Do you practice it or abstain?
I am thinking of abstaining.
@DEVILinIRON: Yeah, I forgot how to spell it. I wish us all a bright future without wacking yourself off.
The Bible doesn't mention it, so I am reluctant to say that it's a sin. I do it, but I am trying to quit.
The Bible doesn't mention it, so I am reluctant to say that it's a sin. I do it, but I am trying to quit.
Try mindfulness, or try to pm me, I can help.
One time I tried the nofap movement. I felt ok for a while but for one that doesnt have sex often in his life nofap is a terrible choice. Some people just dont have a choice but masturbate. It will get insane otherwise. When I'm with someone and have sex I usually stop masturbation
Nofap is only for those who can get any. For those who can't, its an ok substitution, just be careful, too much of a thing doesnt do good for you
@DEVILinIRON: Yeah, I forgot how to spell it. I wish us all a bright future without wacking yourself off.
I do masturbate, I don't masterbate. So no worries there.
Anyway you sound pretty uptight yourself, friend. I guess you better masterbate some more. God help us, if you abstain.
No woman would stay with me, I’m pretty much a jerk so I’m always alone. Answers your question.
I am 39 years old. I only had a girlfriend when I was 16 and it lasted for 2 weeks. It isnt an excuse.
Everyone does it, and everybody that says they don't are lying about it.
Lamprey, it is worth suppressing it. It destroys us the man.
One time I tried the nofap movement. I felt ok for a while but for one that doesnt have sex often in his life nofap is a terrible choice. Some people just dont have a choice but masturbate. It will get insane otherwise. When I'm with someone and have sex I usually stop masturbation
Nofap is only for those who can get any. For those who can't, its an ok substitution, just be careful, too much of a thing doesnt do good for you
Doesnt it make you feel like some animal that has no free will? Dont you want to have a free will and decide that you want to live your life without it?
Used to do it in my teens and 20's. Stopped in my 30's as my urges stopped.
Good for you. I think that I wont be doing it anymore. Yesterday, I abstained, it was hard, hopefully today, it would be easier.
As with all most things, it's healthy in moderation, unhealthy if taken to extremes (either abstinence or excess).
There are a lot of studies about sex (including masturbation), I think the most recent one I skimmed was that men should partake at least a few times per week.
I will say this: society definitely tends to approve of female masturbation, while disapproving of male masturbation. Women can talk about their vibrators and stuff out in the open, but the second a dude talks about his Fleshlight he is a weirdo 😋
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I am thinking of abstaining.
You do you (or don't 😋), but if you do abstain, be careful of the online communities around incels and "nofap". They tend to be filled with toxic people, specifically chauvinists, nationalists, and white supremacists.
It should also be noted that abstaining has zero scientific benefits. You don't "keep your energy" by not jerking off. You don't increase your testosterone.
One time I tried the nofap movement. I felt ok for a while but for one that doesnt have sex often in his life nofap is a terrible choice. Some people just dont have a choice but masturbate. It will get insane otherwise. When I'm with someone and have sex I usually stop masturbation
Nofap is only for those who can get any. For those who can't, its an ok substitution, just be careful, too much of a thing doesnt do good for you
Doesnt it make you feel like some animal that has no free will? Dont you want to have a free will and decide that you want to live your life without it?
Meh, no problem whatsoever with it. We ARE animals after all. We just think we're above because we can think but in several aspects in life (not just in sex) we are driven by our animalistic instincts, many times without even aknowledging them
All in all, better to embrace my animalistic instincts than not having any sexual aliviation whatsoever. Its easy for those who can get sex easily but many, most even, arent that lucky
@vatususreturns: I dont like the feeling of being an animal. I am going to only ejaculate when I feel I love someone.
I used to go to prostitutes, strip clubs, buy sex toys, watch porn and fantasize in a deviant manner. I am sick of being turned on because of stupid things. I am sick of what is happening around me. Recently they started selling vibrators in pharmacies. I am bombarded with women who keep exposing themselves in social media.
I felt that there was no end to it, so I thought to end it. It isnt me.
@girlusocrazy: I will post a few of them, and you tell me how I use them to massage my back and neck.
If you keep at it you can achieve a state called "nut clarity" and you will become smarter.
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/masturbation-effects-on-brain
@plasticpie:
I once had a bf who told me that he doesn't do it. I didn't believe him at first but then we moved in together and I found out that he was trying to stop because he thought I wouldn't be ok with it. It was silly and we had a good laugh about it but he still wouldn't do it afterwards. I guess it's harder to tell your significant other that it's ok to masturbate than I thought it would be. I dunno if it's my fault but he started getting really moody from then on. And as you'd expect, things ended badly. I think it should be ok for everyone to do it and you shouldn't be ashamed of it, no matter who you are or who you are with.
@nepu7supastar7: This what I choose not to masturbate:
1. It drains energy out of me and interferes with my workouts.
2. I am not an animal and I can choose.
3. I hate having addictions.
4. I want people who know me be proud of me knowing that I am pure.
5. Self-control adds to my self-worth.
6. I want to live by principles than by compulsion.
7. I want to save all my semen to my loved one.
8. I dont like it when I put no restrain on my desires. Limitless desires in the end cause a drop of energy (or depression).
9. Self-life should come from a virtue and not touch.
10. Abstaining gives me choice than take it away. You have no free will if you keep doing it for decades.
Apart from the fact that jacking off can reduce stress and put you to sleep well at night, it has no benefits.
@plasticpie:
I try not to tell people what they should or shouldn't be doing. It's your body and your decision to do whatever you want. It's fine if you choose not to do it as it would be fine if you chose to.
@dracula_16: while not directly mentioned in the Bible I believe it is part of the "sexual immoralities" that is sinful (though I would need to study the culture and terminology of that time to know for certain). Regardless the Bible does speak out on lust (Colossians 3:5), which is usually associated with masturbation.
For me this has been something I struggled with most of my life. I've tried to quit multiple times but it wasn't till I got married that I stopped. I should have stopped earlier as it had encouraged bad habits that I still struggle with and that has hurt my relationship with my wife.
2. I am not an animal and I can choose.
But you are an animal. Sure you can choose, its up to you, but that doesnt change the basic fact of life that humans are animals, its your nature. Your fears and desires will still be there, act on them or not. The animalistic instinct wont ever go away just because you decided to not act on it
@vatususreturns: They will stay. But I wont act on the emotions that they produce.
Follow of the instinct of love instead.
Learn to be spiritual.
The brain has ancient mechanisms. 100s thousands of years ago, that behaviour had its rational purpose. But now it is different, you can choose.
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