I don't care when people die

My dad died 4 years ago. One of my good friends died of cancer last April. My dad's dad died last december. My grandma died in February, and my Aunt just died a few days ago. I didn't care about any of their deaths. Maybe it's a bit extreme to say i didn't care, but I never felt sad. I could never bring myself to cry or mourn over them. And I loved all of them, it's not like we had bad relationships. Yet when I go through a break up I am way more affected. Does anyone else have this strange reaction to death?

No, I think that's referred to supressing your emotions..Or just being cold.

I don't know :/

Some people are not particularly emotional. It is not weird at all.

Some people are not particularly emotional. It is not weird at all.

LORD_BLACKGULT

My dad died 4 years ago. One of my good friends died of cancer last April. My dad's dad died last december. My grandma died in February, and my Aunt just died a few days ago. I didn't care about any of their deaths. Maybe it's a bit extreme to say i didn't care, but I never felt sad. I could never bring myself to cry or mourn over them. And I loved all of them, it's not like we had bad relationships. Yet when I go through a break up I am way more affected. Does anyone else have this strange reaction to death?
fluffy_kins

Alpha as ****... except the last bit.

No, it is weirdOrayus

i think you dont appreciate what they have done for you in their lives, and all you care about is yourself, which is why a breakup would affect you, because you actively seeked that person's attention, and you were upset when you lost it.

you are extremely selfish.

i think you dont appreciate what they have done for you in their lives, and all you care about is yourself, which is why a breakup would affect you, because you actively seeked that person's attention, and you were upset when you lost it.

you are extremely selfish.

taterfrickintot

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i think you dont appreciate what they have done for you in their lives, and all you care about is yourself, which is why a breakup would affect you, because you actively seeked that person's attention, and you were upset when you lost it.

you are extremely selfish.

fluffy_kins

[QUOTE="taterfrickintot"]

i think you dont appreciate what they have done for you in their lives, and all you care about is yourself, which is why a breakup would affect you, because you actively seeked that person's attention, and you were upset when you lost it.

you are extremely selfish.

fluffy_kins

i try :P dont take it personally, im a bit selfish too. it takes one to know one lol. but, if my parents or grandparents were to die, i'd probably ball my eyes out

What are your beliefs in regard to there being an afterlife or not if you don't mind me asking? Just curious :)

[QUOTE="Orayus"] No, it is weirdLORD_BLACKGULT

yes it is. This guy claims to love them and be their friends but when they past away he felt nothing. Hell, even some murderers feel remorse that they took a life. No he didnt take a life but he did lose a life. The idea is that a life was taken/lost and its not coming back and people feel sad about that. I would have to say I agree with the other poster in saying that you're probably really selfish. If its not you then it doesn't matter much. Maybe you andLORD_BLACKGULT canbe friends. I wouldn't want to be a friend/brother/father/grandson/nephew or whatnot with someone who didnt gave a damn if I died.

People die every day, feel for the innocent and cry for those loved. Don't spit on the ones that betrayed you and never hold a grudge with a man on his death bed.

yes it is. This guy claims to love them and be their friends but when they past away he felt nothing. Hell, even some murderers feel remorse that they took a life. No he didnt take a life but he did lose a life. The idea is that a life was taken/lost and its not coming back and people feel sad about that. I would have to say I agree with the other poster in saying that you're probably really selfish. If its not you then it doesn't matter much. Maybe you andLORD_BLACKGULT canbe friends. I wouldn't want to be a friend/brother/father/grandson/nephew or whatnot with someone who didnt gave a damn if I died.

cdragon_88

No, it really isn't. Some people do not wear their emotions on their sleeves. Others, like me, have also become emotionally deadened due to life experiences. Some people also just subconsciously repress their emotions, possibly due to shock. Those are all completely normal. Do not pretend to know which of these few apply in this case.

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yes it is. This guy claims to love them and be their friends but when they past away he felt nothing. Hell, even some murderers feel remorse that they took a life. No he didnt take a life but he did lose a life. The idea is that a life was taken/lost and its not coming back and people feel sad about that. I would have to say I agree with the other poster in saying that you're probably really selfish. If its not you then it doesn't matter much. Maybe you andLORD_BLACKGULT canbe friends. I wouldn't want to be a friend/brother/father/grandson/nephew or whatnot with someone who didnt gave a damn if I died.

