I seriously hate my dad

I can't stand my dad. He gets me stressed out all the time. I get a b+ he yells at me tells me that im worthless and never try my best. He always accuses people of the worst thing possible.

He's left me a sports games and stores with my friends while he was driving us when he went off and did cocaine then was too scared to come back and get us. He never thinks anything is his fault, but he thinks he is the reason for everything good.

He told me tonight that my sisters aren't even related to me. He is just an a****** to everyone in general.

He always goes on talking about something then suddenly like mixes into another subject then another and another and so on just talking at hours at a time about pretty much nothing. He says he quit doing drugs, but I still don't believe him even though everyone does.

One of my worst memories with him was when I was about 8-10 and I came home from school an he was there alone and he started yelling at me saying I'm a p**** and never stick up for myself. Most of my childhood he wasn't there he always worked far away and was away weeks at a time doing drugs and cheating on my mother. I never put him down for it or even said anything even close to rude to him, yet he always puts me down.

Recently I picked up smoking cigarettes and marijuana, he caught me smoking cigarettes and was very mad, which I could understand, but now every day he accuses me of stealing cigarettes but I haven't smoked in weeks.

His current girlfriend is really nice, I know she smokes pot, which I don't care about, but he always talks crap about how my sisters do it. He gets drunk and accuses her of cheating on him, and then drives off wasted when he has a suspended license.

I seriously hate my dad. I wish he didn't do these things.

He never thinks anything is his fault, but he thinks he is the reason for everything good.mattpunkgd

join the club, we all go through that crap with parents.freshgman

Your father could be bipolar.entropyecho

tell him he's a looser and a hypocrite for doing cocaine

EDIT: if you really want to break him, tell him that he's taking out his insecurities and feelings of failure in his life by telling you that your worthless for getting a B+ and the rest exc.. its really him feeling sorry for himself but putting his anger at you to make himself feel better

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]Your father could be bipolar.mattpunkgd

Is he taking medication or seeking counseling? I would wager that he is either oblivious to or in denial of his illness.

[QUOTE="mattpunkgd"][QUOTE="entropyecho"]Your father could be bipolar.entropyecho

Is he taking medication or seeking counseling? I would wager that he is either oblivious to or in denial of his illness.

tell him he's a looser and a hypocrite for doing cocainenimatoad2000

[QUOTE="nimatoad2000"]tell him he's a looser and a hypocrite for doing cocaineThe_Versatile

but as long as he keeps helping pay for university I'm OK with all of it.Dylan_11

join the club, we all go through that crap with parents.freshgman

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

[QUOTE="mattpunkgd"] He is.mattpunkgd

Is he taking medication or seeking counseling? I would wager that he is either oblivious to or in denial of his illness.

Well, that is good to hear. It is unfortunate that he takes narcotics, but given his condition, it is not surprising. I guess he is either taking Lithium or most likely Depakote. I'm not sure how he responds to you with regards to inquiries regarding whether or not he takes his medication, but it is extremely important that he takes it on schedule and does not stop abruptly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this in your life. I'm sure you care for him and worry about him but are just frustrated. I would recommend reading this book. It's kind of difficult to acknowledge his suffering especially since his behavior affects you, but he is not in control of his mood and personality. One very unfortunate thing about the disease is that you tend to hurt the ones close to you the most. I am sure he is different when he is not in a terrible mood swing; you have to do your best to hang on to those memories. It's really no different than someone who has heart disease or asthma, but sometimes we forget that because of their shift in personality, their acerbic words and erratic behavior - all of which hurt you very deeply. I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it. Also, if it becomes too much, you can always seek counseling. Don't forget to take care of youself too - people with a bipolar parent are more likely to have depression, cyclothymia or even be bipolar themselves. Try to be aware of how you feel and seek help if you feel you need it,

[QUOTE="The_Versatile"][QUOTE="nimatoad2000"]tell him he's a looser and a hypocrite for doing cocaineRed-Ravens

[QUOTE="mattpunkgd"][QUOTE="entropyecho"]

Is he taking medication or seeking counseling? I would wager that he is either oblivious to or in denial of his illness.

