I need some advice for talking to girls!!! Pronto!

HEY everyone, I'm in my first year of high school, and there's a girl I really like but I don't know how to talk to her... You know, I don't know how to sound cool when I talk to girls well in general, unless we're close friends. Whenever a girl walks by and says "hey" or something, I don't really know what to say, and I end up sounding like a dork... I just say "Hi." and I get all nervous because I don't want to mess it up and look like an idiot. Then they ask me a question, and I can't really get into a discussion, it's sort of like a "hi how are you" "I'm good" situation... There was this one time the girl I liked sat beside me outside in P.E. class when the teacher was giving out instructions, and we sort of started talking... *REBEL!* :P But I didn't really know what to say to her, so it just ended with "I'm good, thanks..." And then it's just over. I get all nervous because I don't wanna say something really dumb! :P What can i say so I actually generate a conversation with her, and don't look like a total super dorkus?? Thanks!! :Damirbrandon

the phrase "just be yourself" is like nails on a chalkboard to me.

Here is a copy-paste from a rant I made in TFG's Girl Help Thread

(Warning, unformatted rantings of a caffinated brain)

When people ask for relationship advice, the absolute most common response is "just be yourself"

And in my opinion... that is the absolute worst advice one could give. By "just being myself" I have ended up not getting any dates, or any girls interested in me on a deep level for 20 years and some change.

But what should the advice be that a questing relationship seeker gets. Well, I don't say "just be yourself" I say "be who you want to be"

They seem quite similar, but are very different. In no way am I telling you to put on a false facade when around girls you're interested in. that's worse advice than JBY. I say "be who you want to be" for one reason, and one reason only. Guys asking for relationship advice have been themselves the whole time.

Be who you want to be. Essentially means:

Ask yourself this question: If I were gay what traits would I like to find in a guy?
Buff? Personable? Funny? Intelligent? Kind? etc
Pick 3-4 traits and then mold yourself in your day to day life to exemplify those traits.
Want to be personable? talk to everyone you meet*
Want to be funny? Make everyone you meet laugh*
Want to be more knowledgeable about stuff? READ UP ON THINGS THAT ARE INTERESTING
Want to exemplify kindness? Volunteer.
You know the drill.

And the awesome thing about that, is not only can you use these ideas to pick up girls, you can use them in your every day life to great effect.

Essentially what I'm trying to say is generally improve yourself and people (primarily girls) and opportunities (with said girls) will flock to you.

"What the hell do the asterisks(for teh idortz out there this is an asterisk >*) mean?" Good question. The asterisks, if you'll notice are next to things that are about everyone you meet. Now I don't mean people you're introduced to at parties. People you meet EVERY DAY. People in line next to you at taco bell, people browsing the same isle as you in wal-mart, People sitting next to you at starbucks. Anyone And Everyone You Meet.

"But BD, what if they think i'm an idiot?" haha, silly, silly you. What are the chances of you seeing them again. If you live in any city or town that is on a map, you are likely not to see them again.

"Why talk to everyone." To get you comfortable in your own skin. A person should be comfortable as themselves before they seek the companionship of another. As many know, I'm fugly, but I'm confident enough in my personality that when I talk to someone, they will be generally interested. A cool fact I learned, People Like To Be Talked To.

Sorry... for some reason its not letting me put up spoiler tags.

Just walk up, tell her what you gamespot level is and then cop a feel.

She'll be all over you.

ElZilcho90

LAWL.

Here is my advice. I'm 22, and I've had my share of ups and downs when it has come to relationships. The best advice that I can give you is either one of two ways of approaching a woman. Now you can be yourself, and eventually when you find a girl, she will really like that. But then you can be fake, and this works but it's not always best for luring a girl that you're into.

You need to act like you DON'T care. I'm serious. Act like you are the most secure, confidenent guy on earth. Now this doesn't mean act MACHO and curse, spit and smoke. This means that whatever you say around a woman is fact; or at least that's how you present yourself. Act like your opinion is better than theirs is. By this I mean, say for example this happens:

Girl: "Hey Kyle, I really think that American Idol is cool, I hope BLANK wins."

You: "I don't like that show, it's just not my thing."

Girl: "But... you have to like it. It's like the coolest thing ever."

You: "Nah, I don't watch that kind of thing. So let's go for a walk."

Always initiate things. Be in control. You don't need to FORCE them to do anything, just be like, "Well I'm going over here, if you want to come you can, if not you can call me later, here's my number."

Just act like nothing phases you. Act like you know whats up, and you are in control over what you like, what you don't like. If you need more advice, feel free to PM me.

Talk, talk, talk....

HEY everyone, I'm in my first year of high school, and there's a girl I really like but I don't know how to talk to her... You know, I don't know how to sound cool when I talk to girls well in general, unless we're close friends. Whenever a girl walks by and says "hey" or something, I don't really know what to say, and I end up sounding like a dork... I just say "Hi." and I get all nervous because I don't want to mess it up and look like an idiot. Then they ask me a question, and I can't really get into a discussion, it's sort of like a "hi how are you" "I'm good" situation... There was this one time the girl I liked sat beside me outside in P.E. class when the teacher was giving out instructions, and we sort of started talking... *REBEL!* :P But I didn't really know what to say to her, so it just ended with "I'm good, thanks..." And then it's just over. I get all nervous because I don't wanna say something really dumb! :P What can i say so I actually generate a conversation with her, and don't look like a total super dorkus?? Thanks!! :Damirbrandon

play it cool and relax ...

if shes hot every boy who talks to her in the first years in high school will drool and be obvious and pathetic

place yourself away from the pack and appear different ... or not that interested (not rude though)

you might be surprised how she changes ...

if that doesnt work a good penis joke will do the trick ;)

Talking to girls/women is just as easy as talking to boys/men....

That said, neither is completely easy. You do need to, like, pay attention.

GS, we are the girl expertsWhicker89

Lol :) I clicked being an expert on talking to girls for obvious reasons ;)

Talking to girls/women is just as easy as talking to boys/men....

That said, neither is completely easy. You do need to, like, pay attention.

Jandurin

This.

meh....just be confident. If you potray your conefident she wont think your a loser and want to talk to you again. Dont worry about what you say just be confident about yourself and dont put yourself down in front of her. Also keep contact and dont fidget.