I left that b-word.

You did the right thing. Don't waste your time with that whore.

You sir are the meanest person I have ever encountered. You are so selfish that you didnt want to share your presents with her! Your so selfish you decided to turn the story into her cheating on you so you either wouldn't have to but a present or share yours. Honestly christmas is about giving not taking and you took that girls christmas away from her just because she was supposedly *going behind your back to be with the guy she actually liked.* I advice you beg for her to come back because you made a mean and horible mistake!StormzPoo

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"]EDIT: This may get a couple laughs, but I messaged the guy on facebook that she cheated on me with, and was like grown up about it. Told him that he and my gf have no respect and that he can have her.

But I had forgotten to tell him to get a haircut (he's a suczz bag and don't shower very much. Also his hair is down to the middle of his back.)

So I had left him a message that wen't like this

Subject: Also...

Message : Get a haircut.

rawsavon

Why would you be mad at the guy that she cheated with?
-unless he was your friend, what did he owe you?
-he is just another guy that found your GF attractive

TBH, I have never understood why people get mad at the person their partner cheated with (unless it was your friend...or, God forbid, your family that did it).
-just seems like misplaced anger.

Also, I have never understood why people want to 'tear down' the person their partner cheated with.
Obviously there was something your partner wanted/liked more in them than in you...
-so tearing them down only makes you look worse.
-I would want my GF to cheat with some hot, successful guy...if she left me for some loser, what does that say about me???

TL;DR version:
be mad at GF not the guy
don't hate on him, only makes you look worse

It's not like he didn't know her and I had been going out for a long time. He even claimed to be my friend at the time. So yeah, Im pretty pissed at that punk too.

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"]EDIT: This may get a couple laughs, but I messaged the guy on facebook that she cheated on me with, and was like grown up about it. Told him that he and my gf have no respect and that he can have her.

But I had forgotten to tell him to get a haircut (he's a suczz bag and don't shower very much. Also his hair is down to the middle of his back.)

So I had left him a message that wen't like this

Subject: Also...

Message : Get a haircut.

rawsavon

Why would you be mad at the guy that she cheated with?
-unless he was your friend, what did he owe you?
-he is just another guy that found your GF attractive

TBH, I have never understood why people get mad at the person their partner cheated with (unless it was your friend...or, God forbid, your family that did it).
-just seems like misplaced anger.

Also, I have never understood why people want to 'tear down' the person their partner cheated with.
Obviously there was something your partner wanted/liked more in them than in you...
-so tearing them down only makes you look worse.
-I would want my GF to cheat with some hot, successful guy...if she left me for some loser, what does that say about me???

TL;DR version:
be mad at GF not the guy
don't hate on him, only makes you look worse

I can tell you why, because you get f***ing angry.

Sounds a bit like what happened with me and my ex. You definitely did the right thing bro.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"]EDIT: This may get a couple laughs, but I messaged the guy on facebook that she cheated on me with, and was like grown up about it. Told him that he and my gf have no respect and that he can have her.

But I had forgotten to tell him to get a haircut (he's a suczz bag and don't shower very much. Also his hair is down to the middle of his back.)

So I had left him a message that wen't like this

Subject: Also...

Message : Get a haircut.

ShadowJax04

Why would you be mad at the guy that she cheated with?
-unless he was your friend, what did he owe you?
-he is just another guy that found your GF attractive

TBH, I have never understood why people get mad at the person their partner cheated with (unless it was your friend...or, God forbid, your family that did it).
-just seems like misplaced anger.

Also, I have never understood why people want to 'tear down' the person their partner cheated with.
Obviously there was something your partner wanted/liked more in them than in you...
-so tearing them down only makes you look worse.
-I would want my GF to cheat with some hot, successful guy...if she left me for some loser, what does that say about me???

TL;DR version:
be mad at GF not the guy
don't hate on him, only makes you look worse

I can tell you why, because you get f***ing angry.

Why? What's the point?
Why let your emotions control you?rawsavon

Not all of us want to be be Jedi.

Really though, some let, some don't. I would most probably beat the living snot out of the guy boinking my woman, but I wouldn't smack my b*** up for talking to other people. :P

So the guy is banging your girlfreind and all you can say is... get a haircut?

I bet he just stamped his little feet when he read that.

btw you should have just broken up with her after you got your presents, and then not given her the presents you got her. and then kicked her out in the cold like a boss.

