I had the thoughts when I was younger, now when I am depressed I just think of the positives in life and blast some heavy metal with a blunt.
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@Storm_Marine:
I admit, I am surprised about it, but anyways,
No reason to be happy when:
1. You have interests that no one has or no one cares about.
2. No reason to be happy in life when you know the only thing you will look forward to is the afterlife and you fear you will go to hell instead.
3. No reason to be happy when you feel so different from everyone else and feel like you can never genuinely relate to people, even on the Internet.
4. No reason to be happy when you want to be better at something such as mathematics, but you know it will never happen because you have a learning disability and was not gifted in order to take honors courses in Middle School & High School and instead had to take courses for people with a learning disability; the exact opposite of what honor courses are.
5. No reason to be happy when you get angry, jealous, and / or envious of other people being in a relationship on a daily basis, either it be on television, the Internet, or in everyday life.
6. No reason to be happy when you feel the person you are quoting has it much better than you ever will.
7. No reason to be happy when you know you cannot even organize or think about what you want to say in a timely manner in order to communicate with people properly and you have lived your entire life this way.
8. No reason to be happy when you know you have interest that would be frowned upon, not because it is harmful or bad, but because it is not appropriate for your gender or age.
lol...wow. About 90% of these people should just call an 'escort' and get over it.
I think it is more to it than that, I believe you know this. Besides, I want an actual relationship and connection with a women, not something temporary and fake that revolves around something I hardly care about.
Wow.
Ok, you have two options.
1. Continue living this way and feel sad about your situation. I guarantee you you're only going to continue to isolate yourself from other people if you do.
2. Start f*cking embracing life. Realize that we're ALL human, we've ALL got problems, and we all want to be socially accepted. Everything you've listed above is completely normal for a person to want or have doubts in. Start learning a new language. Take a cooking class. For f*ck sakes, go volunteer at a homeless shelter. The more you reach out to other people, and the more effort you put into it, the happiness will follow.
You can either start embracing where you're at, what you like and what you're afraid of. Or you can continue to cry and whine "poor little me". I guarantee you the latter is not the better option. The more you reject what you like, reject your position in life, the unhappier you're going to be. The less happy you are, the less likely you're going to be to attract any friends (let alone a girlfriend). In fact, I would say that you should AVOID trying to get a girlfriend at this stage in your life and focus on developing friendships with people who share common interests.
^^^^ A graduate from the "Just stop being gay!" school of self improvement advice.
Care to elaborate?
I was using that as an example of ignorant people telling other people to control uncontrollable aspects of their mind.
..................
Look, I have this for example.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder
There are real pyschological disorders out there, you can't angrily throw a "Start fucking embracing life" them and expect good things. In fact, it tends to make the person feel much worse about themselves.
And I'm not even going to speculate on what Glitter's mind is like...
Read my post above. I'm not trying to tell him how to control the uncontrollable (chemical imbalance), but rather to shift his perspective a bit. The more he really delves into the conclusions he's already drawn, he'll realize that they're all false in one way or another.
@Storm_Marine:
I admit, I am surprised about it, but anyways,
No reason to be happy when:
1. You have interests that no one has or no one cares about.
2. No reason to be happy in life when you know the only thing you will look forward to is the afterlife and you fear you will go to hell instead.
3. No reason to be happy when you feel so different from everyone else and feel like you can never genuinely relate to people, even on the Internet.
4. No reason to be happy when you want to be better at something such as mathematics, but you know it will never happen because you have a learning disability and was not gifted in order to take honors courses in Middle School & High School and instead had to take courses for people with a learning disability; the exact opposite of what honor courses are.
5. No reason to be happy when you get angry, jealous, and / or envious of other people being in a relationship on a daily basis, either it be on television, the Internet, or in everyday life.
6. No reason to be happy when you feel the person you are quoting has it much better than you ever will.
7. No reason to be happy when you know you cannot even organize or think about what you want to say in a timely manner in order to communicate with people properly and you have lived your entire life this way.
8. No reason to be happy when you know you have interest that would be frowned upon, not because it is harmful or bad, but because it is not appropriate for your gender or age.
lol...wow. About 90% of these people should just call an 'escort' and get over it.
I think it is more to it than that, I believe you know this. Besides, I want an actual relationship and connection with a women, not something temporary and fake that revolves around something I hardly care about.
Wow.
Ok, you have two options.
1. Continue living this way and feel sad about your situation. I guarantee you you're only going to continue to isolate yourself from other people if you do.
