I never thought I would make one of these topics but I'm sort of desperate...

I have dated this girl for about 9 months now. She loves me very very much and I used to feel the same. It's just, my love for her is starting to fade and I know she will do whatever it takes to make our relationship work. I called her and told her the way that I feel and she is taking it very very hard saying things like "I can't live without you" or "I'm dead inside." It may be possible for me to regain my feelings for her but I don't know and the more I make her wait, the harder it is for both of us. I've never felt so terrible because she loves me so much and she's "never been through this much pain." I'm just trying to hold on to the hope that she will eventually move on and forget about me but she says that she will never. I assure you this isn't some puppy love. I'm also very worried about her health as well. Please give me some advice fellas.LikeHaterade

She sounds too dependant, she needs emotional and possibly psychological help. I would tell her parents or maybe consult a school counselor.

I knew this was gonna be a girl thread.

I would just leave her and give her time to heal

[QUOTE="LikeHaterade"]I have dated this girl for about 9 months now. She loves me very very much and I used to feel the same. It's just, my love for her is starting to fade and I know she will do whatever it takes to make our relationship work. I called her and told her the way that I feel and she is taking it very very hard saying things like "I can't live without you" or "I'm dead inside." It may be possible for me to regain my feelings for her but I don't know and the more I make her wait, the harder it is for both of us. I've never felt so terrible because she loves me so much and she's "never been through this much pain." I'm just trying to hold on to the hope that she will eventually move on and forget about me but she says that she will never. I assure you this isn't some puppy love. I'm also very worried about her health as well. Please give me some advice fellas.HardQuor

She sounds too dependant, she needs emotional and possibly psychological help. I would tell her parents or maybe consult a school counselor.

You need to stop dragging things out and split up, as at the moment your just giving her false hope that things can change and that the relationship will last. So, sit her down and tell her its over and if you think she might be in trouble, then mention that you've broken up to her parents/friends and say she's taking it badly and let them take care of her. If you stick around to help her then it will just be helping to ease your conscience and will only make her think that you must still be in love with her to hang around.

I can't tell you guys how much everyone's advice means to me. I just tried and tried to love her and she waited and I can't do it. I feel like I'm going to be punished for doing this. I've never felt so guilty before in my entire life. Thanks so much guys.LikeHaterade

Young romances are always hard, but it builds character. Trust me, this is something you both should be going through, it's a necessary experience.

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just for clarity, i'm saying you should break up. I wouldn't want you to misconstrue my post to mean that you shouldnt.

Make her hate you. Tell her you knocked up some other chick. Tell her you would rather kiss your mom. Whatever it takes.

Make her hate you. Tell her you knocked up some other chick. Tell her you would rather kiss your mom. Whatever it takes.

NearTheEnd

I wouldn't go that far. That could make her feel like all men in the future will betray her. Don't want to be the cause for what could be her future trust issues. Just be honest and sensitive.

I have dated this girl for about 9 months now. She loves me very very much and I used to feel the same. It's just, my love for her is starting to fade and I know she will do whatever it takes to make our relationship work. I called her and told her the way that I feel and she is taking it very very hard saying things like "I can't live without you" or "I'm dead inside." It may be possible for me to regain my feelings for her but I don't know and the more I make her wait, the harder it is for both of us. I've never felt so terrible because she loves me so much and she's "never been through this much pain." I'm just trying to hold on to the hope that she will eventually move on and forget about me but she says that she will never. I assure you this isn't some puppy love. I'm also very worried about her health as well. Please give me some advice fellas.LikeHaterade

You just got to be the man she really needs, not wants. I mean this by you standing up and being a friend but making sure she knows that it is over. Your going to feel guilty. She will make sure you will even if she dosent mean it. However like you said the longer you drag it out the harder it will be for the both of you.