That's good, you can never trust a cheater. You made the right decision TC

[QUOTE="rawsavon"] Why? What's the point?
Why let your emotions control you?ShadowJax04

Not all of us want to be be Jedi.

Really though, some let, some don't. I would most probably beat the living snot out of the guy boinking my woman, but I wouldn't smack my b*** up for talking to other people. :P

I fail to see any sense in doing that.
-he wanted to have sex with the same girl you did...what's the issue?
-he was not in a relationship with you
-he did not 'owe' you anything

At least to me, not being able to control your emotions is a sign of immaturity.
Also, at least IMO, if you are not mature enough to control your own emotions, then you are not mature enough for sex in the first place

[QUOTE="ShadowJax04"]

[QUOTE="rawsavon"] Why? What's the point?
Why let your emotions control you?rawsavon

Not all of us want to be be Jedi.

Really though, some let, some don't. I would most probably beat the living snot out of the guy boinking my woman, but I wouldn't smack my b*** up for talking to other people. :P

I fail to see any sense in doing that.
-he wanted to have sex with the same girl you did...what's the issue?
-he was not in a relationship with you
-he did not 'owe' you anything

At least to me, not being able to control your emotions is a sign of immaturity.
Also, at least IMO, if you are not mature enough to control your own emotions, then you are not mature enough for sex in the first place

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

[QUOTE="ShadowJax04"]

Not all of us want to be be Jedi.

Really though, some let, some don't. I would most probably beat the living snot out of the guy boinking my woman, but I wouldn't smack my b*** up for talking to other people. :P

UnamedThing

I fail to see any sense in doing that.
-he wanted to have sex with the same girl you did...what's the issue?
-he was not in a relationship with you
-he did not 'owe' you anything

At least to me, not being able to control your emotions is a sign of immaturity.
Also, at least IMO, if you are not mature enough to control your own emotions, then you are not mature enough for sex in the first place

Except for those will mental disorders I do not believe that to be the case.
Nothing I ever studied or saw ever pointed in that direction either...not one single study I saw.

People 'choose' to either control their emotions or to be controlled by them (except, as stated earlier, in the case of mental disorders or other forms of cognitive impairment).

But people 'choose' to believe that is not the case.
They choose to believe that they are not in control...that it is not their fault.
After all, what is easier to swallow? That you are to blame or that your emotions are?

[QUOTE="UnamedThing"]

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

I fail to see any sense in doing that.
-he wanted to have sex with the same girl you did...what's the issue?
-he was not in a relationship with you
-he did not 'owe' you anything

At least to me, not being able to control your emotions is a sign of immaturity.
Also, at least IMO, if you are not mature enough to control your own emotions, then you are not mature enough for sex in the first place

rawsavon

Except for those will mental disorders I do not believe that to be the case.
Nothing I ever studied or saw ever pointed in that direction either...not one single study I saw.

People 'choose' to either control their emotions or to be controlled by them (except, as stated earlier, in the case of mental disorders or other forms of cognitive impairment).

But people 'choose' to believe that is not the case.
They choose to believe that they are not in control...that it is not their fault.
After all, what is easier to swallow? That you are to blame or that your emotions are?

well emotions are a big reason, if not the only reason we choose to many things in our life. we evlolved emotions for a reason. not everything in the human mind is based on rational judgements, it's just how the human mind works. (I am not saying you shouldn't think rationally, you should when you can, or when you have the time, but sometimes you don't have time to rationalize and you have to make descisions based on your emotions)

oh, and btw you can't technically choose to beleive something or not. you can change reality around you to change your beliefs. but you can't change your belifs directly.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

[QUOTE="UnamedThing"] It's not always as easy as that. There are grown men who cannot control their emotions. Especially when you're passionate about something, be it a girl, sport etc.

Phaze-Two

Except for those will mental disorders I do not believe that to be the case.
Nothing I ever studied or saw ever pointed in that direction either...not one single study I saw.

People 'choose' to either control their emotions or to be controlled by them (except, as stated earlier, in the case of mental disorders or other forms of cognitive impairment).

