Guys, you have to try and get over the initial fear of telling a girl....

I dunno, they just weren't my type, personality wise really.
wemhim

How do you know? That's what dating is for, to find out if they are your type. It's important for your heart to get broken once or twice, it helps to shape and form your personality- if you don't have a relationship you'll miss out on one of life's great experiences. You never know when the right one will come along. I swore off dating 3 years ago, but a young lady approached me a little over a year ago and now we're getting married in 2 months. You never know!

That's true. Maybe some other time, I don't get out much. I need to get a job somewhere...
wemhim

Actually, that's the best place! I was never one to approach girls, for dates. At a work place, though, it's a lot more natural. Good luck.

I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

but its so hard to get over that initial fear :cry:MichaeltheCM

[QUOTE="blooddemon666"]I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.X360PS3AMD05

but its so hard to get over that initial fear :cry:MichaeltheCM

The cloak of protection +2 should suffice.

but if she says no, the world ends. :|iloverikku11

:lol:

Has anyone noticed how I never participate in these threads .. ?Whight_Knight

O rly?:lol: nah, i usually don't, just im bored and in need to vent my thoughts to a gaming forum

I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oSolidSnake35

I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oSolidSnake35

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"]I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oImaPirate0202

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

I'm worse. I don't start convesations at all unless I have a question of someone and need an answer.

[QUOTE="SpaceMoose"]

[QUOTE="blooddemon666"]I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

Safe bet that you weren't interested in her for her personality...

So for once she gets some attention and then monopolises on it man she is one sad woman or girl what ever i hope you didnt take it to heart because she is a idiot and a possible social outcast from hell.

I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

oh man that sucks. im glad im not you.

What is funny about these threads is how people just take it for granted that the guy should always be the one doing the asking. I would just LOVE to hear the rationale behind that one. I'm pretty sure it must be something like the old circular reasoning standby, "Because that is how it is done."SpaceMoose

Well if you are not a really good looking and a shy person im sorry but that's just how it is gonna be for you kiddos.Besides the guy is the one interested not her in the first place.

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"]I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oImaPirate0202

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

Same here. Not only do I have anxiety issues, but my personality type is one that pretty much despises small talk as I see it as usless.

I am working on it though. Fighting the anxiety tooth and nail (without professional help) and I am forcing myself to change in certain ways not just to get a girl but because there are certain personality flaws that I am recognizing and that I need to change.

[QUOTE="blooddemon666"]I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.moptopskate

oh man that sucks. im glad im not you.

A lot of it is fear of rejection. I have two things to say about getting rejected.

One: You won't lose a friendship if you ask her out. It honestly has very little bearing on that.

Two: GETTING REJECTED BUILDS CHARACTER! GO OUT THERE AND GROW A PAIR, MEN!

I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

why would you ask her there?

Best thing to do when asking a girl out is...

1.) Prepare yourself for rejection, it happens to everyone including Mario and Gordon Freeman (assuming he spoke for once)

1005

That made me :lol:

Anyone ever got blown off? Man I hate that. What I hate is when a girl says yes and she dosen't show up. I guess they don't want to say no to a guy and then not answer your phone calls and end up blowing you off in the end. Hey ladies, blowing off a guy is even worse than saying no. Everytime that happened to me, I hit the gym that evening and just pushed myself hard while I thought about it. Then I won't talk to them very much for awhile.

A lot of it is fear of rejection. I have two things to say about getting rejected.

One: You won't lose a friendship if you ask her out. It honestly has very little bearing on that.

Two: GETTING REJECTED BUILDS CHARACTER! GO OUT THERE AND GROW A PAIR, MEN!

Sora529

wtf, getting rejected hurts, the first and only girl i've ever asked out said no. i'm way to scared to ask another girl out, unless i know she's going to say yes.

[QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"]I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oPerilousWolf

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

I'm worse. I don't start convesations at all unless I have a question of someone and need an answer.

I'm pretty much the same....

today i learned that a good way to start conversations is by using open ended questions instead of close ended questions. dont start a conversation that would result in the other person saying one work back such as yes or no. say words that will make the other person say alot this will get both of you to get to know each other better. this helped me out.dragonmaster64

like......?

like i used to try to start conservations by asking questions that reulted in either yes or no. (dont make fun of me)example: are you going to the game on friday?
answer: no

this ended the conversation really fast but if you ask an open ended question:

example: hey how was school? in this question they cant simply say "yes" or "no" they have to tell you how it was which can be a great startup conversation.

Its sad how cruel girls can be though. Growing up, I never had a humiliating moment like some of the posts in this thread, but I've seen how girls can totally screw people up and twist their heads. Thats not to say guys wouldnt be cruel at all if a girl was asking them out, but since its usually guys doing the asking part...

The reason people always ask for tips is because they are usually the awkward/nerdy kids, (side note: the nerds grow up to be the coolest people in the world) And are afraid they will be severely embarassed in front of a group of kids.

As I was saying, I wish more kids were smart enough to realize that the girls who intentionally embarass kids who ask them out, are usually the girls who end up unhappy later in life.

like i used to try to start conservations by asking questions that reulted in either yes or no. (dont make fun of me)example: are you going to the game on friday?
answer: no

this ended the conversation really fast but if you ask an open ended question:

example: hey how was school? in this question they cant simply say "yes" or "no" they have to tell you how it was which can be a great startup conversation.

dragonmaster64

Thanks

[QUOTE="SpaceMoose"]

[QUOTE="blooddemon666"]I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

Safe bet that you weren't interested in her for her personality...

I actually did get laughed at... well not laughed at, but she declined by saying something along the lines of "No, I don't date ugly guys" in front of my entire class.blooddemon666

ouch lol.