entropyecho

Well, that is good to hear. It is unfortunate that he takes narcotics, but given his condition, it is not surprising. I guess he is either taking Lithium or most likely Depakote. I'm not sure how he responds to you with regards to inquiries regarding whether or not he takes his medication, but it is extremely important that he takes it on schedule and does not stop abruptly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this in your life. I'm sure you care for him and worry about him but are just frustrated. I would recommend reading this book. It's kind of difficult to acknowledge his suffering especially since his behavior affects you, but he is not in control of his mood and personality. One very unfortunate thing about the disease is that you tend to hurt the ones close to you the most. I am sure he is different when he is not in a terrible mood swing; you have to do your best to hang on to those memories. It's really no different than someone who has heart disease or asthma, but sometimes we forget that because of their shift in personality, their acerbic words and erratic behavior - all of which hurt you very deeply. I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it. Also, if it becomes too much, you can always seek counseling. Don't forget to take care of youself too - people with a bipolar parent are more likely to have depression, cyclothymia or even be bipolar themselves. Try to be aware of how you feel and seek help if you feel you need it,

Yes I actually went through depression for a year, but it's getting better. I'm slowly getting taken off my medication. I always try not to take anything rude he says to heart, but it's really hard.

mattpunkgd

I'm glad to read you are taking care of yourself - that is very important. It most certainly is hard, especially since he is your father, but take it one day at a time. As I'm sure you'll agree, you both have good days and bad days.

I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it.entropyecho

[QUOTE="mattpunkgd"]

Yes I actually went through depression for a year, but it's getting better. I'm slowly getting taken off my medication. I always try not to take anything rude he says to heart, but it's really hard.

entropyecho

I'm glad to read you are taking care of yourself - that is very important. It most certainly is hard, especially since he is your father, but take it one day at a time. As I'm sure you'll agree, you both have good days and bad days.

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it.muthsera666

You're right, it is technically classified as a disorder, but with the stigma of mental illness still alive and well in our times, calling it a disease is more "digestible" in the minds of others and helps to understand it as a problem with the mind, not "bad manners" or "immaturity".

[QUOTE="muthsera666"][QUOTE="entropyecho"]I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it.entropyecho

You're right, it is technically classified as a disorder, but with the stigma of mental illness still alive and well in our times, calling it a disease is more "digestible" in the minds of others and helps to understand it as a problem with the mind, not "bad manners" or "immaturity".

[QUOTE="entropyecho"][QUOTE="mattpunkgd"]

Yes I actually went through depression for a year, but it's getting better. I'm slowly getting taken off my medication. I always try not to take anything rude he says to heart, but it's really hard.

mattpunkgd

I'm glad to read you are taking care of yourself - that is very important. It most certainly is hard, especially since he is your father, but take it one day at a time. As I'm sure you'll agree, you both have good days and bad days.

If you feel strongly about this, then you should talk to a psychiatrist about it. A lot of times people feel hyper and excited, especially when things are going well in life - that is normal. I think the main difference is that there is a certain cycle that you always go through no matter what the situation. Again, the best thing to do is talk to a professional openly and take it from there.

join the club, we all go through that crap with parents.freshgman

[QUOTE="mattpunkgd"][QUOTE="entropyecho"]

I'm glad to read you are taking care of yourself - that is very important. It most certainly is hard, especially since he is your father, but take it one day at a time. As I'm sure you'll agree, you both have good days and bad days.

entropyecho

If you feel strongly about this, then you should talk to a psychiatrist about it. A lot of times people feel hyper and excited, especially when things are going well in life - that is normal. I think the main difference is that there is a certain cycle that you always go through no matter what the situation. Again, the best thing to do is talk to a professional openly and take it from there.

join the club, we all go through that crap with parents.freshgman

Those darn ignorant masses, eh?muthsera666

Think about it, people have changed the name from Manic-Depression to Bipolar Disorder, not because the new term more accurately reflects the nature of the disorder, but because it's "softer on the ears and minds of others" - it's a euphemism in my opinion. Manic is close to "mania" or "maniac" and those words have negative connotations. It's a little silly, but semantics aside, psychiatry (despite being a relatively young field) has progressed immensely and that's a good thing.