LORD_BLACKGULT

No, it really isn't. Some people do not wear their emotions on their sleeves. Others, like me, have also become emotionally deadened due to life experiences. Some people also just subconsciously repress their emotions, possibly due to shock. Those are all completely normal. Do not pretend to know which of these few apply in this case.

I don't pretend to know anything that I don't but I do know this: you two are....weird. Simply state, he said "I don't care when people die". You don't have to cry/whatever but you have to at least feel or know you lost someone who's important to you where you actually "care" but you might not show emotions. If not, you might want to seek help, because you might have a condition and because it does sound like a sociopath in the making.

It's kind of odd, but I have a similar reaction. I feel remorse in my gut (if that makes any sense), but I have a hard time displaying emotions.

I don't pretend to know anything that I don't but I do know this: you two are....weird. Simply state, he said "I don't care when people die". You don't have to cry/whatever but you have to at least feel or know you lost someone who's important to you where you actually "care" but you might not show emotions. If not, you might want to seek help, because you might have a condition.

cdragon_88

On the contrary, you don't know that... Perhaps you should have read the original post. In addition to what you selectively quoted, you conveniently forgot to include this portion: "Maybe it's a bit extreme to say i didn't care, but I never felt sad." Not feeling sadness is a sign of many things, such as deadened emotions and shock, which are normal and natural. After experiencing many deaths, seeing many people die, does something to you. Perhaps you are fortunate enough to not have experienced such things...

But hey, I guess subconsciously repressing emotions due to shock, having deadened emotions and such is weird....

I actually have an honours degree in psychology, and am working towards a Masters. I don't see anything particularly unhealthy based only on the information provided. I think a possibly explanation may be that you feel a break up could have been prevented, while the deaths were unavoidable. I know I just suffered a breakup last week, it was a 5 year relationship. And I've been thinking back on if there was any way to prevent it. At the same time, I feel like those 5 years may have been wasted to have it only end like this. So there's a lot of emotions involved.

However, I lost my grandfather, an aunt, and a great aunt all inthe past year. The great aunt I barely knew at all, but the grandfather (the most recent of deaths) I have a lot of fond memories of. And while I can't say I don't care, the emotions aren't quite as intense. Because I know there's nothing I could do to prevent it, and the time was certainly not a waste, since I always knew he would die one day.

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I don't pretend to know anything that I don't but I do know this: you two are....weird. Simply state, he said "I don't care when people die". You don't have to cry/whatever but you have to at least feel or know you lost someone who's important to you where you actually "care" but you might not show emotions. If not, you might want to seek help, because you might have a condition.

LORD_BLACKGULT

On the contrary, you don't know that... Perhaps you should have read the original post. In addition to what you selectively quoted, you conveniently forgot to include this portion: "Maybe it's a bit extreme to say i didn't care, but I never felt sad." Not feeling sadness is a sign of many things, such as deadened emotions and shock, which are normal and natural. After experiencing many deaths, seeing many people die, does something to you. Perhaps you are fortunate enough to not have experienced such things...

But hey, I guess subconsciously repressing emotions due to shock, having deadened emotions and such is weird....

My apologies, my apologies. I didn't selectively quote and ignored. After he listed all of the people that died and said he didn't care, I missed that sentence you quoted since I was thinking in my brain WTF is wrong with this guy. Like I've hinted, being emotionless is fine, but seeing as someone died and is not a big deal is out of the question weird. I don't care how many people around you die, its still something to know that you lost someone. FYI I lost my cousin/my aunt in back to back weekends just recently, I've lost my two grandpa's at a young age, lost one of my friends in school--sadly I never got to say goodbye to her after high school.

My apologies, my apologies. I didn't selectively quote and ignored. After he listed all of the people that died and said he didn't care, I missed that sentence you quoted since I was thinking in my brain WTF is wrong with this guy.

cdragon_88

All is well. Such mistakes happen to the best of us.

