Everyone has standards for pitying other people. It could be that you just don't think they're worth it. Then again, it could just be repressed emotions.
I cry at funerals even when I'm not that close to the person. But not so much for old people. I'm sure I'll be a wreck when my parents pass and probably even for my grandparents but for different reasons. I sometimes cry because the person who died was important to someone close to me, so I cry on their behalf almost. Kind of weird but there it is. People react to grief in all kinds of ways. Just because you're not terribly upset by it doesn't make you a horrible person. The topic thread does make it sound like you are a psychopath though.:P
My dad died 4 years ago. One of my good friends died of cancer last April. My dad's dad died last december. My grandma died in February, and my Aunt just died a few days ago. I didn't care about any of their deaths. Maybe it's a bit extreme to say i didn't care, but I never felt sad. I could never bring myself to cry or mourn over them. And I loved all of them, it's not like we had bad relationships. Yet when I go through a break up I am way more affected. Does anyone else have this strange reaction to death?
fluffy_kins
your last name would happen to be Bundy, Dahmer or Gacy?
i think there is some sort of unwritten rule book of what you are supposed to do and not do when someone close to you dies. like you're supposed to occasionally cry, not laugh at all for at least a couples of days, always talk respectful about the person even if they never showed much respect for anything themselves, etc, etc. if you don't follow these and see others that do, it can make you feel like you don't care or don't care enough. to me this is really nonsense. peoples have different ways to deal with that sort of thing and one way isn't better than the other. so i think i know what you mean. i usually don't cry or mourn too, it doesn't mean i don't care though, just find it's more productive to focus on the positive, like remember something they did or said that had a meaningful impact on your life and that you will probably carry with you until you die.
wooo I'm a psychopath/sociopath... (what's the difference between the two?). I'm gonna call everyone and let them know :D and then also tell them I won't care when they die. Thanks gamespot psychologists!
wooo I'm a psychopath/sociopath... (what's the difference between the two?). I'm gonna call everyone and let them know :D and then also tell them I won't care when they die. Thanks gamespot psychologists!fluffy_kins
I am and have been the same way...when older people I know or don't know died I don't feel sad, but I do felt really sad when hearing young kids died in the news. I have two kids myself, don't ever want anything happen to them.
Ya I feel the same way, I've only been old enough to remember by grandfather dying... I felt bad, but I didn't cry and I didn't mourn. I miss him sometimes but thats about it. Death is a part of life, accept it. If I hear about someone else's family member or friend or whatever, I honestly could care less. Some poeple make way too big a deal out of it... and they make the mourning process go on forever.
I'm the same way. My grandfather died, my ferret died, when I was 5 my cat died, later I found his mutliated corpse, and a girl died at my job before. Didn't feel a thing, except for my cat, but I was surprised I found him like that, I wasn't sad he died.
I never had any second thoughts about it, I'm not even afraid of dieing myself. I guess I just accept death as an ending to a story, and don't think much else of it.
It's pretty hard to believe someone wouldn't feel sad if someone they loved died. Why did you love them in the first place? You don't care that they have been taken away from you forever? If you can't feel sadness in that situation, I can't see how you'd ever feel sad about anything in life, and that isn't normal
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