I really hit rock bottom

I need somewhere to vent because everything is just going to shit for me my job is pissing me off home isn’t any better I have roommates that steal from me and are untrustworthy I just had breakup with my girlfriend and also I am super skinny bcuz I have trouble keeping down food and you know what the worst part is I can’t cry for some reason even though I really want to so I don’t know what to do right now now I don’t think I am suicidal but this keeps up I don’t know 😭

Sorry to hear about that. Truth is, most people hit a "rock bottom" at various points in life, and it generally is a temporary place to be in. Avoid the trappings of giving up or resorting to self-destructive vices like drugs and alcohol.

It's okay to be where you're at right now and the fact you feel like crap is a healthy sign you will find a way to get out of it and come up stronger.

It's okay to feel this way now, but don't give up.

@icrackurnuts: sorry to hear about your situation. Seems like you're going through some stuff.

I suffer from regular depression and anxiety; while our situations differ, I can empathize a bit.

I'm generally not fond of giving advice, but I will say this: don't make any rash decisions when you're sad or angry or otherwise upset.

Some things I like to do personally when going through a tough time are:

• Breathing exercises. I know it sounds new-age'y and silly, but it really does help.
  • Two quick in, long exhale. Good for resetting your brain in the moment. Your body does it automatically in times of high environmental stress, but you can do it consciously to have the same results. Two quick sips of breath in, followed by a long exhale.
  • Short meditation. Takes a minute or more, doesn't require much. Basically, just breath in for a few seconds, hold for a few seconds, then exhale for a few seconds. Repeat until your mind is clear. I like to visualize a beach with waves; wave comes up (breath in), lingers for a while in silence (hold breath), then wave goes out (breath out).
  • Touch yourself. No, not like that 😋 Human contact is very underappreciated, and for a lot of people we got a long time without a hug, snuggle, kiss, handshake or high five, a touch on the shoulder...anything, really. So when you're doing your breathing exercies, place your hands in front of you and put your left hand in your right hand and vice versa. Or place your hands on your arms in a gentle hug. It sounds really weird and does look kind of odd, but I swear to god it makes you feel much better.
• Practice gratitude. I don't mean like "Oh I am so happy to be alive" (though this is good!), but just small appreciations. Oh, what a nice sunrise/sunset. Ooooh, this coffee is good. Oh hey, those kids are having fun playing with eachother. Awww, what a cute dog/cat/animal.
  • Just take every small bit of joy, appreciation, and gratitude you can out of life, no matter how small or big.
• Get out of the negative feedback loop.
  • Your basic loop consist of "thought -> action -> feeling" that repeats back to "thought -> action -> feeling". You can interrupt it at any point to make yourself feel worse or better.
  • If you're going through a rough time, something I like to do is reset with breathing exercises. Then, with my mind clear, I swap in a happy thought. Maybe it's my niece and nephew playing, a nice meal I cooked, a good conversation I had with someone...point is, put something good in there.
  • Alternatively, after you reset, immediately get up off your ass and do something productive. Go to the gym, clean your room/home, do some yardwork, cook, go for a drive in the country...something.
  • Eventually, swapping in positive action/thoughts will become automatic and will help you get out of your funk faster, or at the very least make your lows less low.
  • Practicing gratitude reinforces this as well, as it makes your life full of positive examples to swap in.
• Forgive. Not just others, but yourself.
  • Feeling bad isn't necessarily bad, it's an essential part of the human experience. But allowing yourself to dwell on it--either by blaming yourself or others, and not moving on--is not helpful to you and those around you.
  • Alternatively, move on and forget if you can't forgive. If you can't talk to your roommate and if they are legitimately stealing from you, then it might be time to move on and remove that negativity from your life.
• Exercise and eat right.
  • Seriously, healthy body = healthy mind.
  • Eat vegetables, lean proteins, and otherwise wholesome foods. Stay away from processed crap.
  • You don't need to work out heavily, just go for a walk or find a halfway active hobby or activity (golf, biking, etc).