In my opinion, you should know the girl as a one of your special friends first. It would be awkward to have someone you dont know very well just to say "I like you" or something like that. In addition, if she says no, it would be even more awkward.

[QUOTE="dragonmaster64"]

like i used to try to start conservations by asking questions that reulted in either yes or no. (dont make fun of me)example: are you going to the game on friday?
answer: no

this ended the conversation really fast but if you ask an open ended question:

example: hey how was school? in this question they cant simply say "yes" or "no" they have to tell you how it was which can be a great startup conversation.

Boring_Bland

Thanks

np

Best thing to do when asking a girl out is...

1.) Prepare yourself for rejection, it happens to everyone including Mario and Gordon Freeman (assuming he spoke for once)

2.) Pick your moment, dont ask her out when she is surrounded by friends, try and get her on her own. Make sure its appropriate to ask aswell, if she is crying and/or vulnerable in some way its probably best not to take advantage of that.

3.) Zomgwtfbbqsireallylikeyoualotwouldyougooutwithme!?!?!? will only make her think your weird, on medication or both. Pace your speech and dont blurt out rubbish, might be good to choose your words too.

4.) Breathe, i forgot this one when i asked my girlfriend out 4 years ago. She laughed at how red my face went which helped break the ice. Now 4 years later we're still together.

1005

Gordon Freeman doesn't need to speak to ask a girl out! He just walks up to her and stares, like he usually does, and gets rejected. :P

Best thing to do when asking a girl out is...

1.) Prepare yourself for rejection, it happens to everyone including Mario and Gordon Freeman (assuming he spoke for once)

2.) Pick your moment, dont ask her out when she is surrounded by friends, try and get her on her own. Make sure its appropriate to ask aswell, if she is crying and/or vulnerable in some way its probably best not to take advantage of that.

3.) Zomgwtfbbqsireallylikeyoualotwouldyougooutwithme!?!?!? will only make her think your weird, on medication or both. Pace your speech and dont blurt out rubbish, might be good to choose your words too.

4.) Breathe, i forgot this one when i asked my girlfriend out 4 years ago. She laughed at how red my face went which helped break the ice. Now 4 years later we're still together.

1005

well.. remembering to breathe is a good all-round skill if you ask me

[QUOTE="GTA_dude"]

Yah, alot of people have problems talking to girls....most people dont see the initial subject of, "what the hell do you have to loose?"

There are 6.4 Billion people in the world, and more then half of which are girls, so, the sea is open. If one girl turns you down, nothing lost, there will about about 4 billion more girls to talk to........

xboxdudeman800

6.4 billion - 1 = 4 billion?

Best thing to do when asking a girl out is...

1.) Prepare yourself for rejection, it happens to everyone including Mario and Gordon Freeman (assuming he spoke for once)

2.) Pick your moment, dont ask her out when she is surrounded by friends, try and get her on her own. Make sure its appropriate to ask aswell, if she is crying and/or vulnerable in some way its probably best not to take advantage of that.

3.) Zomgwtfbbqsireallylikeyoualotwouldyougooutwithme!?!?!? will only make her think your weird, on medication or both. Pace your speech and dont blurt out rubbish, might be good to choose your words too.

4.) Breathe, i forgot this one when i asked my girlfriend out 4 years ago. She laughed at how red my face went which helped break the ice. Now 4 years later we're still together.

1005

Gordon Freeman doesn't talk when he asks women out. He holds his crowbar at his crotch and does a few peliv thrusts with a raised eyebrow.

but if she says no, the world ends. :|iloverikku11

What is funny about these threads is how people just take it for granted that the guy should always be the one doing the asking. I would just LOVE to hear the rationale behind that one. I'm pretty sure it must be something like the old circular reasoning standby, "Because that is how it is done."SpaceMoose

nicely put. i thought id be able to argue that but actually i cannot think of any reason apart from macho BS stuff.

[QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"]I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oThechaninator

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

Same here. Not only do I have anxiety issues, but my personality type is one that pretty much despises small talk as I see it as usless.

I am working on it though. Fighting the anxiety tooth and nail (without professional help) and I am forcing myself to change in certain ways not just to get a girl but because there are certain personality flaws that I am recognizing and that I need to change.

I have the same issue, I hate small talks for some reason I consider them useless too,wich makes me feel so weird around other people :x...

[QUOTE="Thechaninator"][QUOTE="ImaPirate0202"]

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"]I don't have that fear. I'm just incapable of making small talk and speaking much sense when nervous. O_oRobo_k_night

I have that same problem. I am a terrible conversation starter.

Same here. Not only do I have anxiety issues, but my personality type is one that pretty much despises small talk as I see it as usless.

I am working on it though. Fighting the anxiety tooth and nail (without professional help) and I am forcing myself to change in certain ways not just to get a girl but because there are certain personality flaws that I am recognizing and that I need to change.

I have the same issue, I hate small talks for some reason I consider them useless too,wich makes me feel so weird around other people :x...

Yeah. I also have issues with allowing myself to get close to people in fear of being hurt. I am really knowing this because part of me s trying to sabotage my attempt to go out with a girl I have had feeling for pretty much all my life. My anxiety plays such a great role in this, trying to make me think she is ignoring me when she really is just busy and stuff like that. It has me thinking she has feelings for all sorts of guys (Believe me there are plenty of guys who want her which is definitely intimidating).

I am fighting it hardcore though. Trying not to be analytical when it comes to other peoples problems and not constantly look for flaws in people so I can write them off easily and not bother with getting close.....

All males fear rejection. So avoiding the whole thing altogether is the safe way out for most people.

Plus, if a chick knows you like her, she can mess around with you, be a tease and totally mess with your mind even if she's interested in you. She has the advantage.