Um, yeah? To be honest, I've never had a girlfriend, but I've rejected a few girls. I was never attracted to any of them, though they were nice people. They all seemed to take it pretty well. I wish I had the same amount of courage any of them had to actually ask someone I liked out T_T.
Ive only done it because they were too young... Seriously I dont know if this is true with everyone else but I just messages on fb from random 14-16 year old girls just saying hii!!!!!!! or some random stuff like that lol or just freshman girls when I was in highschool always bother me.. I cant say I let it get far enough for me to regect them though lol I was basically like.. yeah..and that was it xD... Sorry ladies its not happening 17 is low as id go (ill be 19 soon)
I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.
Been down that road plenty. Easiest one I can remember was when I worked at a grocery a few years back. The girl was nice enough, but ugly as sin and I could barely understand anything she said. Plus I was moving after the summer so it's not like I'd be around for much longer. I felt kind of bad about it, but you get over it, and so do they. It's part of being an adult.
I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.Suzy_Q_Kazoo
Depends on the girl, not all are that way.Elementary, dear Watson.
[QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.Hexagon_777
Depends on the girl, not all are that way.Elementary, dear Watson.
I know :lol:, it's just that's a pretty big generalization to make. That'd be like me saying all guys are jerks, understand where I'm coming from? :P
I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.
Hexagon_777
Blatant sexism? Hilariouse :D I don't know what year you're living in, but flirting and courting isn't a one way street.
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"]Depends on the girl, not all are that way.Suzy_Q_Kazoo
Elementary, dear Watson.I know :lol:, it's just that's a pretty big generalization to make. That'd be like me saying all guys are jerks, understand where I'm coming from? :PIndeed. I am speaking from personal experience so I was speaking with regards to me. It does become annoying when you always seem to be expected to do it all, especially when the hints are so feeble that you don't even notice. Ugh. The revelations that friends provide me with are usually too late to boot.
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.cybrcatter
Blatant sexism?
Hilariouse :D
I don't know what year you're living in, but flirting and courting isn't a one way street.
Exactly. If the girl wants something, she better make it clear. Throwing hints and such is cute at first but it comes frustrating when the indecisiveness becomes too much. I wish they did some work as well. Mind, I am utilising anecdotal evidence here.
[QUOTE="cybrcatter"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.Hexagon_777
Blatant sexism?
Hilariouse :D
I don't know what year you're living in, but flirting and courting isn't a one way street.
Exactly. If the girl wants something, she better make it clear. Throwing hints and such is cute at first but it comes frustrating when the indecisiveness becomes too much. I wish they did some work as well. Mind, I am utilising anecdotal evidence here. My anecdotal evidence is quite the opposite. Flirting with someone isn't supposed to be hard work. It's suppose to be fun.
It's not about who asks who out, either. If you click with someone, everything naturally progresses. Otherwise it's just someone you're being friendly with. I think, in you're case, the issue isn't that they aren't picking up the slack, it's that you have a bad attitude towards the whole situation, and it just complicates what should be an otherwise fun experience.
I know :lol:, it's just that's a pretty big generalization to make. That'd be like me saying all guys are jerks, understand where I'm coming from? :PIndeed. I am speaking from personal experience so I was speaking with regards to me. It does become annoying when you always seem to be expected to do it all, especially when the hints are so feeble that you don't even notice. Ugh. The revelations that friends provide me with are usually too late to boot.
I can understand why you'd be frustrated. Ever think that girls are in a bad spot as well though? Anxiously waiting for a guy to make a move puts herself to be rejected just as easily. Also, I'm sure there are reasons. Some girls like to get first impressions of a guy with the manner he decides to court her. I don't like the norms that society has come up with, but there's plenty of those who defy that construct. If there's potential, one of the two will try and pursue that. You just need to fish around more, and keep in mind that it's supposed to be the fun stage :P
I don't know what year you're living in, but flirting and courting isn't a one way street.cybrcatter
Exactly. If the girl wants something, she better make it clear. Throwing hints and such is cute at first but it comes frustrating when the indecisiveness becomes too much. I wish they did some work as well. Mind, I am utilising anecdotal evidence here. My anecdotal evidence is quite the opposite.