Edit: Indeed, emotionless is fine. However, I will concede that not caring at all would be a bad sign (like that of a sociopath) . But when people do die that you care about, it is very taxing emotionally. After awhile, your emotions deaden, but you always feel that you lost someone... but what you do feel is not emotions, but feels more like a heavy weight inside of you, or like a hole... (of course, some people have different experiences from mine)

i think you dont appreciate what they have done for you in their lives, and all you care about is yourself, which is why a breakup would affect you, because you actively seeked that person's attention, and you were upset when you lost it.

you are extremely selfish.

taterfrickintot

This sounds about right.

i have the same attitude towards the death of relatives most of the time,as for me,i think i simply can't believe their death,i don't know how to describe this but that must be it for i tend to feel more and more by the time passes.

Given the amount of people that have died in your lifetime it sounds to me you have merley become jaded to the whole experience. Or you truely realize that things will go on, death is natural, and you enjoyed your time with this person and now it's time for that chapter to end. It's a way of always staying grounded and looking ahead to a brighter future.

That being said, being more upset at a break up than a death is very odd to me although it may not be. Im sorry to say but it does seem like a rather immature/selfish thing to be more upset at a break up then a family members death. Women will come and go as will your relationships, but you only get one family.

You're probably a sociopath but don't know it Orayus

This. This isn't normal or healthy.

[QUOTE="Orayus"]You're probably a sociopath but don't know it dpeter45

This. This isn't normal or healthy.

Some people just cope with death better, the one talking bad about about the person who doesn't cry is a much more disturbed person then the one who didn't cry.

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[QUOTE="Orayus"]You're probably a sociopath but don't know it rastotm

This. This isn't normal or healthy.

Some people just cope with death better, the one talking bad about about the person who doesn't cry is a much more disturbed person then the one who didn't cry.

people deal with it in there own way. Rest assured it is affecting you know and will continue to do so the rest of your life even if you dont notice it...

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This. This isn't normal or healthy.

Ace6301

Some people just cope with death better, the one talking bad about about the person who doesn't cry is a much more disturbed person then the one who didn't cry.

We seem to have a misunderstanding here, I was talking about the accusation of sociopath and I found this ridicoulus. Wether it is healthy or not is a different and more complex matter.

Why the sociopath statement is stupid,
TC clearly shows he does have emotions and he is concerned with his attidue towards the death of his familiy, these very features seem very unlikely in a sociopath. Furthermore sociapath is a very serious disorder that comes with alot of other 'features' then just the lack of remorse.

On the other hand, I shouldn't have acted to offensively, I'm simply annoyed by people spamming terms like that while they know nothing. It is insulting to both TC and people who frequently deal with the disorder.

Yeah i have a hard time caring. Mainly because i think they are better off. So its hard when you are around other people when there's a death news. Gets all awkward and sad. And i'm just stood there pretending to be.

Hm, this is interesting. And it is reminding me of the whole Casey Anthony ordeal. People thought she was sick in the head because she never looked all that sad about losing her daughter, and she didn't cry "enough". But the truth is, we don't know how your mind works, what you've been through...so I'm not going to judge. I am the complete opposite, though. I react very differently to death. But still. I don't know. Who's to say whether it's healthy or not..

I'd like to say I'm similar to you, but I'd be lying. I don't care a lot when people die, especially when its natural. But it really eats me up when their close to me and I could have prevented their death. Strange though, only two times has that happened to me and they happen to be cats. I guess I'm not that attached to the human race...

I am the same way. I used to feel guilty about it, because society deems that you need to cry and feel bad, but now I don't.

I try to look on the bright side of things. I miss my grandparents, but they lived over 90...that is a good, long life. I miss my roommate and friend, but I am glad I got to know him, and he lived a good life despite his illness.

I am the same way. I used to feel guilty about it, because society deems that you need to cry and feel bad, but now I don't.

I try to look on the bright side of things. I miss my grandparents, but they lived over 90...that is a good, long life. I miss my roommate and friend, but I am glad I got to know him, and he lived a good life despite his illness.

mrbojangles25

Oh for f***'s sake, stop with the armchair psychology people. Diagnosis like psychopathy/sociopathy are complex and depend on many different factors, not just one or two. There isn't a licensed psychologist out there who would deem the TC a psychopath/sociopath based off what he's written here.