How Do You Feel about OPEN Relationships?

[QUOTE="theone86"]

[QUOTE="GazaAli"]Its an abomination. I find it very hard to accept that some people believe it can be a part of a serious, mature and fruitful relationship. The whole concept is distorted.GazaAli

Eh, I dunno about that.  On the one hand, sometimes sex is just sex.  It's nice to have a consistent source of sex without the obligation of monogamy, and if both people feel the same way I see no problem with it.  On the other hand, I think that sometimes when people get into this sort of mindset they start disregarding feelings that other people might have for them because they're only concerned with sex.  It's fine if both people are only looking for something simple and uncomplicated, the issue is that a lot of times one of them isn't.

I really only disagree with the last part.  I've known several promiscuous individuals over the years, and many of them seem to be very well-adjusted people with the capacity to carry on meaningful relationships.  I know two women off the top of my head that usually had two or three "boyfriends" at a time, kept those relationships simple, and ended up in serious, committed relationships afterwards.  I also know several women who took things way beyond that and slept with anyone who glanced their way, ended up not liking where they ended up, and then committed to one person.  I also know some people who sleep around and seem dissatisfied, maybe they'll stay that way all their lives or maybe they'll end up in a committed relationship.  And maybe committed relationships aren't for everyone, maybe some people just like staying single and having semi-serious or not so serious relationships all their lives.  Yeah, open relationships have the possibility to be damaging, I already said how they can be primarily.  However, I don't think that being promiscuous early on in life leaves people unable to carry on whatever sort of relationship makes them happy.

I've never seen an open relationship last, and can't understand why anyone in a happy relationship would suggest one in the first place. To me, they're either the result of people being too immature or indecisive to commit to a real relationship, or they're the result of people wanting to break up out of a relationship without losing the sex. Either way, someone's going to get hurt.

I certainly dumped a girlfriend who offered me one. She was essentially asking for my permission to cheat on me. Bugger that.

[QUOTE="Aljosa23"]

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]My ideal relationship is for me to be able to sleep around yet still be committed to one girl.MgamerBD

That's a fine philosophy to have, but only if you want to limit yourself to women stupid enough to believe that.

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"][QUOTE="Aljosa23"]How is that possibru?

Planeforger

That's a fine philosophy to have, but only if you want to limit yourself to women stupid enough to believe that.

Then let her be stupid. I will still take care of her and love her. But I am who I am. I see no reason in not sleeping around. Women are beautiful. Its just not in me to have one.

No i dont like it.

It won't end well.

Then let her be stupid. I will still take care of her and love her. But I am who I am. I see no reason in not sleeping around. Women are beautiful. Its just not in me to have one.MgamerBD

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]Then let her be stupid. I will still take care of her and love her. But I am who I am. I see no reason in not sleeping around. Women are beautiful. Its just not in me to have one.foxhound_fox

[QUOTE="GazaAli"][QUOTE="theone86"]

Eh, I dunno about that.  On the one hand, sometimes sex is just sex.  It's nice to have a consistent source of sex without the obligation of monogamy, and if both people feel the same way I see no problem with it.  On the other hand, I think that sometimes when people get into this sort of mindset they start disregarding feelings that other people might have for them because they're only concerned with sex.  It's fine if both people are only looking for something simple and uncomplicated, the issue is that a lot of times one of them isn't.

theone86

I really only disagree with the last part.  I've known several promiscuous individuals over the years, and many of them seem to be very well-adjusted people with the capacity to carry on meaningful relationships.  I know two women off the top of my head that usually had two or three "boyfriends" at a time, kept those relationships simple, and ended up in serious, committed relationships afterwards.  I also know several women who took things way beyond that and slept with anyone who glanced their way, ended up not liking where they ended up, and then committed to one person.  I also know some people who sleep around and seem dissatisfied, maybe they'll stay that way all their lives or maybe they'll end up in a committed relationship.  And maybe committed relationships aren't for everyone, maybe some people just like staying single and having semi-serious or not so serious relationships all their lives.  Yeah, open relationships have the possibility to be damaging, I already said how they can be primarily.  However, I don't think that being promiscuous early on in life leaves people unable to carry on whatever sort of relationship makes them happy.

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]

BluRayHiDef

You are such a cornball.

I could never be in an open relationship.Ravenous_Joker

[QUOTE="Ravenous_Joker"]I could never be in an open relationship.GazaAli