Also when I do feel hyper, I talk almost non stop. Then I can't remember what happened 5 minutes ago.

mattpunkgd

What you are describing is called, "pressured speech" which is often associated with bipolar disorder. I would highly recommend telling your doctor this.

[QUOTE="muthsera666"]Those darn ignorant masses, eh?entropyecho

Think about it, people have changed the name from Manic-Depression to Bipolar Disorder, not because the new term more accurately reflects the nature of the disorder, but because it's "softer on the ears and minds of others" - it's a euphemism in my opinion. Manic is close to "mania" or "maniac" and those words have negative connotations. It's a little silly, but semantics aside, psychiatry (despite being a relatively young field) has progressed immensely and that's a good thing.

[QUOTE="entropyecho"][QUOTE="mattpunkgd"] Yes he takes medication.mattpunkgd

Well, that is good to hear. It is unfortunate that he takes narcotics, but given his condition, it is not surprising. I guess he is either taking Lithium or most likely Depakote. I'm not sure how he responds to you with regards to inquiries regarding whether or not he takes his medication, but it is extremely important that he takes it on schedule and does not stop abruptly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this in your life. I'm sure you care for him and worry about him but are just frustrated. I would recommend reading this book. It's kind of difficult to acknowledge his suffering especially since his behavior affects you, but he is not in control of his mood and personality. One very unfortunate thing about the disease is that you tend to hurt the ones close to you the most. I am sure he is different when he is not in a terrible mood swing; you have to do your best to hang on to those memories. It's really no different than someone who has heart disease or asthma, but sometimes we forget that because of their shift in personality, their acerbic words and erratic behavior - all of which hurt you very deeply. I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it. Also, if it becomes too much, you can always seek counseling. Don't forget to take care of youself too - people with a bipolar parent are more likely to have depression, cyclothymia or even be bipolar themselves. Try to be aware of how you feel and seek help if you feel you need it,

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

Well, that is good to hear. It is unfortunate that he takes narcotics, but given his condition, it is not surprising. I guess he is either taking Lithium or most likely Depakote. I'm not sure how he responds to you with regards to inquiries regarding whether or not he takes his medication, but it is extremely important that he takes it on schedule and does not stop abruptly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this in your life. I'm sure you care for him and worry about him but are just frustrated. I would recommend reading this book. It's kind of difficult to acknowledge his suffering especially since his behavior affects you, but he is not in control of his mood and personality. One very unfortunate thing about the disease is that you tend to hurt the ones close to you the most. I am sure he is different when he is not in a terrible mood swing; you have to do your best to hang on to those memories. It's really no different than someone who has heart disease or asthma, but sometimes we forget that because of their shift in personality, their acerbic words and erratic behavior - all of which hurt you very deeply. I would recommed working with him in dealing with the disease; you'll both get something out of it. Also, if it becomes too much, you can always seek counseling. Don't forget to take care of youself too - people with a bipolar parent are more likely to have depression, cyclothymia or even be bipolar themselves. Try to be aware of how you feel and seek help if you feel you need it,

[QUOTE="Red-Ravens"][QUOTE="mattpunkgd"] Yes I actually went through depression for a year, but it's getting better. I'm slowly getting taken off my medication. I always try not to take anything rude he says to heart, but it's really hard.

mattpunkgd

Eh...psychiatric medicine wasn't a positive aspect of my life, but that's another issue. You know, I don't really have any emotions towards my father, mostly because he died in a car accident when I was 3 years old. It was difficult for my family to live after that, but we got by. Still, doctors would ask me about my father often when it was so long ago, and his death was completely out of my control. I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but sometimes you gotta appreciate the good and overlook the bad in people.

[QUOTE="Red-Ravens"][QUOTE="mattpunkgd"] Yes I actually went through depression for a year, but it's getting better. I'm slowly getting taken off my medication. I always try not to take anything rude he says to heart, but it's really hard.mattpunkgd

Blog it. and or get over ot.

coming from experience..you dont need a dad!