You just cant approach her parents or her friends outright. You need to know which ones will be the ones who can be there for her and watch out for her but not make it even worse. That may just be the dad, or the mom, both, or just one of her friends. However YOU cant do it. The best kind of friend you can be right now for her when your leaving her in her eyes is to setup the chains of support around her.

That and when/if she gets over it, and gets better, make sure your able to be honest with her and give her some closure. There is always something that caused you to feel this way. If you havent told her truely yet, in fears of causing her more pain, then let her approach you later on.

Dont lie to her and make you hate her. All that does is seed something deep down in her. Because all the time you've been together will be shattered and turned into a huge farce. Which means she will have trouble trusting anyone else down the road. Get what I mean?

She just told her mom and now she's crying. She told me that she was looking at the medicine cabinet. I made her promise me she won't do anything to hurt herself but I just don't know. Is all of this my fault? I told her awhile back that I didn't love her but I told her that I would try and I just couldn't do it and she asked me if I loved her or if I ever would love her tonight and I had to answer honestly.Should I call her dad and tell him what's going on and to try and help her? What if I'm making a mistake by leaving her if it was still possible for me to love her? Thanks again for the advice guys. It means a lot.

[QUOTE="LikeHaterade"]I have dated this girl for about 9 months now. She loves me very very much and I used to feel the same. It's just, my love for her is starting to fade and I know she will do whatever it takes to make our relationship work. I called her and told her the way that I feel and she is taking it very very hard saying things like "I can't live without you" or "I'm dead inside." It may be possible for me to regain my feelings for her but I don't know and the more I make her wait, the harder it is for both of us. I've never felt so terrible because she loves me so much and she's "never been through this much pain." I'm just trying to hold on to the hope that she will eventually move on and forget about me but she says that she will never. I assure you this isn't some puppy love. I'm also very worried about her health as well. Please give me some advice fellas.CreasianDevaili

You just got to be the man she really needs, not wants. I mean this by you standing up and being a friend but making sure she knows that it is over. Your going to feel guilty. She will make sure you will even if she dosent mean it. However like you said the longer you drag it out the harder it will be for the both of you.

You just cant approach her parents or her friends outright. You need to know which ones will be the ones who can be there for her and watch out for her but not make it even worse. That may just be the dad, or the mom, both, or just one of her friends. However YOU cant do it. The best kind of friend you can be right now for her when your leaving her in her eyes is to setup the chains of support around her.

That and when/if she gets over it, and gets better, make sure your able to be honest with her and give her some closure. There is always something that caused you to feel this way. If you havent told her truely yet, in fears of causing her more pain, then let her approach you later on.

Dont lie to her and make you hate her. All that does is seed something deep down in her. Because all the time you've been together will be shattered and turned into a huge farce. Which means she will have trouble trusting anyone else down the road. Get what I mean?

Yea I know exactly what you mean. I'm scared that her mom might make it worse. Thank you.

She's acting emo so she can continue to suck out what's left of your already halfconsumed soul.

9 months and she already loves you that hard?? wow, you gotta be the greatest man in the world.:SOrianaDorta

Lol not really. But thanks though :)

She just told her mom and now she's crying. She told me that she was looking at the medicine cabinet. I made her promise me she won't do anything to hurt herself but I just don't know. Is all of this my fault? I told her awhile back that I didn't love her but I told her that I would try and I just couldn't do it and she asked me if I loved her or if I ever would love her tonight and I had to answer honestly.Should I call her dad and tell him what's going on and to try and help her? What if I'm making a mistake by leaving her if it was still possible for me to love her? Thanks again for the advice guys. It means a lot.

LikeHaterade

You dont love her. You just dont want to hurt her. You feel guilty and feel that she deserves more and are about to consider if her loving you is enough love for both of you. Well it isnt in the scheme of things.

You need to stop dragging things out and split up, as at the moment your just giving her false hope that things can change and that the relationship will last. So, sit her down and tell her its over and if you think she might be in trouble, then mention that you've broken up to her parents/friends and say she's taking it badly and let them take care of her. If you stick around to help her then it will just be helping to ease your conscience and will only make her think that you must still be in love with her to hang around.