2. Start f*cking embracing life. Realize that we're ALL human, we've ALL got problems, and we all want to be socially accepted. Everything you've listed above is completely normal for a person to want or have doubts in. Start learning a new language. Take a cooking class. For f*ck sakes, go volunteer at a homeless shelter. The more you reach out to other people, and the more effort you put into it, the happiness will follow.
You can either start embracing where you're at, what you like and what you're afraid of. Or you can continue to cry and whine "poor little me". I guarantee you the latter is not the better option. The more you reject what you like, reject your position in life, the unhappier you're going to be. The less happy you are, the less likely you're going to be to attract any friends (let alone a girlfriend). In fact, I would say that you should AVOID trying to get a girlfriend at this stage in your life and focus on developing friendships with people who share common interests.
^^^^ A graduate from the "Just stop being gay!" school of self improvement advice.
Care to elaborate?
I was using that as an example of ignorant people telling other people to control uncontrollable aspects of their mind.
..................
Look, I have this for example.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personality_disorder
There are real pyschological disorders out there, you can't angrily throw a "Start fucking embracing life" them and expect good things. In fact, it tends to make the person feel much worse about themselves.
And I'm not even going to speculate on what Glitter's mind is like...
Read my post above.
I did read it. It's typical "get out of your shell" stuff. I've heard it a thousand times, there's a good chance he has as well.
I admit, I am surprised about it, but anyways,
No reason to be happy when:
1. You have interests that no one has or no one cares about.
2. No reason to be happy in life when you know the only thing you will look forward to is the afterlife and you fear you will go to hell instead.
3. No reason to be happy when you feel so different from everyone else and feel like you can never genuinely relate to people, even on the Internet.
4. No reason to be happy when you want to be better at something such as mathematics, but you know it will never happen because you have a learning disability and was not gifted in order to take honors courses in Middle School & High School and instead had to take courses for people with a learning disability; the exact opposite of what honor courses are.
5. No reason to be happy when you get angry, jealous, and / or envious of other people being in a relationship on a daily basis, either it be on television, the Internet, or in everyday life.
6. No reason to be happy when you feel the person you are quoting has it much better than you ever will.
7. No reason to be happy when you know you cannot even organize or think about what you want to say in a timely manner in order to communicate with people properly and you have lived your entire life this way.
8. No reason to be happy when you know you have interest that would be frowned upon, not because it is harmful or bad, but because it is not appropriate for your gender or age.
lol...wow. About 90% of these people should just call an 'escort' and get over it.
I think it is more to it than that, I believe you know this. Besides, I want an actual relationship and connection with a women, not something temporary and fake that revolves around something I hardly care about.
1. If I love something, then you should dedicate your life to fulfilling it.
2. If you love life, then you should appreciate it.
3. The truth is I can relate to anyone, but others may reject the love I emanate freely. That does mean I should stop loving, but that I should love more (while hating sin).
4. With love, people working on behalf of those with learning disabilities can do things for them.
5. With love, anger and jealously/envy can be countered and abolished.
6. Humans have the ability to change. That is what makes us special. We can experience life in many ways and when we recognize the grace of Elohim and recognize the perseverance of goodness, life is possible.
7. Work for the skill of communication can be done.
8. Love is a powerful force. If I put my mind to something with love, I can accomplish tasks.
I countered that negativity with love.
@chrisrooR: My life is not entirely bad, I am interested in language learning; I plan to learn Japanese & Arabic. I just feel like life is getting too much for me and I fear I will never be able to be independent.
Anyway, I'm a little disturbed by the number of people on here that have actually thought about doing it. Are you all really that unhappy?
I have learned on the internet that a surprising number of people are miserable. Sad, really.
Yeah, the internet is a place for all of society's alienated people to gather.
Yeah, I've had thoughts of it before. Good thing there aren't any guns in my house, because if there were, I would have definitely made an attempt, especially back in early 2012 for some really pathetic shit I did. I don't think about it nearly as much now because my situation is a lot better, but I'm still afraid of never finding companionship due to my lack of superb social skills, my occasional speech difficulty, and my lack of stupid fucking confidence. Apparently confidence is the one thing a guy must have to find companion in American "culture" otherwise he'll likely remain a permanent virgin unless he hires a prostitute. God, everyone throws the confidence card at me, even my mom. Hell, I've come to dislike the word "confidence". Not to mention guys have to pay for fucking everything in a relationship. I'm a 21 year old college student; I'm not exactly rolling in cash here.
