I cheated on my girlfriend...

uh, tell the girl you have a gf...

I would say hide it, but don't do it again.

If you tell your gf she will prob dump you.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, don't tell anyone you know about this, and sweep it under the rug. She WILL NOT understand, especially if she has any sense. What you did is wrong, in every sense of the word. Be ashamed.efrucht

that doesnt work becuase it ALWAYS comes back in a meaner and ugly way.

You dont have to tell your current girlfriend, just keep it between you and your ex, or you can be honest about it and see what happens.

Let's just hope your girlfriend never has seen School Days

(yes I always need to do a School Days reference)

dude you are AWSOME

for some reason thats my dream

get a girl friend then cheat on her........i know im a horriable person

Come clean and hope she leaves you with a functioning testicle.

I'm not going to question your love for your girlfriend, but seriously, that's unacceptable. I've been in the same situations these past couple months. I'm in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend. She's in Illinois, and I'm stuck in California until July. I've had about 5 chances to cheat on her, and I didn't. Why? Because I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman. Yeah, the pressure was there, and 2 of the times were with ex-girlfriends, but I resisted, and just went back to my room and solo'd it for the night.

Either way, you're screwed. If you don't tell her, the guilt will surely eat you alive, and keep you depressed. If you tell her, she probably won't forgive you, and rightfully so. She may continue the relationship, but it'd be extremely awkward IMO. I suggest you tell her now, instead of thinking about it. Because days will turn into years, and I'm sure you'll tell her eventually.

[QUOTE="efrucht"]If you want to keep your girlfriend, don't tell anyone you know about this, and sweep it under the rug. She WILL NOT understand, especially if she has any sense. What you did is wrong, in every sense of the word. Be ashamed.Tjeremiah1988

that doesnt work becuase it ALWAYS comes back in a meaner and ugly way.

Come clean and hope for the best.CJL13

Yeah, just rip it like a bandaid man! What's done is done, not it's time to right the wrongs!

I would say hide it, but don't do it again.

If you tell your gf she will prob dump you.

GTA_Fan360

Imagine how you would feel if your GF did that to you. I know it's a cliche but just consider it.

You should tell her, but if she has any self respect she will STRONGLY consider losing you fast.

[QUOTE="GTA_Fan360"]

I would say hide it, but don't do it again.

If you tell your gf she will prob dump you.

Apocalypse33

I would imagine she would get pretty pissed off if he did tell her

Come clean and hope she leaves you with a functioning testicle.

-TheSecondSign-

rofl!! :lol:

in my experience which is far from normal:

1. Never tell a girl your slept w/ you have a girl friend. They will almost always rat you out somehow if possible.

2. If she loves you she'll never believe it unless you say it, or you're caught red handed. So if you're going to stick to a lie stick to it.

3. Once a cheater always a cheater. Given the chance you'll do it again even w/ all the guilt.

Now on to my rant about telling her or not. Personally I'm a big fan of keeping secrets. The weird thing is those that are telling you to tell her the truth are actually being cruel, and selfish. The most common response is to tell the truth to make YOU feel better. Most of them haven't even considered her feelings, and how having her trust broken with affect her. As long as the lie isn't hurting her there's really nothing wrong with it. Of course if you continue your cheating ways she'll eventually find out, and she'll be hurt, and you'll still be a liar.

Personally I already know I'm taking a lot of things to the grave so keeping secrets from the people I live isn't a hard choice for me.

[QUOTE="efrucht"]If you want to keep your girlfriend, don't tell anyone you know about this, and sweep it under the rug. She WILL NOT understand, especially if she has any sense. What you did is wrong, in every sense of the word. Be ashamed.Tjeremiah1988

that doesnt work becuase it ALWAYS comes back in a meaner and ugly way.

AKA Karma

Let me put it this way...your screwed.Your guilt will eat you alive.Wolf-avatar

If you are certain she won't find out, you know you made a mistake and won't do it again and want to keep her, don't tell her.

Imo, screw the "you don't deserver her, tell her and break up" comments. We all make mistakes. If you aknowledge them and learn from them then good. Now if you do it again, then thats a different story.

EDIT: If you want, forget what I said. jrhawk42 said what I wanted to but a lot better.

in my experience which is far from normal:

1. Never tell a girl your slept w/ you have a girl friend. They will almost always rat you out somehow if possible.

2. If she loves you she'll never believe it unless you say it, or you're caught red handed. So if you're going to stick to a lie stick to it.

3. Once a cheater always a cheater. Given the chance you'll do it again even w/ all the guilt.

Now on to my rant about telling her or not. Personally I'm a big fan of keeping secrets. The weird thing is those that are telling you to tell her the truth are actually being cruel, and selfish. The most common response is to tell the truth to make YOU feel better. Most of them haven't even considered her feelings, and how having her trust broken with affect her. As long as the lie isn't hurting her there's really nothing wrong with it. Of course if you continue your cheating ways she'll eventually find out, and she'll be hurt, and you'll still be a liar.

