To be brutally honest. I'm terrible with people. Unless they have like interests I find them immature and stupid at my age, and ignorant at an age above mine if they don't adapt to technology. This is my flaw. I am socially awkward. My views on just actions and rightful punishment for things also make others uncomfortable. What the key here is to do, and what I had to learn to do, was get more outward, ignore my personal feelings. I know pacifist people who live with their girlfriends, but if someone came in the house and raped her, they wouldn't kill them...me, I'd obliterate them in any means necessary, and I would probably enjoy it. This is something that even makes my girlfriend uncomfortable to an extent, in spite of the reassured safety this actually means. I'm being as brutally honest here as I can. People will seclude and attack those they feel are not right, unusual or misunderstood. It is a human defense mechanism to an extent, where we fear what's not understood or what's unusual to keep ourselves alive and functioning. The key here is misunderstood. What behaviors, mannerisms, clothing and hygenic patterns do you retain? The main thing here is how you view yourself.
True story from my middle and high school days. I moved a lot as a kid, and it left me making new friends a lot in strange (to me) places. I love metal, I used to do vocals for it, and I play video games as well as have a strange taking towards technology in general, it keeps my A.D.D in check too which is nice. The major problem here was that I didn't adjust quickly, I never do. I went 4 years without many more than one or two friends, which was sufficient for me, and I was made fun of by everyone else. I got beat up regularly by groups of people my age, which led me to be as hateful as I am now. Everything is cause and effect, but it's not only what you see, but what changes you. Growing up without my dad affected my knowledge of how to interact with other males to an extent since I had a lot more interests instilled by my mother. So I constantly was accused of being gay by my homophobic peers, to the point where they would beat me till I was bleeding, bruised and choking for air. I learned how to fight groups of 2 or 3 off and that helped me survive. So now, on to the interesting part. The homophobic peers became more verbally abusive of me, and when my true nature towards technology and my intelligence started leaking out more and more as I grew up, they began using that more, which was a nice change of pace I suppose, but it made my career decisions harder to make. This discouraged me from doing anything that wasn't pertaining to what everyone around me thought was "cool" or "normal" which set me to be very inward, not so different from yourself in this situation now. You're becoming more inward as days go by, you need to get yourself out there.
I eventually snapped one day, grabbed a chair, tossed it at a guy that was really bad towards me, someone who gave me numerous concussions and ridiculed me day in and day out, going out of his way to do so, when he caught it I slammed the chair into his teeth and persisted to fight him and then one of his friends after they realized what was happening. I am not proud of this moment, but it is the moment people started to see me as a freak, with some sort of mental condition. Truthfully I wasn't mentally ill, I was just pushed far. Eventually I started to get myself on track, and during grade 8 and 9 I got some new friends, started doing a lot with them, and eventually everyone started to see me more positively. By the time grade 11 came around, I was friends with MOST people I came in contact with, shy of those I fought with, and even a couple I did fight. At my graduation my yearbook was signed by almost everyone, and when I moved away, most of the people in my school of about 350+ were coming around to say goodbye to me.
What I'm trying to say here is, you need to find a small group you can really click with, once you do that, just start becoming a social butterfly, floating around to people, just mold yourself a little to blend in, but maintain your core values. If you show self confidence, and the willingness to take criticism to a positive perspective even if not directed as such, you'll eventually start giving off a good vibe, and people will be lining up to do stuff with you. I still hate most people, but I stick to jobs pertaining to my interests to counter balance that, so my coworkers will be interesting to me and I'll enjoy going to work with them, in spite of the other people I come into contact with that I don't like. Now I personally have done this, after seeing a counselor, and talking to numerous psychiatrists and self help professionals, and I am glad I took the initiative to change the situation. It really is about the subtleties.
This will not be a short process, took me 3 years to get to a place that I am happy with, and I've stuck to it for 3 years now. It's stressful being that guy that nobody wants to know, but if I could use anything from pop culture today that can explain exactly what you need to do, watch Dexter. Harry drilled it into Dexters head that he needed to mimic those around him and blend in, and become "average" so nobody would see him as a psycho and seclude him.
Protip: Be sure to be out there when you talk to others, communication is key. Be clear and confident. If you shake someones hand, be firm, don't crush them, but they should feel someone grasping back, it will show confidence, and instill a sense of "this guy isn't a wuss" in the recipient.
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