ScarlettIvy

Thief is one of the best games ever.thegfl

Good man

I have dated this girl for about 9 months now. LikeHaterade

Just sit her down, face to face, and tell her how you feel. Explain to her, calmly and rationally, why it is for the best.

Tell her you understand how she feels but that you feel that it would better for the both of you if you both moved on.

She just told her mom and now she's crying. She told me that she was looking at the medicine cabinet. I made her promise me she won't do anything to hurt herself but I just don't know. Is all of this my fault? I told her awhile back that I didn't love her but I told her that I would try and I just couldn't do it and she asked me if I loved her or if I ever would love her tonight and I had to answer honestly.Should I call her dad and tell him what's going on and to try and help her? What if I'm making a mistake by leaving her if it was still possible for me to love her? Thanks again for the advice guys. It means a lot.

LikeHaterade

I can't tell you guys how much everyone's advice means to me. I just tried and tried to love her and she waited and I can't do it. I feel like I'm going to be punished for doing this. I've never felt so guilty before in my entire life. Thanks so much guys.LikeHaterade

well if your feeling guilty or sad about breaking up with her think about it maybe you do love her and your not relizing it.

Knew this was gonna be a girl thread.

Anyway, if you are feeling something's wrong, you're doing a disservice to her by holding on. Maybe it's as simple as just needing a break; some space from each other, or maybe it just isn't meant to be. But most assuredly, you cannot stick around her just because you feel sorry about telling her how you really feel. That will only complicate matters. If you feel concerned about her health, you need to be there for her as a friend and ensure she gets some help so she doesn't do anything drastic like stop eating or commit suicide or something like that.

Knew this was gonna be a girl thread.

Anyway, if you are feeling something's wrong, you're doing a disservice to her by holding on. Maybe it's as simple as just needing a break; some space from each other, or maybe it just isn't meant to be. But most assuredly, you cannot stick around her just because you feel sorry about telling her how you really feel. That will only complicate matters. If you feel concerned about her health, you need to be there for her as a friend and ensure she gets some help so she doesn't do anything drastic like stop eating or commit suicide or something like that.

JustPlainLucas

Thanks a lot for the advice. She told me that I'm either her boyfriend, or won't be apart of her life at all because she can't see me as a friend. So I'm going to try and talk to her parents so they can help her and keep an eye on her. Hopefully her parents will talk to me.

Thanks a lot for the advice. She told me that I'm either her boyfriend, or won't be apart of her life at all because she can't see me as a friend. So I'm going to try and talk to her parents so they can help her and keep an eye on her. Hopefully her parents will talk to me.

LikeHaterade

Dump her. She's not your problem.

Oh and, I've been there.

time will heal everything.

she has to be considerate of your feelings too, it isn't right to force feelings onto someone. continue to be friends ( if she can handle it ) and take it day by day. i'm assuming you're a teen or are in your early 20's, this is normal for young couples. we / they do not know what we really want yet yet so feelings can be confusing. just tell her you are not sure what you want in life yet and need to take it slow, good luck because this is not an easy thing to deal with. you have to be real with her and most importantly yourself.

time will heal everything.

she has to be considerate of your feelings too, it isn't right to force feelings onto someone. continue to be friends ( if she can handle it ) and take it day by day. i'm assuming you're a teen or are in your early 20's, this is normal for young couples. we / they do not know what we really want yet yet so feelings can be confusing. just tell her you are not sure what you want in life yet and need to take it slow, good luck because this is not an easy thing to deal with. you have to be real with her and most importantly yourself.

shyskillz

Thanks skillz. It's difficult to be real with her and myself at the same time because I don't want to hurt her. But as many as you guys have said, it needs to be done. It's just really hard to deal with all this guilt. She told me that she hated me and I wish that it was true. It would make it a lot easier. Thanks again.