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Hey im having a problem slightly similair too but ill give you some advice...
Initiate a conversation about the film for example "hey, how did you find the film last night?" and then if she responds with enthusiasm then keep up the conversation...keep this up and initiate the conversation a few times and if she is interested in the slightest she should soon start to initiate conversations herself. Also play it cool, dont be clingy and dont keep pestering her if she isnt interested...dont take things the wrong way (which i always do) just because she may respond to you doesnt mean she actually likes you the same way you like her. After getting to know her a bit, if she seems keen in talking to you, you could ask her out to go to a film just the two of you.
Ofcourse this is easier said then done....i just think thats the best thing you can do in your situation.
I find it really irritating when people try to reach out to me just by asking about inane things like my taste in music or academics they know I"m involved with or something because it's very superficial. Commenting on present situations is a much more effective way of connecting, at least to me.Hey im having a problem slightly similair too but ill give you some advice...
Initiate a conversation about the film for example "hey, how did you find the film last night?" and then if she responds with enthusiasm then keep up the conversation...keep this up and initiate the conversation a few times and if she is interested in the slightest she should soon start to initiate conversations herself. A
Poland_Wins
[QUOTE="Poland_Wins"]I find it really irritating when people try to reach out to me just by asking about inane things like my taste in music or academics they know I"m involved with or something because it's very superficial. Commenting on present situations is a much more effective way of connecting, at least to me.Hey im having a problem slightly similair too but ill give you some advice...
Initiate a conversation about the film for example "hey, how did you find the film last night?" and then if she responds with enthusiasm then keep up the conversation...keep this up and initiate the conversation a few times and if she is interested in the slightest she should soon start to initiate conversations herself. A
quiglythegreat
[QUOTE="quiglythegreat"][QUOTE="Poland_Wins"]I find it really irritating when people try to reach out to me just by asking about inane things like my taste in music or academics they know I"m involved with or something because it's very superficial. Commenting on present situations is a much more effective way of connecting, at least to me.Hey im having a problem slightly similair too but ill give you some advice...
Initiate a conversation about the film for example "hey, how did you find the film last night?" and then if she responds with enthusiasm then keep up the conversation...keep this up and initiate the conversation a few times and if she is interested in the slightest she should soon start to initiate conversations herself. A
-kaz3-
What you need to remember is that she is not a mindreader. She probably does not even know that you like her., so at this point it is going to be up to you to let her know. The best way is to stike up a conversation, about the movie. Then you can always mention a similiar movie that might be coming out soon, and ask her if she'd like to go see it with you. It is hard to say what one gilr values over another. For me it is honesty, a sense of humor, and someone that keeps surprising me. :) I hope that this helps.
Also .... never lie, dont speak to her as if shese an idiot, dont assume she doesnt know stuff, dont try anything on the first date..you may just get a kick in the balls..
also i can see that you like her way more then that so i doubt you will try anything like that.
You can lie, speak to her as if she's an idiot, assume she doesn't know stuff, and try everything you can think of on a first date...WITHIN REASON. It's all about intuition and knowing what works and what doesn't. There are no good rules for this sort of thing.Also .... never lie, dont speak to her as if shese an idiot, dont assume she doesnt know stuff, dont try anything on the first date..you may just get a kick in the balls..
also i can see that you like her way more then that so i doubt you will try anything like that.
Poland_Wins
Poland_Wins, she's gorgeous and for the moments I was with her I loved what she was about. PainGivingLink
Then go for it, but if she doesnt start up the conversations herself after awhile then take it as a "no im not interested" and as hard as it may be, move on.
[QUOTE="PainGivingLink"]Poland_Wins, she's gorgeous and for the moments I was with her I loved what she was about. Poland_Wins
Then go for it, but if she doesnt start up the conversations herself after awhile then take it as a "no im not interested" and as hard as it may be, move on.
Well, that's not necessarily what that is. Girls may just be shy and not be used to initiating conversation. That means nothing. You've got to be intuitive.Hm...everything is so complicated :(
If she does make a conversation later on by herself, does that mean she is interested...or nothing at all?
Hm...everything is so complicated :(
If she does make a conversation later on by herself, does that mean she is interested...or nothing at all?
PainGivingLink
If she can be bothered to speak to you then it means she takes you as a friend, or more..........
or maybe shese just trying to be nice, who knows.
and she said "we have to do that again one time"...do you think there's a possibility of her liking me back?PainGivingLinkIt's a possibility. Be confident, but don't be positive.
Talk to her about what you know about her...Make sure she is enjoying that...If she is keep talking for as long as you can and then compliment her...(lightly)...Then say something about yourself like "I don't like my personality" or something similar and see if she responds with a confident answer about you...If she does, that is good, it means she doesn't think bad of you...Now feel safe to ask her out...Hope for the best...
Good luck...:] Hope I help...
Uhm I have a question...should I bring up the other guy and see what she feels about him? or don't talk about it all?PainGivingLink
NO!
Well she msg'd me first, so I guess now I have to msg her first now.PainGivingLink
nex time maybe. All the time, no. But yea, its a good sign she msg u first.
I hope I can get some mature answers here...PainGivingLink
You're in the wrong place for that.
