I have an issue..help please?

1. We need pics of you

2. But only if you are really a girl

3. You could be looking to deeply into this

4. You aren't exactly an unbiased party

5. Since you are biased, you could be exaggerating(although it might not be on purpose)

6. Yes, I do like lists.

Ok so I'm a self-conscience girl, who at times can have pretty low self-esteem. I am always honest and I'm not stupid in the least. I am always aware of what is going on around me. The problem - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and four months now. He has hurt me quite a few times. I've noticed (through snooping) that he has told other women in honesty box that they are attractive. I confronted him and he said that he was just trying to make them feel better bc of being dumped or sad. I forgave him for it, but I can't forget about it. Everytime I see them I get really angry and begin to feel really low. What can I do to fix this? It's always on my mind. I keep comparing myself to them also. And to add to the situation, in the past if I go to his workplace with him, he tends to ignore me or walk in a distance from me unless no one is around. So he likes to pretty much kill my self-esteem at times. The question is with all of this how can I just not care? How can I forget all of that, stop being so paranoid and never think about it again. And be 100% so comfortable with myself that I don't care anymore.

Or am I just making to big of a deal about this? (Guys answer here)

Thanks.

batgirl1337

hey, chin up, and don't be so hard on yourself. If you feel that you are'nt pretty, then remember the reason your boyfriend dated you in the first place, and if this is'nt gonna work out, then so be it. your worth more, im sure of it.

[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"]Dump him and find someone who deserves you...especially if you mean he's hurting you physicallybatgirl1337

No, No, No, he never hurts me physically at all.

i think he DOES like you, but not to the point where you should have a relationship, or maybe he isnt physically attracted to you, but you probably are good looking if you kept him for that long.


just a thought.

[QUOTE="auron_16"][QUOTE="batgirl1337"]

Ok so I'm a self-conscience girl, who at times can have pretty low self-esteem. I am always honest and I'm not stupid in the least. I am always aware of what is going on around me. The problem - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and four months now. He has hurt me quite a few times. I've noticed (through snooping) that he has told other women in honesty box that they are attractive. I confronted him and he said that he was just trying to make them feel better bc of being dumped or sad. I forgave him for it, but I can't forget about it. Everytime I see them I get really angry and begin to feel really low. What can I do to fix this? It's always on my mind. I keep comparing myself to them also. And to add to the situation, in the past if I go to his workplace with him, he tends to ignore me or walk in a distance from me unless no one is around. So he likes to pretty much kill my self-esteem at times. The question is with all of this how can I just not care? How can I forget all of that, stop being so paranoid and never think about it again. And be 100% so comfortable with myself that I don't care anymore.

Or am I just making to big of a deal about this? (Guys answer here)

Thanks.

batgirl1337

hey, chin up, and don't be so hard on yourself. If you feel that you are'nt pretty, then remember the reason your boyfriend dated you in the first place, and if this is'nt gonna work out, then so be it. your worth more, im sure of it.

Thank you :)

np, im here to help!

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger

batgirl1337

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger batgirl1337

[QUOTE="batgirl1337"]

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger

Jandurin

Ya I'm with Jandurin, especially when the way you described yourself conflicts with your so called low self-esteem.

[QUOTE="batgirl1337"]

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger

Jandurin

Lies ! :cry:

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="batgirl1337"]

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger

flordeceres

Lies ! :cry:

[QUOTE="flordeceres"][QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="batgirl1337"]

And I guess you could say I look a bit like jessica Alba, except my hair is dark brown and my eyes are bigger

Jandurin

Lies ! :cry:

I believe 'it'. :o

I believe 'it'. :o

flordeceres

[QUOTE="flordeceres"]

I believe 'it'. :o

Jandurin

I believe you, too. >_>

I believe you, too. >_>

flordeceres

Ok only one person actually helped me...batgirl1337

[QUOTE="batgirl1337"]Ok only one person actually helped me...Jandurin

I found that wink to be very misleading. >_>

If this is legit he's completely bsing you and you should just move on.....being nice to one girl and trying to cheer her up is one thing..but if it's multiple odds are it's him not giving a rats ass about your feelings.....has this continued.....or was it a one time deal?.....

Omni-Slash

[QUOTE="Omni-Slash"]Jandurin

[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="Omni-Slash"]Omni-Slash

1-That he looks at better looking girls, it's perfectly normal, there is always someone prettier according to someone taste.
2-About the workplace, now that's not normal, you should go to it in a way that he can't do that

oh, weird. It was stuck on one (I even refreshed to check!). Anyway, the Link/tree one.Jandurin

and in regards to this issue....then I'd get over it until something else pops up...then if it does.....kick his ass to the curb...

Ok so I'm a self-conscience girl, who at times can have pretty low self-esteem. I am always honest and I'm not stupid in the least. I am always aware of what is going on around me. The problem - I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and four months now. He has hurt me quite a few times. I've noticed (through snooping) that he has told other women in honesty box that they are attractive. I confronted him and he said that he was just trying to make them feel better bc of being dumped or sad. I forgave him for it, but I can't forget about it. Everytime I see them I get really angry and begin to feel really low. What can I do to fix this? It's always on my mind. I keep comparing myself to them also. And to add to the situation, in the past if I go to his workplace with him, he tends to ignore me or walk in a distance from me unless no one is around. So he likes to pretty much kill my self-esteem at times. The question is with all of this how can I just not care? How can I forget all of that, stop being so paranoid and never think about it again. And be 100% so comfortable with myself that I don't care anymore.

Or am I just making to big of a deal about this? (Guys answer here)

Thanks.

batgirl1337

Confront your boyfriend about it and tell him how you're feeling and your thoughts on the matter. If he brushes all that off, then dump him. He could just not know you're feeling so paranoid, and that he doesn't make you feel good about yourself.

It sounds like he's a fair bit heartless or he doesn't pay enough attention to you, if he's going to write those notes to other girls and not send a lot of that kind of stuff your way.

It sounds like he's a fair bit heartless or he doesn't pay enough attention to you, if he's going to write those notes to other girls and not send a lot of that kind of stuff your way.

Lockedge

Btw this post is legit, just a few idiots are trying to say it isn't.batgirl1337

It's not nice to call us idiots for being skeptical, this is teh internets you know.

[QUOTE="batgirl1337"]Btw this post is legit, just a few idiots are trying to say it isn't.Dylan_11

It's not nice to call us idiots for being skeptical, this is teh internets you know.

[QUOTE="AC2010"]

1-That he looks at better looking girls, it's perfectly normal, there is always someone prettier according to someone taste.
2-About the workplace, now that's not normal, you should go to it in a way that he can't do that

batgirl1337

I know that, the first part, I just want to learn how to ignore it..

Accept it instead to ignore it, that's all I can say.