You need to try to convince her you are the better man. Or just wait.
Girl with Boyfriend, Pt. 2
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[QUOTE="MuddVader"]
[QUOTE="pianist"]
As was mentioned in the other thread, if you're so certain that her relationship with this guy is going to end, maintain a cordial relationship, but don't try to force her out of her current one. It will end in due time. Frankly, it doesn't sound like you really care about HER that much. You care about your own desire to be with her. If you care about HER, then let her make her own decisions without your involvement, except if she specifically asks you for your advice.
She knows how you feel and she didn't break up with the guy outright to be with you. That says something - that she is not ready to abandon her current relationship. You've said your piece about making the best choice, so now leave that choice to her. If you force it and she's not that "into" you, then you'll lose both a potential relationship and a friend.
pianist
I'm sorry i cant help, i'm in a helluva situation myselfbut ithasnt been concluded yet, so i cant tell you what would be bestto do..
For me, even though i want to be with the girl i love, she doesnt love me, so in turn i just feel obligated to be there for her in any way i can be because shes the most important person to me, you know. Not everyone can be that selfless though, i'm a fool lol.Part of me wants to move on, but the other part of me knows that she had feelings for me in the past and i cant just forget about it untill i'm sure there can be nothing. I would never pressure her for anything and if shenever takes me as i am than thats fine, shes still my friend and i'll always love her ^^. Plus there isnt too much hurt to be had anymoreon my part because she loves another girl and i think that girl is a really good person and i encourage that relationship (like i said i'm a fool and i contradict in this situation._.) but atleast she isnt dating random guys or anything which is great.
Did you intend to quote me or the OP? I'm confused, as your post seems to be addressed to West Coast G and doesn't really address anything I wrote...
I dont really know why anymore, i think i just felt it was appropriate to couple it with your comment because i thought some of the things you said were true but i just wanted to add my two cents by telling my own little story. (if that makes sense)
I think i addressed some things in a way,
"Frankly, it doesn't sound like you really care about HER that much"
Thinking about that i said
"For me, even though i want to be with the girl i love, she doesnt love me, so in turn i just feel obligated to be there for her in any way i can be because shes the most important person to me, you know"
which to me was giving an example of what i would consider to be what it means to have "Her" best interests in mind becauseI find her happiness very important even if it hurts me.
You: "If you force it and she's not that "into" you, then you'll lose both a potential relationship and a friend"
to which i said
"I would never pressure her for anything and if shenever takes me as i am than thats fine, shes still my friend and i'll always love her ^^"
basically i took some of the things you said and gave examples of my own situation and how it is with me i think.
In any case i just did it lol, dont think too hard on it.
I just wanted to say thank you for all the advice. After some thought, I've decided to move on and, like pianist said, "if [I'm] still single when this relationship ends on its own, there's no harm in dating her". She'll remain my friend, both on facebook and off. One of the best things about her is her smile, and whatever I can do to ensure that she's happy and does it more often is better for both of us. Even if that includes stepping off and allowing her to be with someone else.
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