That's down the hall, third webpage on the left.
[QUOTE="PainGivingLink"]Well she msg'd me first, so I guess now I have to msg her first now.Tjeremiah1988
nex time maybe. All the time, no. But yea, its a good sign she msg u first.
Yeah. That would be obsessive.
I met this girl the other day because me and my friends went out to the movies just to relax, and chill out but my friend brought along this girl who I think is gorgeous. I barely talked to her yesterday. But my friend that brought her along is trying to introduce her to some guys, so before I met her she has met another guy. They're currently not going out, but I don't know if there's anything up. I can't get her off my mind, and I'm not sure if this is just a phaze or if I really like her, but I think I do like her. And its weird because I haven't talked to her alot. I'm just a bit stumped on what I can do. I asked my friend if he thinks the guy she met and her would be a good couple he said no, because all he wants is "stuff" from the girl. I really don't care about that, I don't think any of you know how much I want to meet this girl, but I don't know if I should talk to her when she's "somewhat" dealing with someone else. She added me on MSN and facebook, but never talked...
...and I'm not sure if I should message her. We watched the same movie yesterday, is that something I should start a conversation about? I have to know what do girls usually like in the guys most? Humour?
I really want to get to know her, just not exactly sure how. =( Also, I think the girl I like thinks I like another girl who'se my best friend and I was with her because she's just a friend, she's like a sister to me. Its very hard to explain why she thinks that but there was a group of people with us, and they all wanted me to ask out my best friend but I'm like "no" but the girl I like never heard that I said that. So, I'm in a really bad situation.I hope I can get some mature answers here, I'm in a big problem. If anyone could help me I'd really appreciate it. :(PainGivingLink
If you REALLY want mature help with this, post this exact thing on iwforums.com. People at GS are generally too young to know what the hell they're talking about.
Just start a conversation with her.....really it's the only way. One....you get noticed...and Two...you get to know if there is more there than a physical attraction.
Disregard the dude that said not to converse. Worst advice ever. You HAVE to talk in order to advance a relationship.
Then go for it, but if she doesnt start up the conversations herself after awhile then take it as a "no im not interested" and as hard as it may be, move on.Poland_Wins
Dude, don't listen to this guy. If some random guy I met yesterday would come to talk with me, I'd never think he is "testing" me to see if I'm interested in him. I'd think he's just bored and wants to talk with someone. Do not give up after the first conversation... Sheesh. ;)
And what is it with boys? Do you always have to skip the "friendship" phase?
Oh. Now I get it. That's why some many teenagers broke up. Girls are desperate to get a boyfriend, because everyone has one, and guys... well... they fell in love with every girl they see. And like Poland_Wins said there... "move on" when they're too hard to get. Oh my god then. :o
I find it really irritating when people try to reach out to me just by asking about inane things like my taste in music...quiglythegreat
Haha, I've yet to meet anyone who can relate to me meaningfully on that front. No-one at all seems to listen to ska in my area.
For once, I'd love to converse with someone in that way.
[QUOTE="Poland_Wins"]Then go for it, but if she doesnt start up the conversations herself after awhile then take it as a "no im not interested" and as hard as it may be, move on.Chitzu
Dude, don't listen to this guy. If some random guy I met yesterday would come to talk with me, I'd never think he is "testing" me to see if I'm interested in him. I'd think he's just bored and wants to talk with someone. Do not give up after the first conversation... Sheesh. ;)
And what is it with boys? Do you always have to skip the "friendship" phase?
Oh. Now I get it. That's why some many teenagers broke up. Girls are desperate to get a boyfriend, because everyone has one, and guys... well... they fell in love with every girl they see. And like Poland_Wins said there... "move on" when they're too hard to get. Oh my god then. :o
I don't want to skip the friendship phase, I want to get to know her better but I really think I do like her.
and she said "we have to do that again one time"...do you think there's a possibility of her liking me back?PainGivingLink
You're an idiot.
No, you just lack experience... That, my friend, right there, was her opening the door and waiting for you to come in. You should have said «Yeah of course, it was great! I'm free on that and that night. If you're free too, call me at *phone number*»
Put it in her hands.
[QUOTE="Poland_Wins"]Then go for it, but if she doesnt start up the conversations herself after awhile then take it as a "no im not interested" and as hard as it may be, move on.Chitzu
Dude, don't listen to this guy. If some random guy I met yesterday would come to talk with me, I'd never think he is "testing" me to see if I'm interested in him. I'd think he's just bored and wants to talk with someone. Do not give up after the first conversation... Sheesh. ;)
And what is it with boys? Do you always have to skip the "friendship" phase?
Oh. Now I get it. That's why some many teenagers broke up. Girls are desperate to get a boyfriend, because everyone has one, and guys... well... they fell in love with every girl they see. And like Poland_Wins said there... "move on" when they're too hard to get. Oh my god then. :o
If you are slightly interested in someone you talk to them. Why would anyone want to waste time on an unreceptive person? No interest....move on. He's correct.
Second..friends? No. You don't date friends. You date to see if you can have a relationship....being friends is part of it but being friends does not bode well for a relationship.
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