Flirting with someone isn't supposed to be hard work. It's suppose to be fun.
It's not about who asks who out, either. If you click with someone, everything naturally progresses. Otherwise it's just someone you're being friendly with. I think, in you're case, the issue isn't that they aren't picking up the slack, it's that you have a bad attitude towards the whole situation, and it just complicates what should be an otherwise fun experience.
Specify on the bad attitude. I do flirt and click and what have you. I just don't ask them out, especially since a friendship is worth more and I wouldn't want to ruin it. However, I never say that. I am open for it, I guess. If friends provide me with the revelations about the hints they are giving and what not, they might as well ask if people outside of the little spiel can see what's going on whereas the person who's supposed to see cannot.
[QUOTE="cybrcatter"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]Exactly. If the girl wants something, she better make it clear. Throwing hints and such is cute at first but it comes frustrating when the indecisiveness becomes too much. I wish they did some work as well. Mind, I am utilising anecdotal evidence here.Hexagon_777
My anecdotal evidence is quite the opposite.
Flirting with someone isn't supposed to be hard work. It's suppose to be fun.
It's not about who asks who out, either. If you click with someone, everything naturally progresses. Otherwise it's just someone you're being friendly with. I think, in you're case, the issue isn't that they aren't picking up the slack, it's that you have a bad attitude towards the whole situation, and it just complicates what should be an otherwise fun experience.
Specify on the bad attitude. I do flirt and click and what have you. I just don't ask them out, especially since a friendship is worth more and I wouldn't want to ruin it. However, I never say that. I am open for it, I guess. If friends provide me with the revelations about the hints they are giving and what not, they might as well ask if people outside of the little spiel can see what's going on whereas the person who's supposed to see cannot. Are we talking about women who are already your friends? Being in the friend zone is something totally different. If they aren't, then your reason for not asking them out makes no sense, and I still fail to see why it's sexist.
Yea, ive done it a couple times, never in a harsh way cos its hard enough on the person being rejected, and there is no reason to make it worse. Ive ended up being just friends them afterwards anyway
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"]I know :lol:, it's just that's a pretty big generalization to make. That'd be like me saying all guys are jerks, understand where I'm coming from? :PSuzy_Q_Kazoo
Indeed. I am speaking from personal experience so I was speaking with regards to me. It does become annoying when you always seem to be expected to do it all, especially when the hints are so feeble that you don't even notice. Ugh. The revelations that friends provide me with are usually too late to boot.I can understand why you'd be frustrated. Ever think that girls are in a bad spot as well though? Anxiously waiting for a guy to make a move puts herself to be rejected just as easily. Also, I'm sure there are reasons. Some girls like to get first impressions of a guy with the manner he decides to court her. I don't like the norms that society has come up with, but there's plenty of those who defy that construct. If there's potential, one of the two will try and pursue that. You just need to fish around more, and keep in mind that it's supposed to be the fun stage :PI guess I'll continue fishing. Thanks. :-]
There's just too many girls chasing me, and it's really hard to reject them one at a time. They're getting on my nerves 8) But on topic: Yikes, never heard of that. And I can't do that myself.
[QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]Indeed. I am speaking from personal experience so I was speaking with regards to me. It does become annoying when you always seem to be expected to do it all, especially when the hints are so feeble that you don't even notice. Ugh. The revelations that friends provide me with are usually too late to boot.Hexagon_777
I can understand why you'd be frustrated. Ever think that girls are in a bad spot as well though? Anxiously waiting for a guy to make a move puts herself to be rejected just as easily. Also, I'm sure there are reasons. Some girls like to get first impressions of a guy with the manner he decides to court her. I don't like the norms that society has come up with, but there's plenty of those who defy that construct. If there's potential, one of the two will try and pursue that. You just need to fish around more, and keep in mind that it's supposed to be the fun stage :PI guess I'll continue fishing. Thanks. :-]
[QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]Indeed. I am speaking from personal experience so I was speaking with regards to me. It does become annoying when you always seem to be expected to do it all, especially when the hints are so feeble that you don't even notice. Ugh. The revelations that friends provide me with are usually too late to boot.Hexagon_777
I can understand why you'd be frustrated. Ever think that girls are in a bad spot as well though? Anxiously waiting for a guy to make a move puts herself to be rejected just as easily. Also, I'm sure there are reasons. Some girls like to get first impressions of a guy with the manner he decides to court her. I don't like the norms that society has come up with, but there's plenty of those who defy that construct. If there's potential, one of the two will try and pursue that. You just need to fish around more, and keep in mind that it's supposed to be the fun stage :PI guess I'll continue fishing. Thanks. :-] Oh, congrats on your upcoming 10k post party ;) Cheers.
It was a girl I knew at uni, and she was obssessed with me for two and a half years. Not only was she deeply unattractive, but she was also a complete psycho. I didn't need to think twice about rejecting her.
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"]I can understand why you'd be frustrated. Ever think that girls are in a bad spot as well though? Anxiously waiting for a guy to make a move puts herself to be rejected just as easily. Also, I'm sure there are reasons. Some girls like to get first impressions of a guy with the manner he decides to court her. I don't like the norms that society has come up with, but there's plenty of those who defy that construct. If there's potential, one of the two will try and pursue that. You just need to fish around more, and keep in mind that it's supposed to be the fun stage :PLIONHEART-_-
I guess I'll continue fishing. Thanks. :-] Oh, congrats on your upcoming 10k post party ;) Cheers. Thanks. I don't know what to do so I'll just continue posting as normal. :)
[QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"][QUOTE="Hexagon_777"]I wish I could reject more girls. At least that would be a sign of the blatant sexism involved with girls expecting guys to do all the work with regards to asking and confessing and such finally vanishing.Hexagon_777
Depends on the girl, not all are that way.Elementary, dear Watson. Isn't it supposed to be "Alimentary, my dear Watson?"
Yep did it a few times. Was already in a relationship and had no interest in repeating a mistake I made in the past by having more than one relationship at a time. Funny, it seems as though they only become direct when you're already with someone else!
[QUOTE="LIONHEART-_-"]There's just too many girls chasing me, and it's really hard to reject them one at a time. They're getting on my nerves 8) But on topic: Yikes, never heard of that. And I can't do that myself. Lol, wow! There must be some amazing looking guys in this forum. That's not fair. :(
[QUOTE="Hexagon_777"][QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"]Depends on the girl, not all are that way.Treesmash
Elementary, dear Watson. Isn't it supposed to be "Alimentary, my dear Watson?"Could be, but my version makes more sense to me going by the definitions. :P
my senior year in HS i went to a party. after a long night of partying i decided to spend the night. i was a close friend with the girl who was throwing the party. well, a few of the other people were also staying the night. so it was about 4:30am, and this gorgeous girl from a different school ( blond, slim and pretty blue eyes) asked to share the couch with me. i was cool with it. well she was heavily intoxicated, as was i, and she asked me to...well you know. i said no because of how intoxicated she was. i felt like a DB, but she couldn't even stand up on her own. she got pissed, and said that she's never been turned down before. i said it's not because i'm not attracted to her, but rather i'm not into taking advantage of girls while they are 3 sheets to the wind. when we crawled out of bed ( well the couch) she thanked me for being a respectful guy. that made me feel good, but i'm not gonna lie when i felt like i had passed up a great piece of @**. it could have been a lot of fun for obvious reasons, but i guess i was just raised to respect women. if she wouldn't have been so intoxicated i would have a different story to tell :P
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