But people 'choose' to believe that is not the case.
They choose to believe that they are not in control...that it is not their fault.
After all, what is easier to swallow? That you are to blame or that your emotions are?

well emotions are a big reason, if not the only reason we choose to many things in our life. we evlolved emotions for a reason. not everything in the human mind is based on rational judgements, it's just how the human mind works. (I am not saying you shouldn't think rationally, you should when you can, or when you have the time, but sometimes you don't have time to rationalize and you have to make descisions based on your emotions)

oh, and btw you can't technically choose to beleive something or not. you can change reality around you to change your beliefs. but you can't change your belifs directly.

If you want to bring evolution into the mix we can.
Prolonged anger (outside of the pertaining incident) serves no purpose...it does not help in any way. In fact, it serves as a hindrance to the self, their development, and their functioning.

So why then do people stay mad for weeks, months, years...decades?
It is b/c they choose to (for various reasons):
-they like being angry
-or they feel they are getting back at said person
-or they use it to mask other issues (shame, guilt, etc)
-or they just think they 'should' be angry
...w/e

The fact of the matter is that we choose to be who we are (outside of a given moment where the event happens)...people chosse to stay angy
[also not counting mental disorders and cognitive impairment as stated earlier]

If you would like to read the theory/some studies:
-see existentialism for the root theory and existential psychology for some specific studies on the matter
-a quick wiki of both will get you started in easy to grasp terms (for non majors)

Also, ITT we are talking about someone being angry at the guy who slept w/ his GF and later going to kick his ass
-I assumed it was understood that we don't control what we feel in the moment it happens/we find out
-what can be controlled is how we feel after that initial swelling of emotion

[QUOTE="Phaze-Two"]

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

Except for those will mental disorders I do not believe that to be the case.
Nothing I ever studied or saw ever pointed in that direction either...not one single study I saw.

People 'choose' to either control their emotions or to be controlled by them (except, as stated earlier, in the case of mental disorders or other forms of cognitive impairment).

But people 'choose' to believe that is not the case.
They choose to believe that they are not in control...that it is not their fault.
After all, what is easier to swallow? That you are to blame or that your emotions are?

rawsavon

well emotions are a big reason, if not the only reason we choose to many things in our life. we evlolved emotions for a reason. not everything in the human mind is based on rational judgements, it's just how the human mind works. (I am not saying you shouldn't think rationally, you should when you can, or when you have the time, but sometimes you don't have time to rationalize and you have to make descisions based on your emotions)

oh, and btw you can't technically choose to beleive something or not. you can change reality around you to change your beliefs. but you can't change your belifs directly.

If you want to bring evolution into the mix we can.
Prolonged anger (outside of the pertaining incident) serves no purpose...it does not help in any way. In fact, it serves as a hindrance to the self, their development, and their functioning.

So why then do people stay mad for weeks, months, years...decades?
It is b/c they choose to (for various reasons):
-they like being angry
-or they feel they are getting back at said person
-or they use it to mask other issues (shame, guilt, etc)
-or they just think they 'should' be angry
...w/e

The fact of the matter is that we choose to be who we are (outside of a given moment where the event happens)...people chosse to stay angy
[also not counting mental disorders and cognitive impairment as stated earlier]

If you would like to read the theory/some studies:
-see existentialism for the root theory and existential psychology for some specific studies on the matter
-a quick wiki of both will get you started in easy to grasp terms (for non majors)

Also, ITT we are talking about someone being angry at the guy who slept w/ his GF and later going to kick his ass
-I assumed it was understood that we don't control what we feel in the moment it happens/we find out
-what can be controlled is how we feel after that initial swelling of emotion

i agree on the whole, i just wanted to point out that emotions serve a purpose.

i agree on the whole, i just wanted to point out that emotions serve a purpose.

Phaze-Two

You deserved it for not being manly man enough for her. It all rests on your shoulders. If you were good enough would she have cheated? No. All you... you..... OOooOooooOoo darkfox101

Well if she cheated on you then she really isn't worth your time.CreepingDeath_

[QUOTE="darkfox101"]You deserved it for not being manly man enough for her. It all rests on your shoulders. If you were good enough would she have cheated? No. All you... you..... OOooOooooOoo -Big_Red-

Never tolerate someone cheating on you. They obviously have no respect for you, so why put up with the pain that they did it?