Personally I already know I'm taking a lot of things to the grave so keeping secrets from the people I live isn't a hard choice for me.

jrhawk42

Funny, I feel the exact opposite. People who would keep such a secret only for their own well-being are more selfish than anything. When I tell him to confess his cheating ways to his girlfriend, I would want to see the girlfriend choosing whether to stay with him or not, which is definiately not being selfish.

Question: Is it wrong of him to dump his girlfriend? Or should the person that was cheated on do that. I would argue the latter as the former might make the girl feel she did something wrong. Either way, that relationship is over.entropyecho

I dissagree, colpletely.

It all depends on how the cheater handles it and to a lesser extend the person he/she slept with.

Just break up with your current girlfriend and start clean with someone else...

No one ever has to know about it.

Tell her you cheated. :| If you really love your girlfriend, you wouldn't have done it. So what if the girl came on strong? You would rather have her days there be better than not ruining your relaitonship? You should tell the girl too that you have a girlfriend.ayanami_rei

Nah... I mean, don't **** the ex again, if you love your girl you shouldn't be cheating on her. But if you tell her it's probably gonna cause a lot more problems for your relationship... I doubt you "love" her THAT much if you cheated on her in the first place, so that brings up the idea that you're not THAT close to each other, which brings up the idea that she may have cheated on you if she was in that situation, which ends with the conclusion that you probably shouldn't tell her.

[QUOTE="jrhawk42"]

in my experience which is far from normal:

1. Never tell a girl your slept w/ you have a girl friend. They will almost always rat you out somehow if possible.

2. If she loves you she'll never believe it unless you say it, or you're caught red handed. So if you're going to stick to a lie stick to it.

3. Once a cheater always a cheater. Given the chance you'll do it again even w/ all the guilt.

Now on to my rant about telling her or not. Personally I'm a big fan of keeping secrets. The weird thing is those that are telling you to tell her the truth are actually being cruel, and selfish. The most common response is to tell the truth to make YOU feel better. Most of them haven't even considered her feelings, and how having her trust broken with affect her. As long as the lie isn't hurting her there's really nothing wrong with it. Of course if you continue your cheating ways she'll eventually find out, and she'll be hurt, and you'll still be a liar.

Personally I already know I'm taking a lot of things to the grave so keeping secrets from the people I live isn't a hard choice for me.

-Jiggles-

Funny, I feel the exact opposite. People who would keep such a secret only for their own well-being are more selfish than anything. When I tell him to confess his cheating ways to his girlfriend, I would want to see the girlfriend choosing whether to stay with him or not, which is definiately not being selfish.

Confessing leads a great pain for the non-cheater, keeping it a seecret only encumbers the cheater. I don't see how thats selfish and confessing is not.

Tell your girlfriend, watch her leave, and then next time you're faced with a serious decision leave it to your head and not your penis.

[QUOTE="-Jiggles-"][QUOTE="jrhawk42"]

in my experience which is far from normal:

1. Never tell a girl your slept w/ you have a girl friend. They will almost always rat you out somehow if possible.

2. If she loves you she'll never believe it unless you say it, or you're caught red handed. So if you're going to stick to a lie stick to it.

3. Once a cheater always a cheater. Given the chance you'll do it again even w/ all the guilt.

Now on to my rant about telling her or not. Personally I'm a big fan of keeping secrets. The weird thing is those that are telling you to tell her the truth are actually being cruel, and selfish. The most common response is to tell the truth to make YOU feel better. Most of them haven't even considered her feelings, and how having her trust broken with affect her. As long as the lie isn't hurting her there's really nothing wrong with it. Of course if you continue your cheating ways she'll eventually find out, and she'll be hurt, and you'll still be a liar.

Personally I already know I'm taking a lot of things to the grave so keeping secrets from the people I live isn't a hard choice for me.

astiop

Funny, I feel the exact opposite. People who would keep such a secret only for their own well-being are more selfish than anything. When I tell him to confess his cheating ways to his girlfriend, I would want to see the girlfriend choosing whether to stay with him or not, which is definiately not being selfish.

Confessing leads a great pain for the non-cheater, keeping it a seecret only encumbers the cheater. I don't see how thats selfish and confessing is not.

It's opposing viewpoints, if anything. You and many others may see it as a better choice to keep it secret while I and many others feel that the girl has the right to be told about her boyfriend's activities so she's not "living a lie."

I guess we can only agree to disagree on this matter.

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Now on to my rant about telling her or not. Personally I'm a big fan of keeping secrets. The weird thing is those that are telling you to tell her the truth are actually being cruel, and selfish. The most common response is to tell the truth to make YOU feel better. Most of them haven't even considered her feelings, and how having her trust broken with affect her. As long as the lie isn't hurting her there's really nothing wrong with it. Of course if you continue your cheating ways she'll eventually find out, and she'll be hurt, and you'll still be a liar.

Personally I already know I'm taking a lot of things to the grave so keeping secrets from the people I live isn't a hard choice for me.

jrhawk42

What you did was dumb, but that doesn't make you a bad person like alot of these people are saying.

Also, in a sucessful relationship honesty is KEY. What your going to have to do is VERY hard, but I believe it's necessary if you really love her.