Girls.

So, I told my best friend that I liked her, but she said that she doesnt feel the same way blahblahblah.
I went round her house the other day with another friend of ours, rosie. It was a good day until we went on msn. She was tarting herself up to go on a guy on webcam :/ It really really annoyed and upset me, so I went home. She knows her I feel about her, but there she was, right infront of me, tarting herself up for him.
Then I got drunk and texted her, telling how I was annoyed at her. We had a long conversation (by text) about the whole situation, and now it's sorted...ish. One of her close friends said to her how it's bad that she flirts with me when she has no intention of going out with me (she sits on my lap and links arms with me and stuff) but apparantly it's because 'she feels so comfortable around me, cos we've been friends for so long.' So now I feel bad, and I feel like I've damaged our friendship, and I don't want her to stop being comfortable around me. I wish I just didn't say anything... ;/
Help?

We've all been through it my friend. I've been there....twice. Take it in stride.

We've all been through it my friend. Take it in stride. ShadowofTulkas

In before the "touch her shoulder" references.

go up to her and pimp slap her! :evil:

Sometimes it is hard for a guy and girl to be friends.

My best friend for probably a decade was a girl that I was very interested in and she knew it. It was rough at times listening to her talk about a guy she liked, and it was especially rough when she took an interest in my second closest friend. Just being around her though made me happy even if I couldn't have her. Hopefully you'll realize you feel the same way. I don't think it'll make your relationship with what you've already said unless you keep pressing it.

"tarting" ??comp_atkins

I think it means "fixing herself up" I could be wrong though...

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]Totally your fault TC You were honest and so was she...you 'like' her, and she does not feel the same If you really are friends, then you should not have an issue with her seeing other guys/flirting/etc. She acts that way around you b/c you are a friend to her Your comments made it weird...what has been done cannot be undonejwsoul

Woah that sounds way too familiar. I'm going through it right now. But I'm at the stage right before you told her how you feel about her. :? Help me too? SilverChimera

Well, how do you think she'll handle it? How close are you? She probably suspects honestly if you're really close.

[QUOTE="jwsoul"][QUOTE="rawsavon"]Totally your fault TC You were honest and so was she...you 'like' her, and she does not feel the same If you really are friends, then you should not have an issue with her seeing other guys/flirting/etc. She acts that way around you b/c you are a friend to her Your comments made it weird...what has been done cannot be undonerawsavon

This.

"tarting" ??comp_atkins

Sounds like you've been friendz-own-ed.

[QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??Keyblade_150

My best advice to you is that if you're looking for a romantic relationship, find it elsewhere. Seriously, just give up right now on this girl. It'll save you a ton of heartbreak/jealousy etc.

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??Atmanix

My best advice to you is that if you're looking for a romantic relationship, find it elsewhere. Seriously, just give up right now on this girl. It'll save you a ton of heartbreak/jealousy etc.

[QUOTE="jwsoul"][QUOTE="rawsavon"]Totally your fault TC You were honest and so was she...you 'like' her, and she does not feel the same If you really are friends, then you should not have an issue with her seeing other guys/flirting/etc. She acts that way around you b/c you are a friend to her Your comments made it weird...what has been done cannot be undonerawsavon

Rawsavon is right. :P

She put on loads of lipstick & make-up, put on a dress and then said to her friend 'this dress makes my cleavage look awesome.' and then went to talk about how this guy has a six pack. then she said to me 'are your family coming in? i don't want them to think im a whore.'Keyblade_150

My best advice to you is that if you're looking for a romantic relationship, find it elsewhere. Seriously, just give up right now on this girl. It'll save you a ton of heartbreak/jealousy etc.

[QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??Keyblade_150

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??comp_atkins

You Are In The Frieandzone.........and there is no hope!!!!!!!!!!!!

but find another girl and everything will be find

A girl flirting with a guy is indicating her interest, if she has no interest yet still flirts then she is a cock-tease and should be treated as such. Ignore this girl, she's bad news.mikegtfc

100% Agreed

Is tarting the same as what the joker has going on there in your avatar? Either way man just forget about doing anything with her for now, she may come around later. I myself have never been in your situation though, I don't know how much advice I can give you, I mostly forget ppl fairly easily.

can i just say,

blah blah blah AND blaaaaaaaaaah:P

I mostly forget ppl fairly easily.