[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"][QUOTE="darkfox101"]You deserved it for not being manly man enough for her. It all rests on your shoulders. If you were good enough would she have cheated? No. All you... you..... OOooOooooOoo rawsavon

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="-Big_Red-"] Son.... What are you talking about?JuggaloRandall

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"] Her and I had some problems, I wasn't being a sissy, in fact I was always the stronger of the two of us. Dude she played me like a fiddle, I tried to make it work, she kept on cheating on me behind my back and was lying about where she was. She did that for 3 days and I had seen through every little hole in her story by the 3rd day. **** that girl. She took my downfall to her advantage. JuggaloRandall

She cheated, now she doesn't have you. She lost the game.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"] Her and I had some problems, I wasn't being a sissy, in fact I was always the stronger of the two of us. Dude she played me like a fiddle, I tried to make it work, she kept on cheating on me behind my back and was lying about where she was. She did that for 3 days and I had seen through every little hole in her story by the 3rd day. **** that girl. She took my downfall to her advantage. JuggaloRandall

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"][QUOTE="rawsavon"] Nothing you said seems contradictory to what I have said ITTCreasianDevaili

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"][QUOTE="rawsavon"] Nothing you said seems contradictory to what I have said ITTBaconbits2004

Yeah a few people, just check the rest of the posts.

You really arent going to feel 100% over it until you beat that guys ass. You may think you are over it but you wont have complete closure until blood has been spilled.

I am not suggesting you do so, violence is never the answer except on those rare occasions where it is the answer.

Edit: And i honestly wouldnt be that mad at him. He got played into cheating with her just as much as you got played into getting cheated on. You cant beat her ass so he ends up being a victim of circumstance. Oh well.

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"][QUOTE="rawsavon"] I am not saying that you should not be hurt. And I sure as heck never said you were a 'sissy'. I only stated that I never understood why people get upset with the person their partner cheated with (unless it was your friend or, even worse, a member of your family). 'You' should really only be upset with your partner that did it to you. Later ITT I agreed that sometimes people cheat b/c their partner is not giving them what they need, but I also said that this is not always the case.rawsavon

[QUOTE="rawsavon"][QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"] I was mad at him because he knew that her and I were daiting, and he i guess considered me his "friend". But he saw weakness in my girlfriend one night and took advantage of it.BoutDat26

[QUOTE="BoutDat26"][QUOTE="rawsavon"] I guess I would need to know the nature of your relationship before i could say if I would get angry or not. TBH, there are only like 5 guys that I would be pissed at them if they f***ed my girl (my 'best/true/real' friends) ...though part of me would still be grateful that they showed me her true nature I assume most guys are just looking to score and don't owe me anything rawsavon

You really arent going to feel 100% over it until you beat that guys ass. You may think you are over it but you wont have complete closure until blood has been spilled.

I am not suggesting you do so, violence is never the answer except on those rare occasions where it is the answer.

Edit: And i honestly wouldnt be that mad at him. He got played into cheating with her just as much as you got played into getting cheated on. You cant beat her ass so he ends up being a victim of circumstance. Oh well.

Alter_Echo

[QUOTE="Alter_Echo"]

You really arent going to feel 100% over it until you beat that guys ass. You may think you are over it but you wont have complete closure until blood has been spilled.

I am not suggesting you do so, violence is never the answer except on those rare occasions where it is the answer.

Edit: And i honestly wouldnt be that mad at him. He got played into cheating with her just as much as you got played into getting cheated on. You cant beat her ass so he ends up being a victim of circumstance. Oh well.

JuggaloRandall

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"][QUOTE="Alter_Echo"]

You really arent going to feel 100% over it until you beat that guys ass. You may think you are over it but you wont have complete closure until blood has been spilled.

I am not suggesting you do so, violence is never the answer except on those rare occasions where it is the answer.

Edit: And i honestly wouldnt be that mad at him. He got played into cheating with her just as much as you got played into getting cheated on. You cant beat her ass so he ends up being a victim of circumstance. Oh well.

Avistann

litsten to the man. it doesent sound like its worth it

[QUOTE="JuggaloRandall"][QUOTE="Alter_Echo"]

You really arent going to feel 100% over it until you beat that guys ass. You may think you are over it but you wont have complete closure until blood has been spilled.

I am not suggesting you do so, violence is never the answer except on those rare occasions where it is the answer.

Edit: And i honestly wouldnt be that mad at him. He got played into cheating with her just as much as you got played into getting cheated on. You cant beat her ass so he ends up being a victim of circumstance. Oh well.

Avistann

Well if she cheated on you then she really isn't worth your time.CreepingDeath_