I can't get over the fact that I am ugly

I try, but I just can't convicne myself to be confident and kick ass while having appearance as mine. I'm gonna go ahead and classify myself as a little below average looking, not deformed or anything, but I have a skin condition called acanthosis nigricans. I've seen good looking people around me be flirted and hit on by girls .. I never had such a thing happen to me.

This inferiority complex is killing me, I wanna get over it and go and acheive something instead of lamenting over my loss.. maybe a hot personality or something but thoughts about my appearance is not letting me do anything except get angry.

I hate the fact that I cannot change my look, and I think I look terribly ugly both in mirrors and photos.

Goddamit I wanna do somehting about it but I can'!!!! I can't accept it either because I don't look like people around me and I'm always the least good looking in group photos, so unfair. I wanna be average.

Guys, I wanna know your thoughts about this.

Edit: I look like an having addison's diseaes, im bronze in color with hyperpigmented skin around joints and back lower body, its congenital but im the only one with a severe expression. I also have acne. sucks to be me.

You think that's bad? Remember when I auditioned to be David Hasselhoff's car?

Confidence is less what you look like and more what you're standing on. A good set of skills and accomplishments will get you farther than looks ever will.

Focus more on your good qualities. 

Men just have to look fit, so start doing some sports. As for your acne problem, it will fade over time. Just keep yourself healthy and have some patience.

me chana no like ugly get sparse vely bad ok but it alright dont be sad ok.

i'm so glad i'm not uglyJandurin

Whoa... it's that dude from Margaritaville.

Clothes make the man.

i drink my tequila STRAIGHT thank you sirJandurin

Your poor liver. I haven't been able to do that since the Great Tequila Deluge of 1997.

I thought Jandurin was dead. Or too busy masturbating to Game of Thrones.sammyjenkis898

I'm sorry that you are ugly but what you need to realize is that life just isn't fair for many people and people are not going to feel sorry for you just because you feel bad.

Be rich

There have been many people who have become great successes despite being shy.

Find something you really enjoy doing, and put all your energy there, confidence will follow.

Also many average and good looking people are shy so don't focus on looks for confidence.

There are people with bigger disadvantages than you who've made it through life.Barbariser

Change your attitude and your life will change. Forget what others deem as nice looking because that will only create dis-empowering thoughts (we are what we think we are). A shallow thinker can only find beauty on the surface because their mind isnt deep enough to recognize inner beauty and how that beauty translates and re-position itself from the inside to the outside.

Never let someone else tell you what to think is/should be/ can be, thats your choice. Regain your confidence, be happy to be you, the world is filled with followers and this may just be your blessing in disguise, your opportunity to find out who you really areunlike the pre-programmed people augmenting their god-giving bodies because of their blind low self esteem issues. Way too many people want to be like the ppl they see on the tel-lie-vision. Be you, and let that beauty shine thru, Im sure once your attitude changes your social life will not be far behind.

I'm sorry that you are ugly but what you need to realize is that life just isn't fair for many people and people are not going to feel sorry for you just because you feel bad.

pariah3

Who said I want people to feel bad for me?

If anything I want them to STOP feeling bad for me. I just want to know how would other people react if they were in my shoes.

Through my childhood I've been teased by other kids that I look ugly, maybe that messed me up mentally somehow.

Would love to know what a mentally strong and confident person would react if they were to be in my shoes.

Change your attitude and your life will change. Forget what others deem as nice looking because that will only create dis-empowering thoughts (we are what we think we are). A shallow thinker can only find beauty on the surface because their mind isnt deep enough to recognize inner beauty and how that beauty translates and re-position itself from the inside to the outside.

Never let someone else tell you what to think is/should be/ can be, thats your choice. Regain your confidence, be happy to be you, the world is filled with followers and this may just be your blessing in disguise, your opportunity to find out who you really areunlike the pre-programmed people augmenting their god-giving bodies because of their blind low self esteem issues. Way too many people want to be like the ppl they see on the tel-lie-vision. Be you, and let that beauty shine thru, Im sure once your attitude changes your social life will not be far behind.

bnarmz

Thank you, its just that I have traits that puts me in a non adaptive siutation. I just don't want to be inferior to others.