Anyway, sorry for hte long post. I've been dealing with depression for a long time now and my life has gotten much better. I've done a lot of therapy, tried medications, and those things helped to some extent. But at the end of the day you have to put in the work.

So allow yourself to feel bad and when you're ready, work to get over it. Hope you feel better!

/end preachy rant.

Make a plan to make things better. Start looking for a job that you would prefer and find somewhere else to live. Don't live with thief. In the meantime, lock up anything valuable and don't leave anything they can find out. Can you look your bedroom? I'd put a lock and perhaps a deadbolt on it so they can't break in when you're not there. As for relationships, they don't always last, and it's better to find out before it costs you. There are a lot of other people in the world.

Take it easy, don't let the little things get you down. It's all fixable. Good luck!

That's rough bro. Sometimes you are in a bad spot, but things don't stay the same forever. It might take a bit of time but this will be in the rear view at some point. I hope things get better soon.

As bad as things get, we can always fall back on eating the rich, so we got a lot more rock bottoming to do. Hail Santan!

Yeah, world messed up though, honest hard working people can barely get by sometimes.

Anyhoo, just don't tell me you voted MAGA/GOP, because if that's case I've no sympathy for people that revel in their lack of empathy. FAFO.

For last year I worked with guy living out of his car. Funny thing is he does 60 hour weeks at work so 70 hours of wages with overtime. Frankly I think he's stashing his nuts for retirement.

Anyhow, roommate situation sounds crap but yeah I remember that after college. Put locks on doors if you can, if not move out. If option to move back with family is there but the barrier is pride I'd swallow. Just, you know, try to be self sufficient as possible.

Don't let social media fool you people be walking around living bit up with smiles on their faces all day, they are all miserable and expending great effort making you think they're super happy. So, know if you sense disconnect that could be it. Many people bottle up their fear and anxieties and they explode when they lose their shit.

I’m sorry to hear about your troubles.

I don’t know what advice to give, aside something that has helped me through the hardest of times. That is, time itself. Things eventually pass, and I found that if you can hold on and get through it, things eventually will improve.

I know, not very useful, but there is strength both in the moment, and in the passing of moments. Hope things get better for you, man. Some good advice in here.

Hang in there.

Ah, come on now. It's probably not that bad. I remember thinking I'd hit rock bottom awhile back, but you know, life keeps moving on and eventually you find that wasn't even close to rock bottom. Things can get so much worse.

They can also get better too. And they do, if you'll let them. The great thing about being single, especially soon after a break up, is that you're free to make big changes. Honestly, every time I've been in a serious relationship, I remember part of me being so jealous of people who were free to do what they wanted, when they wanted. I know it's trite, and probably sounds kind of impossible right now, but you really do need just to roll with the punches. Maybe use the momentum to do something totally new and follow the path in life you'd always wanted to before you got tied into a relationship. All the best decisions I've made in my life came after something awful happened.

Things will work out - you just need something to work towards.

When someone mentions he/she isn't sure about suicide, it's time to seek assistance.

@icrackurnuts: How's it going now?

@girlusocrazy: still sucks i am planning to move out of where i am living bcuz my roommates are assholes and are just not respecting me or my property on top of that I been constipated for a whole week i know suicide is selfish but I am running reason I want to live I just really wanna cry and I still can’t

@MirkoS77: The problem is I don’t have people believe in me anymore especially my family they hate me and we are not on good terms I believe in myself but people keep screwing me over and making things worse

@icrackurnuts: I was thinking about how you were doing and I wanted to ask to see if you were doing any better. Damn, that really sucks to hear bro. I hope things get better. It sucks that you're feeling that way, I wish I could do something but I don't know how to help. Are there any friends or family you can connect with and let them know what you're going through? If you feel alone, you can text 741741 if you're in the US to chat with someone who could help, and who you could tell your problems to.

I know it seems rough sometimes but just because things are like that now doesn't mean it's the only way things will ever be. If you've ever been happy before in your life you know it's possible, and it can happen again if you make it through. I really hope things get better for you.