I need help dealing with loneliness

I'm in a very lonely phase right now. My friends have been ignoring me for the longest time now (up to two weeks) and I don't even know what I did to them. They never answer their phones and they don't really even spend much time with me during the breaks at school. My mum and dad don't really acknowledge me anymore and I'm just an obstacle for them. My mum doesn't want to watch movies with me anymore (that was a major connection between my mum and I) and she now considers me a "horrible daughter". I tried talking to her and it concludes that I'm of no importance to her. I've been sitting in my room for the last couple of weeks trying to put up with the lack of communication with people and it's starting to feel like I've disappeared from the people around me. I understand what the other family members are going through because there's a ton of family problems floating around right now. I figured that a few of you here may have been in a similar situation, is there a specific thing you did to deal with it? Should I go see a therapist or something? I apologize for making a post like this, I don't know what else to do and I really, really appreciate the help, I don't know how much more I can really put up with. Thank you. :)

Either try to make new friends or just get over it. When you get older, you learn to entertain yourself much better. :P

Either try to make new friends or just get over it. When you get older, you learn to entertain yourself much better. :P

Pirate700

I don't know about the friends, but regarding the parents, are you showing any sort of motivation in what you're trying to do in life?ice144

i don't think you need to see a therapist, just try to make new friends! :)

Regarding the friends part where they don't spend much time with you, are you quite a quiet person?

And the mum thing, maybe those family problems are just on her mind right now. Dw about it. Try giving her random hugs. You'd be surprised on what a hug can do...although every time I give my mum a random hug she automatically thinks I want something :P

I feel you on this one, amiga.Is it just lonliness or do you know if you might be suffering from depression? As far as connecting with people (besides all of the wonderful people here who love hearing from you :P), have you thought about signing up for school or civic clubs? You could meet up with others who share your interests in a social environment and you wouldn't feel all of the pressure.

[QUOTE="ice144"]I don't know about the friends, but regarding the parents, are you showing any sort of motivation in what you're trying to do in life?lexika

Tell your mom to stop being a ***** then. Im serious. I mean you have good grades and want to be an architect .. Wtf is her problem. Sbe has clue what a horrible daughter is really like.

Really tempted to post forever alone meme pic atm . . .

Anyway I have been a loner almost my entire life and I have just kinda learned to except it. I have a couple good friends and thats good enough for me. I'm actually starting to like being a loner

Really tempted to post forever alone meme pic atm . . .

Anyway I have been a loner almost my entire life and I have just kinda learned to except it. I have a couple good friends and thats good enough for me. I'm actually starting to like being a loner

hedden93

I was in a similar situation for a few months, and what I did was: exercise, meditate, read, listen to classical music, and find the root of my problems. Once I did, I felt much happier and confident with myself--now I'm always out hanging with friends or meeting new people. Just figure out what you want in life, what's keeping you away from it, and how you can conquer whatever that thing is. :)

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Really tempted to post forever alone meme pic atm . . .

Anyway I have been a loner almost my entire life and I have just kinda learned to except it. I have a couple good friends and thats good enough for me. I'm actually starting to like being a loner

cd_rom

[QUOTE="cd_rom"][QUOTE="hedden93"]

Really tempted to post forever alone meme pic atm . . .

Anyway I have been a loner almost my entire life and I have just kinda learned to except it. I have a couple good friends and thats good enough for me. I'm actually starting to like being a loner

hedden93

[QUOTE="hedden93"]

Really tempted to post forever alone meme pic atm . . .

Anyway I have been a loner almost my entire life and I have just kinda learned to except it. I have a couple good friends and thats good enough for me. I'm actually starting to like being a loner

cd_rom

i've been in my bedroom for the past four years without any friends and not being able to talk to my family because of anxiety & depression, it was actually talking to people over the internet & doing lots of excercise in my bedroom that stopped me going mental.

you have goals so just stick to them, you don't want to get into a situation where you'e lonely and have no motivation.

theres quite a lot of forums on the net you can use to talk to people about loneliness, search for them on google.

Regarding the friends part where they don't spend much time with you, are you quite a quiet person?