There was a fairly under average looking guy in the year above me in my college. He had a girlfriend, and I knew two of the girls in my year liked him. It was obvious why though. He was lively, funny and clearly didn't care whatsoever how other perceived him, so long as he was having a good time. He was confident despite the fact that he wasn't exactly America's Next Top Model.

You think that's bad? Remember when I auditioned to be David Hasselhoff's car?

themajormayor

Why do the people even take the OP seriously?

Many people in the world are ugly but so what tough shit. Many people in the world are ugly yet they don't seem to complain or whine about it and expect people to feel sorry for them because of it.

[QUOTE="bnarmz"]

Change your attitude and your life will change. Forget what others deem as nice looking because that will only create dis-empowering thoughts (we are what we think we are). A shallow thinker can only find beauty on the surface because their mind isnt deep enough to recognize inner beauty and how that beauty translates and re-position itself from the inside to the outside.

Never let someone else tell you what to think is/should be/ can be, thats your choice. Regain your confidence, be happy to be you, the world is filled with followers and this may just be your blessing in disguise, your opportunity to find out who you really areunlike the pre-programmed people augmenting their god-giving bodies because of their blind low self esteem issues. Way too many people want to be like the ppl they see on the tel-lie-vision. Be you, and let that beauty shine thru, Im sure once your attitude changes your social life will not be far behind.

SoSadLife

Thank you, its just that I have traits that puts me in a non adaptive siutation. I just don't want to be inferior to others.

"Inferiority" is only a state of mind, We only lack because we trick ourselves into placing limits on ourselves. Ex: people like to say "master your craft, get a masters degree, the student will be a master one day" but when I think of this term/word I can clearly see the trick. How can you ever be a master of something when you can always improve on something? Mastery is an illusion, a subtle trick that implements a limit. Explore your own individuality and have fun with it. Often when people disregard who they are and/or hate themselves their life starts falling part, they can't blame no one else other then the self...because they want to be someone else instead of who they are. What's considered cool will always be subjective, don't let that stress you out, people respect trendsetters and those that choose to be who they are. If they tease you, or try to make you uncomfortable its because they envy you and actually hate themselves, they need to beat down others in order to bring themselves up, but that's always backfires because it's not real.

You'll be fine, just raise your confidence and your ambitions will raise, soon after the universe will respond accordingly to your desires. You shouldn't even want to be in the company of those that think they are better than you anyway. That will only create more issues later in life. The world is vast and I'm positive that everyone in it will not look down on you. If anything, people are suppose to encourage others to be the best and we actually do this (one way or another) in the least use it to motivate you, it may take some time but life is an exercise anyway. Don't let the visions of others be your reality...

See a psychologist.

if you rly think you're ugly, you can at least fake being Not ugly.

put on a new hat, and change your clothes or something. get a new hairstyle or haircut.

start working out.

you can go from 'ugly' to 'ugly, but nobody rly notices it' type of ugly. 

TC, I'd say that this gif sums up your situation.

Why are ugly people so depressing? T_T

If I makes you feel better I think I am ugly too.

I think that if you're ugly then you just have to accept the fact that you just can't date a model or a celebrity.

The fact is that in life we want many things that we just will never be able to get. Many of our dreams will actually be crushed to powder and that's a fact of life. We just need to learn to deal with that that some things are just beyond our reach.

whats your height?

See a psychologist.

turtlethetaffer

They can't do plastic surgery.

Would you rather be a fish?

Would you rather be a fish?

The_Lipscomb

[QUOTE="The_Lipscomb"]

Would you rather be a fish?

TruthTellers

If you live in a country that has good healthcare you can fix your acne pretty easily with medication.  Go to the gym and take it as seriously as you would a job.   Eat right or at minimum decent.  After you get a little shape from the gym buy new clothes at a nice store and buy only stuff that fits perfectly and at this point it would be a good time to start working on a hairstyle.  Go to a nice salon.

You probably don't know what you really look like because you probably have never made an effort to look your best.  It takes effort for most people to look their best...