I'm also afraid of my future. My grades were pretty damn mediocre in community college and I'll be beginning university in a few days. Since my uni classes are legitimately serious and actually pertain to my major (unlike most CC classes), my mom told me that if I get anything below a B, I can kiss my video games goodbye. I don't know how I'd react to losing my video games. I've been gaming for over a decade and it's one of the few things in this shitty world that keeps me happy and from going insane. Pathetic, I know. At least the odds are tipped in my favor this time though. Like most students going to the uni I'll be attending, I'll be taking only six credits the first semester (Anatomy & Physiology with a lab component worth four credits and a college study skills class modeled after the A & P course worth two).
In addition, I'm afraid I'll forget some of the vital information from courses that will be needed to carry out work duties in my future career. What if I **** up and it ends up with someone getting more hurt or even killed (I'm majoring in radiography)? Shit, I'm even stressing out about the future interview that I'll have to do to get the career! And that is years down the road, for fucks sake. My degree will be nearly useless unless I quell my interview anxiety and get some training or something.
/rant
TL;DR version: If you can't read three paragraphs, **** you.
JK.
I'm afraid of never getting companionship/laid. I'm afraid of losing my video games b/c of mediocre grades. I'm afraid of forgetting vital info needed for future work duties. I'm afraid of the interview needed to get the career, even though it's years ahead of me.
Also surprised this hasn't been locked yet. Mods must be sleeping.
@gamerguru100: The reason I do not think this thread is getting locked is because a moderator is the one who created this thread and the thing representing that someone is a moderator, is hidden unless you put your mouse cursor near where it is. I can relate to you in some ways, minus the video games part because I am on partial hiatus and I am long past the days of it being a problem to the point where my parents would try to do something like that, and it would only hurt my situation anyways, not help.
You may want to look into going to another country, if that is ever and option for you, if you really have a dislike for American culture in that regard. I know one thing, I will not be spending money on a women who most likely does not care about me and will only go on a date with me once. I am looking for a genuine and permanent relationship and I doubt women my age are looking for that or would even believe a male my age is looking for that, so I am better off waiting until I am older or just not bother at all. I obviously cannot date older women at my age, because they would just make excuses as to why they do not want to date a younger man.
@gamerguru100: I am in the same boat as you in terms of girlfriend or companionship. I too lack the self-confidence to obtain any kind of companionship, and I did some pathetic shit back in 2010 which I definitely had some extreme thoughts. Your video games aren't going anywhere though, as if you live in a dorm, you aren't under any control, so you can game away.
@VaguelyTagged:
You didn't have it though right?
no. but it took me a long time to realize that.
@gamerguru100: I am in the same boat as you in terms of girlfriend or companionship. I too lack the self-confidence to obtain any kind of companionship, and I did some pathetic shit back in 2010 which I definitely had some extreme thoughts. Your video games aren't going anywhere though, as if you live in a dorm, you aren't under any control, so you can game away.
I don't live in a dorm though. Thank God for that. Dorm equals no privacy. No privacy equals no masturbation.
When I was younger yes. Not anymore though and its been some time since I contemplated the thought.
don't forget to shout Allahu Akbar before the commitment
Sitting on the rear row in the classroom, today I was weeping the full time of the class.I can't take this shit anymore man.
Every day, every goddamn day, in the subway I daydream of throwing my goddamn ass on the rails, just don't have the damn balls.Today I saw a car racing on the street as I was crossing, I slowed down so as to get hit by the car.That fucking coward braked.
Nope, the thought never crossed my mind, even once.
I've hit some rough patches in the past, but I have plenty of people I care about, I couldn't be more passionate about videogames than I am now or have ever been, and I don't care about being an almost 22yo virgin who's never been in a serious relationship with a woman.
I couldn't care less if people around me share the same interests or approve/disapprove mine, it just means we'll have less to talk about if we actually do talk. Also I tend to avoid social interaction with strangers every chance I get, it doesn't make me nervous or anxious or anything, I just detest small talk and that's all you can get with people you don't have a relationship with.
I'm an engineering student after all, no time to be depressed.
Nope, the thought never crossed my mind, even once.
I've hit some rough patches in the past, but I have plenty of people I care about, I couldn't be more passionate about videogames than I am now or have ever been, and I don't care about being an almost 22yo virgin who's never been in a serious relationship with a woman.
I couldn't care less if people around me share the same interests or approve/disapprove mine, it just means we'll have less to talk about if we actually do talk. Also I tend to avoid social interaction with strangers every chance I get, it doesn't make me nervous or anxious or anything, I just detest small talk and that's all you can get with people you don't have a relationship with.
I'm an engineering student after all, no time to be depressed.
I can relate to this(only I'm a 20 year old virgin :P).
I don't care if things in my life are not perfect, I just make due with what I've got. I like life, thank you very much.
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