And the mum thing, maybe those family problems are just on her mind right now. Dw about it. Try giving her random hugs. You'd be surprised on what a hug can do...although every time I give my mum a random hug she automatically thinks I want something :P

AudioPrison

I feel you on this one, amiga.Is it just lonliness or do you know if you might be suffering from depression? As far as connecting with people (besides all of the wonderful people here who love hearing from you :P), have you thought about signing up for school or civic clubs? You could meet up with others who share your interests in a social environment and you wouldn't feel all of the pressure.

snugglebear

Wow...that really sucks. Any idea why your mom would consider you a "horrible daughter"? It seems like it might be a good idea to get to the root of that. As far as your friends go...yeah, I can definitely empathize. There have been a lot of points in my life where I've had trouble connecting with people. I've generally coped by playing computer game and listening to music, but something tells me that this alone might not be the best solution. I think that finding some new friends might be a good idea (both for you and for me at this point in my life), but I know that can be easier said than done if you're not a very social person. Anyways, I'm sorry you're going through a rough time right now and I hope you pull out of it soon.

Either try to make new friends or just get over it. When you get older, you learn to entertain yourself much better. :P

Pirate700

hmm i thought of the last part in a wrong way. :P

I think seeing a therapist would be good even though you dont seem like you desperately need it right now. If you start now it could prevent the future depression that may insue if everything just seems to keep going in a downward spiral. Really i believe that everyone could benifit from therapy so if theres ever even a little thought that therapy might help i would def say go for it.

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Chickity_China

I don't really feel lonely much because I have the attitude if I can't help myself I don't deserve the company of other people.

Right now, the most family problem that my family is dealing with is my sister and her soon to be ex husband, apparently. After visiting some guy in Pennsylvania a couple of times, she just seems not herself. Her and I aren't exactly on sisterly love terms, either, whereas we used to be really close. :? I think it be because I got sick and tired of her telling me she's going to disown me for something her husband (boyfriend at the time) did and me hanging out with him one time (he wanted to get sushi, I'm the only other person who likes sushi, so he asked me to go. My sister hates sushi), and she threatened to disown me over Christmas for being "******" towards her three times she was over when I was already in a crummy mood to begin with. Now she snaps at me, gets all pissy when I make smart ass comments like I usually do, yet when I get pissy about it because she's not doing it right, she gets pissy and says I need to lose my attitude. When I missed my train in Washington, D.C., she didn't care and said that it was my fault for missing it and I shouldn't have done so (my mom told me the wrong time I was leaving, that stayed in my head, and when I went to look at my ticket, it looked like 4:(blank)5, so I couldn't tell if it said 4:25 or 4:05, thus end up missing the train and being stranded in Washington, D.C. until my parents got me).ayanami_rei

[QUOTE="Chickity_China"]

2013733739 call me ;)

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cd_rom

I don't really feel lonely much because I have the attitude if I can't help myself I don't deserve the company of other people.

rockerbikie

I don't really feel lonely much because I have the attitude if I can't help myself I don't deserve the company of other people.

[QUOTE="snugglebear"] Wait, getting sushi with her spouse doesn't sound so big of a deal. What was the other thing you didn't mention? If you guys were close, it seems weird that she'd try and distance herself from you so much. I'm in a similar boat, kind of.ayanami_rei

Screw your friends. Be more open to other people you're around. Plant some seeds. Eventually, you'll get invited to some things. Try to be content with where you are and be happy. People don't like being around depressed people.cd_rom

I don't really feel lonely much because I have the attitude if I can't help myself I don't deserve the company of other people.

I've dealt with the same issues. All throughout middle school, I was home schooled and only had one friend, my parents and I were getting into fights, and I felt like I had no one to talk to. I just wanted to talk to someone so badly.

I suggest finding new friends if old ones are ignoring you. Just go up to some one and say hi. Do things that make you happy, like listening to music or....playing video games :) Try to not think about the issues with your family and friends and try and be more self-reliant.

If you feel the same way I felt, like you need to talk to someone or are depressed, then I would honestly maybe suggest a therapist because feeling that you have someone there to talk to can make all the difference. Remember that there are people that care about you, we all care about you :)

I think we've all had those lonely times, you've just got to get through it and realize that everything will fall into place and you'll be happy again :)

You could either scour the Internet or become a workaholic.

[QUOTE="snugglebear"][QUOTE="rockerbikie"]

I don't really feel lonely much because I have the attitude if I can't help myself I don't deserve the company of other people.

rockerbikie

[QUOTE="rockerbikie"][QUOTE="snugglebear"] It's good that you're strong and don't need others to complete you, but I wouldn't say you were ever undeserving of other people's company. snugglebear

[QUOTE="snugglebear"] Oh. He tried to force himself on you? And she still married him? ayanami_rei

Well i felt like that for a while but then i thought of somethng that made it all better. **** them. Who cares what they think. They could die tommorow and i would laugh. So now i just smile and take every insult. Their going to die someday and so am i. Why do something I'll regret? So now life feels so much more fun.