking someone. Talking to her and reading if she's welcome to you will deter her from being creeped out.
Just don't be too scared to take initiative. If you do manage to her ask on a date, don't make it really personal or romantic. Make it short, during the daytime or early evening, like organizing a softball game or a movie night or something with a couple of your friends (especially if you have mutual friends) and then inviting her to come. Going to a movie alone with you might freak her out if she doesn't know you well enough.
Good luck :)
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