Espada12

probably b/c most people are easily forgettable

I been in a similar situation before. Just know if she ain't feelin you, like you're feelin her then there's probably a reason or reasons why. Just be sure to remember your place with her, you don't have much right to tell her what she can and can't do unless she asks for your advice. It's not her fault that you like her so much.

You can't force her to like you or to wanna date you or anything. Just do your own thing and don't let the jealousy stick ruin your friendship. The best way to win her over is to always be a good friend while not impeding where she doesn't want you to. Don't fish for pitty either cause that moves you down in the ranks if anything.

The best thing for you to do is to just give some space (don't go and tell her you're giving her space or for what reason), do your own thing for a little bit and meet some other females to help get your mind elsewhere. I'm not telling you to drop your friendship, this is only to thin your emotional attachment to her.

Ughh.... Ok listen... just saying.. Hey I like you that late into the game isnt going to get you anywhere. You can do taht right after you meet the girl but not when you are friends you need some big gesture to really show you care and that you listen to her, you know more about her than she thinks you do.

Like I had a friend who I really liked back in the day and I knew just saying hey I like you wouldnt do the trick.. So, I remembered back to the days we were in 6th grade together and it was valentines day and in class it was our job to trade candies with other randomly assigned partners. I forgot to get anything but she got me these Giant MASSIVE hersheys candy bars. And I was like.. 0_o.. And I had always felt bad since. So, it was valentines day that year and I got her the same exact to candy bars that she got me 6 years ago, and explained the whole thing and her reaction was.... 0_0.. lol and I was in and went from there

do something like that TC.. dont just say.. yeah erm.. I like you. its to awkward for anything to come from it that late in the game

[QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??Keyblade_150

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

sounds like a girl that you would be better off not going out with..

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??THE_DRUGGIE

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="comp_atkins"]"tarting" ??THE_DRUGGIE

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

[QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"] She put on loads of lipstick & make-up, put on a dress and then said to her friend 'this dress makes my cleavage look awesome.' and then went to talk about how this guy has a six pack. then she said to me 'are your family coming in? i don't want them to think im a whore.'Keyblade_150

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

Next time she sits on your lap... throw her to the groundhamstergeddon

sounds like a girl that you would be better off not going out with..

Xx_Hopeless_xX

She put on loads of lipstick & make-up, put on a dress and then said to her friend 'this dress makes my cleavage look awesome.' and then went to talk about how this guy has a six pack. then she said to me 'are your family coming in? i don't want them to think im a whore.'Keyblade_150

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

I lol'd at all the confusion over the "tart" reference. Different cultures I guess.

It's a girl/woman that dresses provocatively to over emphasise her sexuality, ie: short skirt, low cut top, loads of make-up etc, in an attempt to get as much male attention as possible.

On topic: She obviously just thinks of you as a good friend and my only advise is to just respect her decision and let it be :(

[QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"] She put on loads of lipstick & make-up, put on a dress and then said to her friend 'this dress makes my cleavage look awesome.' and then went to talk about how this guy has a six pack. then she said to me 'are your family coming in? i don't want them to think im a whore.'Keyblade_150

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

Still sounds inconsiderate, especially given how you feel about her.

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

Still sounds inconsiderate, especially given how you feel about her.

[QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"] it wasn't in my house, it was round hers, but my mum was picking me up soo..Keyblade_150

Still sounds inconsiderate, especially given how you feel about her.

[QUOTE="comp_atkins"][QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

Going by that, she sounds pretty shallow. Also, I wouldn't let her tart herself up in your house if she's going to be flirting with another guy via webcam.

rawsavon

Next time she sits on your lap... throw her to the groundhamstergeddon

Great advice. Do it TC

[QUOTE="Keyblade_150"][QUOTE="THE_DRUGGIE"]

Still sounds inconsiderate, especially given how you feel about her.

Xx_Hopeless_xX

I'm not going to lie, part of the whole me chaning thing is because of her, but not much. I don't like myself. Alot of my friends have changed and they seem happier. I need to take control about my life, and about my personality.

[QUOTE="Xx_Hopeless_xX"][QUOTE="Keyblade_150"] Agreed :/ I mean, she isn't a complete slut, she doesn't really flawnt herself that much.. i think it was influence from rosie tbh, i dont think han would have done that otherwise.. but still... im going to leave things with her for a while... possibly change myself... and see where things go from there...Keyblade_150

I'm not going to lie, part of the whole me chaning thing is because of her, but not much. I don't like myself. Alot of my friends have changed and they seem happier. I need to take control about my life, and about my personality.